Can I give my nearly naked nanny notice...advice?

[helpwithnanny]

As some of you will know from my previous thread I have been having 'issues' about my live in nanny wandering about half starkers all the time with norks on full display!! She has had a verbal and written warning but hasn't managed to put them away pull up her socks and Im feeling the need to quit and think alternatives. I have been chatting to a lovely lady locally who is a childminder. She is fab. Not only could she have them both for exactly the right hours but she will cost us WAY less than the current nanny and of course offer the benefit of not having a live in hanging about!
What Im asking I guess if what do you think is the best way to break the news to the ex nanny?
I could if I was that way inclined issue another written warning for the norks hanging out at which point I could sack her! (Im assuming anyway as contract states 1 verbal, 2 written). Im tempted as she has been a bit of a moo. But at the same time she is generally a nice girl and this option leaves her homeless (although her parents and boyfriend are both living locally) and I don't want to ruin the poor girls career by sacking her blah blah
At the same time if I give her notice Im stuck with her norks in my face for another month!
I guess I could pay her off but thats a hell of a lot of money!
Cant think of a better way of doing it, being legal and not costing me a fortune.

HELP!

K.

can you not make her redundant, ie you only need childcare now and not the extra nanny duties that come with a live in nanny?

good alliteration there. now will go read your thread.

I'd sack her, do it by the books, pay her for the month if you feel bad and can afford it.

I ought to point out that I have no experience of nannies and know nothing about emoyment issues either, but it would get on my tits seeing her tits in my home iykwim

Would the money you'd save using the childminder help cover the expense of paying her off?

Is it just the norks, or are they a symptom of bigger problems with the working relationship and childcare?

Sorry, don't mean to sound all analytical, just trying to understand the root of the problem. Mind you, norks out would annoy me, especially if she's already been asked to put them away.

how hard can it be not to wander around with your tits out?! Does she have spectacular norks or something?

Blimey, I remember your other thread, and can't believe nanny is still in situ.

You are MUCH nicer than I would have been.

And I'm QUITE nice.

Should add it isn't 'JUST' the norks that are the issue. Her general attitude has been bad recently and she just hasn't been making any effort to do anything interesting witht the kids. eg sunbathing and doing her nails all the time! The norks bit is just the bit that REALLY gets to me!

Personally I would tell her that, as she has blatently ignored your requests to put her tits away, you have no alternative but to sack her. However, as you are aware that a sacking might affect her future career, you are prepared to give her the opportunity to resign with 1 or 2 weeks' notice to save face.

I suspect she'll opt for that.

helpwithnanny just checked your previous thread - she's only been with you 4 months is that right? In which case there are no legal concerns with dismissing her - she has no right to claim unfair dismissal before a year.

You can't save the money I'm afraid, you are going to have to pay her whatever notice is in her contract, even if you don't want her to work it.

If you don't want to call it 'sacking' her, you could legitimately call it 'redundancy', as you will be changing to a different form of childcare. She is not entitled to any redundancy pay or anything, but it's a nicer label to put on it if that concerns you, which it wouldn't me in your circumstances I have to say.

at norks out!! Is she english?

sack her! sounds like you've given her enough chances so dont throw more money at her through being too nice!

sorry cross posts LadyK

Ive got to sack her her haven't I? she really is taking the pee and Im just letting her

Now if you sack a live in, how much notice should one give her to move out? How do you go about making sure she doesn't help herself to your stuff in the process?

This is too hard! Im never having a live in again

Okay, let's try it this way. What are the reasons for keeping her on? Because I'm not seeing a whole lot in that column. I say give the woman a jumper and the sack.

That sounds racist - I just meant that in some other countries they are less prudish about such things...

DH wants to employ her LOL

Im sure my dh secretly wants to keep her!

Hes being very diplomatic about it though!!

Do you mean she's stripped to the waist, or just wears very low-cut tops?

Sushistar, yes she is english and very attractive with a nice large pert pair of 'up there' norks that you just don't have when you are 30 something and have breastfed 2 babies!

I AM jealous I know. But she should be professional enough to take that on and to be a bit more discreet, Strolling about in a thong when you have specifically been asked to be less revealing about the house and infront of the children is just rude surely!

• sorry have no advice but

frogs- yes she was sunbathing in the garden in just a thong and came in and was strolling about the kitchen! Hubby didn't know where to put himself!

Normally in fairness it is just low cut tops and slinky nightees!

Blimey, that is an unusual thing to do at your place of work

I think someone who can't manage to put a top on in public after a verbal & a written warning is a few ribs short of a rack

urgh to the strolling around in thong - is she after your dh do you suspect?

She's showing off, lord knows who to, but she knows she's got a nice bod.
I've not seen your other thread - how old are your children? I think it's inappropriate for a nanny to be waltzing around in just a thong

I agree with Freckle and would wrangle paying her less in return for keeping her undeserved good name in tact.