Parents sending children to cm while they are on holiday themselves

[susiemumof]

Not looking for a argument or aibu type thread.

Am new to cm and have a 6mo mindee 60 hours per week, mum has a day off next week (which she did not even need to tell me about) but has said she will still send said mindee as she would like a day to herself.

I actually offer a large discount on days when mindees are not with me so can't even put it down to wanting to get her monies worth.

Was just really wondering how common other childminders have found this?

It's obviously no problem for me to have the child and I am loving my new job, it just makes me a bit sad for the baby itswim.

She doesn't see the child during the day Monday to Friday.

Perhaps, like some of us, she would like to see her baby when she's not knackered? Perhaps she would like to spend quality time with her baby, not bundled up in a buggy trying to get everything done with a baby in tow?

Honestly I despair of some of the attitudes on this thread. I really do. She's not sending the child down the mine - she's ensured the baby is safe and well cared for and taking some time for herself. Good for her.

Katie twas tongue in cheek, lampooning other posters if you like

It's not one fucking day MissBeehiving - it's every single day of the week for every week of the working year.

Sorry Funny. It's hard to tell on this thread who's having a laugh and who's a twit

I said "basically" Juule, but seeing as you can't understand, what I meant was, if the child spends 12 hours a day with the CM then the mother likely gets very little waking time with her baby. Time during the night is totally different - that's not spent playing and chatting, it's spent trying to get the baby back to sleep.

maybe she spends 60 hours a week at work because her baby is her priority? Rent, food, clothes etc need paying for.How is she going to do that if she is not working?
benefits? Then people would be judging her for claiming benefits and not working. She really can't win.
Maybe she is working while she knows she can, job insecurity is real to a lot of people.

I agree completely cailin.

Katie I am firmly on your side and am actually very angry and suprised that these attitudes still exist

Don't worry Funny. I've put you in the "Not a twit" column on my spreadsheet

I am a bit angry too

"After 90 years of women's rights, are we still only here".

I have received cats bums faces because my toddler will be going to nursery for 6 hours a week whilst I work. Apparently I should wait until he is 3. Things will never change...

"Time during the night is totally different - that's not spent playing and chatting"

You have no idea what she does during the night. Just because you don't chat and play with yours. I did at times. I remember some lovely night times (some awful ones too).

Yes Caitlin I was that mum all day everyday at nursery. Now my dd is older (8) I do enjoy her and spend time with her. She loved her nursery was very happy and to be quite frank was much much better there than with her mum who really really did not enjoy her. She does not remember any of this and now I do enjoy her I make it all count. I have no regrets about what I did and probably would have harmed myself if I hadn't done it the way I did. Just because it is not what you would do does not mean it is wrong.

Bonnie sad to say things will never change. And we thought it was just the glass ceiling we had to deal with............

Juule- night time and daytime are different and arguing that they're not is really odd. I doubt she takes her child out for walks in the dead of night, or out to see friends, or feeds her meals.

Somebody I know works PT but has a FT cm - because she needs her 'down time' apparently.

Her DD is still a baby. I think she's a very selfish mother. So shoot me

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Cailin She doesn't need to do those things, they probably happen at the c/ms. The baby is 'socialising' there. You said that she wouldn't be spending any time "playing and chatting,"with the baby. I think it's not impossible that she does.

Perhaps the OP could formulate a questionnaire for the mother about what she does/doesn't do in the middle of the night and then come back to us with the answers?! She could also include a section on what she plans to do on the day off, does she have any family nearby, does she work to pay the bills or because she wants to etc.

badtaste amazing. Would it be OK if she worked FT? Is it because she choses to do something for herself rather than just work that you judge her?

Holy

Has anyone trotted out something along the lines of a baby needing it's mother? Or how only the care of a mother is best for little ones?

I only ask because I have quite bad morning sickness and I need to throw up so I can get on with some proper work.

:o at Holy too.

only read a page or two but this has to be a journalist yes?

not yet Katie but it's only a matter of time and we have come close. Can I ask if you are being pregnant, working and using a CM?

I suppose if mum is working 12 hours days she might be tired