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Paid childcare

Discuss everything related to paid childcare here, including childminders, nannies, nurseries and au pairs.

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Yup, Boff's got through another nanny ...

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BoffinMum · 19/05/2011 21:46

Sooooo, my latest nanny's just told me she's resigning because she doesn't enjoy looking after my eldest DC (aged 13). And she wants to go back to Turkey to be with her mum (nanny is 32).

Hand me the chocolate.

I think I am facing career death, because I can't imagine going through childcare trauma for 9 months again like last time. So I am thinking about sitting on the sofa all day watching Jeremy Kyle instead. I only make £25 a week going to work at the moment anyway. Why bother?

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nannynick · 19/05/2011 21:49

Oh no she seemed so suitable for the job on paper.

Has she given you much time to find a replacement?

Summersoon · 19/05/2011 21:50

Hello Boff, so sorry to hear of your predicament. My nanny walked out on me - twice - earlier this year because she basically wanted to go back to her home country so I think I know how you feel. Chin up and good luck finding a new one!

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BoffinMum · 19/05/2011 21:51

She's blardy fantastic, but she basically only really wants to work with under 8's, like nearly all nannies.

I am doomed.

I am not going to look for another one because I really am fed up battling the system.

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Grockle · 19/05/2011 21:53

Don't know what to say but childcare issues are a nightmare. Sorry

nannynick · 19/05/2011 21:53

So what now... will you see if you can find some part-time work, or will you enjoy life as a SAHM?

foxinsocks · 19/05/2011 21:56

Don't give up boff!

triskaidekaphile · 19/05/2011 21:57

Why is she looking after your 13 year old? 13's a bit old for a nanny, surely?

Grockle · 19/05/2011 21:58

Can you not use a childminder? or an Au Pair?

fivegomadindorset · 19/05/2011 21:59

Because Boff has three other younger children.

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BoffinMum · 19/05/2011 22:00

Enjoy life as a SAHM?
Yeah, they'll bloody love talking to me at the school gate even more than they do now, what with my uppity degrees and forrin ways and so on.
I meant it when I said I am going to sit at home. The rest of the SAHM gang around here aren't very nice at all and I've got nothing in common with them apart from a reproductive system and a postcode. They have made that more than clear.

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stealthsquiggle · 19/05/2011 22:00

How old are the other DC? Would an Au Pair work?

(sitting on sofa watching Jeremy Kyle is an expensive option - think of the chocolate bill!)

triskaidekaphile · 19/05/2011 22:01

Can't she and the 13 y.o. just ignore each other?

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BoffinMum · 19/05/2011 22:02

I've got DS (2), DS (10) and DS (13). The latter is only here a couple of hours a day after school, most of which time he is doing his homework, but even that's too much for her apparently.

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nannynick · 19/05/2011 22:03

Maybe worth a quick look on Childcare.co.uk should there be any nannies in your area who may be suitable - sometimes you can find other mums whose children have flown the nest, who may not be too concerned about taking care of a teenager.

Grockle · 19/05/2011 22:03

The school run mums sound awful. I suspect you might be bored if you had to watch jeremy kyle every day

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BoffinMum · 19/05/2011 22:04

OMG my nanny is on there!

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triskaidekaphile · 19/05/2011 22:05

Ok- send the 2 year old to nursery and book the 10 year old into after school club. 13 year old can look after himself for a couple of hours apres school. Et voila- No Need for a Nanny.

stealthsquiggle · 19/05/2011 22:06

So much for "she wants to go back to Turkey to be with her mum"

you need to find someone who can deal with not interfering with 13yo - maybe someone with much younger siblings? The matrons at DS's school (who are effectively AuPair/nannies) position themselves as "big sisters"

NerfHerder · 19/05/2011 22:09

Oh dear... so much for honesty!

nannynick · 19/05/2011 22:22

Of course your nanny is on there... all us nannies are probably on there, though not in a full time job seeking mode (more for things like ad-hoc babysitting). Your nanny hasn't logged in since January, so no indication that she's doing anything different to what she has told you about going back to Turkey.

Use the Advanced Search option and enter your full postcodde, set mileage to say 4 miles, and sort by last login - should then get a list of those nannies who are in the area and actively seeking work.

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BoffinMum · 19/05/2011 22:32

I work a 12 hour day so nursery isn't possible, as my hours and commute are too long.

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BoffinMum · 19/05/2011 22:34

Just seen a local person we know and like on there, who still babysits for us from time to time. You never know ...

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gruber · 19/05/2011 22:34

Boff, so sorry to hear that after all the trauma of before. If I lived near you I'd volunteer to be your nanny! But I don't, and it sounds like you've had enough.

Eldest I've had to care for (ish) was 15 with 3 younger siblings down to 8 - loved that job and still in touch with the family. I really hope you find a good solution to your dilemma.

nannynick · 19/05/2011 22:36

Someone who already knows you... that sounds promising - are they looking for full time work? Worth contacting them, especially as you already have their contract details.

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BoffinMum · 19/05/2011 22:54

Have texted her sister who also babysits for us.
Don't feel like meeting strangers again and letting them into our home. Still emotionally scarred from last time.

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