Parents sending children to cm while they are on holiday themselves

[susiemumof]

Not looking for a argument or aibu type thread.

Am new to cm and have a 6mo mindee 60 hours per week, mum has a day off next week (which she did not even need to tell me about) but has said she will still send said mindee as she would like a day to herself.

I actually offer a large discount on days when mindees are not with me so can't even put it down to wanting to get her monies worth.

Was just really wondering how common other childminders have found this?

It's obviously no problem for me to have the child and I am loving my new job, it just makes me a bit sad for the baby itswim.

The poor mother is probably exhausted!

I've worked in nursries for many years and shock! horror! some of the parents don't even work! They do things like go to the gym, or for lunch, or the hairdressers or shopping, or decorating, or sleep, or have affairs, or gardening, or a million and one other things.

Maybe she has a baby that barely sees her and is more important than chores or resting?

I've worked full time since mine were small so I'm get that people need/want to work, but in a position where somebody else was minding a baby for 12 hours every week day, any time off would be baby time.

" I thought I was making myself more attractive to parents and being flexible to their needs"

I'm sure you are, but just make sure your business can afford it. It's an unusual thing to offer.

I would expect to pay for childcare I was contracted to use even if I chose not to use it.

Cailin are you a CM?

I regularly have hospital appointments and still use my childminder and sometimes when it's a 3pm appointment I get MIL to collect at 4pm incase I run late.

The mother may be on a day off and have an appointment for something that she doesn't wish to share with you and that is her right.

I'm also of the opinion that when I am paying £10 an hour for 2 children, I will use it even if I amn't working.

"and is more important than chores or resting"

Not much is more important than resting if you are exhausted. Not much use to anyone if you can't function due to sleep deprivation.

Some chores can't be put off. Clear them in a day and pressure taken off. Better for everyone.

No I'm not Funnys, why do you ask?

I wonder why parents have babies to send them to childcare 60hrs a week & then a day off & still send them, it seems a little selfish to me! They not little for long it's precious time.

right, so if she's at work thats fine, but if she wants some time to herself thats not? That is a terrible attitude

If the poor woman works 60 hours a week and has a baby, she is probably desperate to catch up on sleep and housework!

I don't think this is unreasonable. I have one DS at school and another at a nursery. During school holidays (because that's when I take my leave) DS2 still goes to nursery on some days so that DS1 and I can do fun things , like buying shoes and traipsing round the supermarket.*

On the odd occasion I have left DS1 in nursery to get my hair cut and have a smear test. Not at the same time obv.

*Disclaimer we do "real" fun things as well

I thought this was going to be about the parents being off for a 3 day city break whilst leaving the child with the child minder! One day, normal hours, no big deal. I think often it makes you a better person around your kids if you can have a break from them and remember yourself.

A 12 hour appointment?

Sure

"They not little for long it's precious time."

For who? They may not be little for long but they are with you all their long life. Some people are better with babies and some when they are older.

Just hoping CM in general are not so judgemental of their clients Cailin. BTW this thread is not about CM really is it, it's about whether women should work and if so how much is too much

Yes, Funnys, how terrible to think a baby would want to be with her mother. Far more important that her mother gets her hair done or mows the lawn.

Where's ScottishMummy? I need here here for the "precious moment mamas" moment

I would send my 4 year old 2 year old to the CMs if I had a day off when she was working.

But when DD1 was 6 months old and I worked FT, no way would I have done that. And she spent less than 40 hours a week in childcare.

god, after 90 years of womens rights, are we seriously still only here?

Not a c/m but I think if you're comfortable with having a baby in childcare for 60 hours a week then you probably feel comfortable having a day off without them too.

I'm a control freak and hated leaving my 13mo with a c/m for 15 hours a week when I worked so would never have done this. But others I know who used full time nursery etc would take days off to do things like have lunch together/go to ikea, that kind of thing. And it seemed to do their sanity and relationships a world of good, so each to their own I guess.

It's not about women Funnys, it's about children. I would think exactly the same thing if a father had a day off and still sent his child to the CM for 12 hours.

I'm afraid so Funnys.

Im judging OP. and wouldn't blame you if you were too!

MN Bingo "Will no one think of the ^children"

Not sure it has anything to do with women's rights.

Isn't it more about parents and people's attitudes to them leaving children in childcare?

Just incidental that in the op the parent is the mother?