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Hand hold please?

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SunnySusan83 · 18/12/2022 20:26

Looking for a hand hold. My 8 yo daughter has clearly got flu and has been the illest I have ever seen her for 5-6 days. 40+ temps, cough and now full of snot. She lays on the sofa all day and now we're on day 5 and she says she can't eat, and that it hurts her stomach to drink. She was sick in the night last night very forcefully. It was green due to empty stomach with white chunks. She burst tiny blood vessels around her mouth being sick. Usually this happens around her eyes. It caught us by surprise as her first bought it sickness. I phoned 111 both yesterday and after she'd been sick today. Both times they've said it's flu and to manage at home.

Earlier on she seemed a bit perkier and got out of bed to lie on the sofa, she said she felt better for a while but then had a sudden bout of forceful sickness again. This was completely unexpected and she hasn't eaten any thing today, although we've managed to keep fluids up with little sips.

When she was sick it was white / clear froth but then tiny black / dark red blood clots / specks. This is clearly what they were. There weren't many, maybe 20-30 floating around, so it didn't make up most of the vomit - although there wasn't much.

Of course I phoned 111 straight back and have now been waiting 4 hours for a call back. They are extremely busy and are saying they may not even be able to get to us throughout the night.

Online there are varying bits of information. Some saying medical emergency, some saying viral. She is now sleeping peacefully as absolutely exhausted. She says her tummy hurts when you ask but isn't clawing the walls or crying, she's able to rest and chat and smile a bit - but eating is a hard no and drinking only because I tell her to.

It's a scary time at the moment and feels like it's so very hard to access help. I'm doing my best listening to 111 as I know the local children's hospital is saying an 8 hour wait and she's so tired and weak I really don't want to do that unless I have to.

Can anyone provide reassurance if their child has had this? Obviously awaiting 111, will call the GP tomorrow and if it happens again tonight will be straight to A&E. please help 😓😓😓😓😓

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miniworry · 19/12/2022 00:30

Sending a huge hug and handhold; when your children are poorly it's just awful.

You've done the right thing taking her to A&E as like PP have said you are in the best place if she's dehydrated from all the sickness.

Please keep us updated and I'm sure there's a fair few of us on here through the night who can keep you company!

thaegumathteth · 19/12/2022 00:33

It might be that her lymph nodes are swollen and making her sick or if she has tonsillitis for example that can cause vomiting and feeling dreadful. Try not to catastrophise. (I'm a hypocrite because I always do!)

SunnySusan83 · 19/12/2022 00:36

I'm trying 😭 I think her tonsils look ok, she only finished antibiotics for that last Monday ☹️ and they look ok, then this kicked off Wednesday. Im so exhausted 😩

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Luckymummytoone · 19/12/2022 00:54

Sending hugs op. Know how awful that wait is - have they seen her anymore yet? X

SunnySusan83 · 19/12/2022 00:55

No nothing yet. Wait time is now 6.5 hours ☹️

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Greyarea12 · 19/12/2022 00:56

Aww I'm so sorry you & your dd are going through this. I hope your dd gets seen soon & is the mend soon. Sending love and healing thoughts.

EllaB22 · 19/12/2022 01:00

Thinking of you OP x

Wagsandclaws · 19/12/2022 01:08

Blimey op you are certainly going through it with her.

I'm so sorry about your anxiety, you are definitely in the right place.

I hope she feels better very soon. Flowers

Round123 · 19/12/2022 01:17

Sending massive hugs x I have been in utc and gp twice this week with my 6month old struggling to breathe. Xxxxxxx talk with your daughter about all the things you’re going to do when she’s better:) x

Therira · 19/12/2022 01:47

Handhold xx
you're in the right place, horrible wait time. But definitely the right choice. Hope you get some answers soon. Lots of hugs.x

mackthepony · 19/12/2022 01:49

Massive hugs you and your DD, you're in the right place 💐

Goodluckanddontfuckitup · 19/12/2022 01:50

SunnySusan83 · 18/12/2022 23:25

I've got PTSD from previous hospital stays with her as pathetic as that sounds. So I'm having real trouble not crying and remaining calm. I'm so worried about her as she was already undergoing tests for some scary things x

OP please tell the doctors and nurses treating DD about this. I thought they'd laugh at me when newborn DS2 was admitted after going through the same things with DS1 as a baby. I was an absolute mess. Glad I did it though and the staff were even lovelier afterwards. I think it helps if they know you've got experience of your kiddies being in hospital. Less talking around the issue and more straight to the point. You're not pathetic at all. Do you have someone who can bring you things if needed? MASSIVE handhold. 💐

SunnySusan83 · 19/12/2022 01:58

Thanks all. Still waiting, little one is drifting in and out of sleep every few mins she's so tired. There was more vomit, with more blood bits and I showed the nurse but she wasn't particularly interested or worried. I don't really recognise many people here now but I know they don't see based on the time you arrived 😞

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Potato28 · 19/12/2022 01:59

Hope you are seen soon

Unsureofitall · 19/12/2022 02:08

Good sign that the nurse didn't seem too worried. My DD once vomited blood bits before. It worried me sooo much but she was fine in the end. They thought she may have had a nosebleed but not actually bleed out. All was okay in the end.

Bagpuss2022 · 19/12/2022 02:27

Hope you get seen soon and DD is on the mend soon , NHS is broke my friend had to call 999 for her 8 week old baby yesterday and it took them 7 minutes to answer the call luckily the ambulance was quick and she’s on the ward now being well looked after.

SkylightSkylight · 19/12/2022 02:45

Hi hand 🤚🏼 fresh hand for holding.

How are you both doing?

Have you been able to nab a seat yet where DD can sit on your lap? Have a cuddle?

I hope they see DD to do tests etc soon & either get her into a bed on a ward or sent home. Do you have a DH/DW/partner or other support if not?

its a very scary feeling, I wish I could be there with you, but I'm here with you 🤚🏼🤚🏼😘

Mylittlepea · 19/12/2022 03:17

Hi….another hand here. Sending you love, it’s so scary when you have to take your child to A&E, especially alone in the middle of the night. You are in the right place, hang in there xxx

Tabitha888 · 19/12/2022 03:38

Just done a night feed and though I'd check in. Sorry you are still waiting on. Absolutely awful. Keep strong, it's the best place for her xxx

SunnySusan83 · 19/12/2022 03:44

Hi all, have been seen but don't know what to think really. They don't seem to think anything of the vomit, despite everywhere saying it's a red flag. It's happening a lot now too as she can't keep even fluids down. She's had some bloods so now we've been put back in the waiting room for 2 hours. She's exhausted 😓

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Tabitha888 · 19/12/2022 04:09

Fingers crossed this is over for you soon xx

zoopigi · 19/12/2022 04:23

Handhold from me. Hospital with little ones is so draining, with all the worrying. She is in the right place, and I hope they admit her or discharge her soon so you can both be more comfortable. To me ist seems crazy that they haven't put a drip on her to stop the vomiting and replace fluids.

Bagpuss2022 · 19/12/2022 04:31

If she keeps being sick surly they need to admit her for fluids and monitoring have been there many times with a child with a chronic illness it’s so stressful and draining

SunnySusan83 · 19/12/2022 04:32

I would have thought so too but they're basically going to discharge until she's severely dehydrated rather than treat it when it's mild, we've been here before with her, but we didn't have 10 hours to wait each time last time 😓

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everydaysabeginning · 19/12/2022 04:51

Just to say thinking of you both. Hope you get her seen to properly very soon x

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