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Paid childcare

Discuss everything related to paid childcare here, including childminders, nannies, nurseries and au pairs.

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Yup, Boff's got through another nanny ...

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BoffinMum · 19/05/2011 21:46

Sooooo, my latest nanny's just told me she's resigning because she doesn't enjoy looking after my eldest DC (aged 13). And she wants to go back to Turkey to be with her mum (nanny is 32).

Hand me the chocolate.

I think I am facing career death, because I can't imagine going through childcare trauma for 9 months again like last time. So I am thinking about sitting on the sofa all day watching Jeremy Kyle instead. I only make £25 a week going to work at the moment anyway. Why bother?

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BoffinMum · 20/05/2011 17:57

You are well rude Blondes. My work lappie would implode for sure.

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Laquitar · 20/05/2011 19:12

Boffin i remember your previous thread, and i cant believe you are having the same thing all over again .

Tbh i'm not sure about a 13 yrs old and a young au pair .

APs can lack confidence (luck of experience, language struggle, age, homesick) so a 13 years old can easily take the mickey and rebell when she is in charge. If you go for nursery combination i would do nursery for the toddler and then couple of hours when the eldest at home, a mature lady with grown up dcs. She will be better than a young AP at dealing with teenagers, better at communicating, checking homework, cooking/cleaning fast etc. But you wont have the free babysitting that you would have with the AP

Although i also like Strix's suggestion about male AP.

Laquitar · 20/05/2011 19:13

(Glad to 'see' Blondes. Hope you are ok)

littleducks · 20/05/2011 19:23

It sounds like you have access to students, could you send out an ad for somone to cover for the summer? I'm training to be a SALT atm and can think of several people on my course who would be up for a job like that and our uni term ended today, same prob applies to trainee teachers etc

Blondeshavemorefun · 20/05/2011 20:27

Up and down laquitar tbh - but won't go into it on here - this is boffys thread

I do think a male ap is the way to go and I can come to visit for the 13yr and middle and nursery/cm for youngest

Mtorun · 20/05/2011 20:58

You all do know how difficult to manage teenage kids. And if she doesn't enjoy doing that I think she should leave anyway. We all want to enjoy what we are doing.

Regarding "top boss" mug, because she doesn't enjoy looking after your teenage kid that doesn't mean you are not a top boss. She might like you as a person ( altho she might not like if she reads your post on here) but doesn't like/ enjoy looking after your kid/s. I don't see any hypocrisies in it.

And what's wrong with going to her country to be with her mother? Maybe her mother needs her help or she just miss her and wants to be with her. As a Turkish myself we do take care of our parents, families. We don't fly the nest as soon as we step into 18. And our parents don't ask us to leave or pay rent unlike here. So I guess it is give and take.

Looking at your posts, If I were you I would look at myself and my family first to find out what is wrong especially, after having had so many nannies in short period of time.

Strix · 20/05/2011 21:24

If you go with male au pair, you might want to chat with squiffy who has had one or two of them.

Strix · 20/05/2011 21:27

mtotun, the problem with her reason of going to look after her mum is that it obviously wasn't true since she was actively looking for a job here in the UK.

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BoffinMum · 20/05/2011 21:54

Considering I have said she is, and I quote, 'blardy fantastic', I hardly think she is going to be cross with me for posting about her

And there is a back story to her mum that I really won't post but the situation is apparently not entirely positive from my nanny's point of view, which is

Plus I don't think our family can be that bad if nannies are leaving before they even arrive, and experiencing the full joy that is the Bofferie, and being blacklisted by the relevant agencies .... or disciplined by their training institution .... I am sure it just means we are rather unlucky or alternatively terribly bad at choosing nannies.

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BoffinMum · 20/05/2011 21:56

DH has pointed out if we have an AP for four months we are going to be stuck by January as this is a very fallow period for finding nannies.

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Mtorun · 20/05/2011 21:58

Well she already told boffing that she doesn't want to look after her kids anyway. And I don't think her looking for another job where she may be happy makes her hypocrite.

As I said on my previous post. I think boffing should try to find what is wrong with her family/kids. It can't be all nannies fault can it?

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BoffinMum · 20/05/2011 21:59

Littleducks, I don't really need someone for the summer, more from September.

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BoffinMum · 20/05/2011 22:00

Yup, I am a sociopath that eats nannies. That's why two massively experienced and highly trained 30-something temps worked for me for a couple of months and fed back to two agencies that we are a completely normal family and it's a nice job.

Can we move on now, please?

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Mtorun · 20/05/2011 22:02

"I am sure it just means we are rather unlucky or alternatively terribly bad at choosing nannies." if that makes you happy. :) If you were that bad at choosing nannies you wouldn't say 'blardy fantastic' about your last nanny. :)

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BoffinMum · 20/05/2011 22:05

That's splitting hairs and it's not what I meant. Now have you got a constructive suggestion to make? Or are you just here to insist I have something wrong with me?

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BoffinMum · 20/05/2011 22:06

And stop calling me Boffing. It sounds like a deviant sexual practice.

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Mtorun · 20/05/2011 22:07

"That's why two massively experienced and highly trained 30-something temps worked for me for a couple of months " yeah cause it was temporary. :)

Anyway, I hope you will find whatever you are looking for.

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BoffinMum · 20/05/2011 22:10

That was the only time they had between contracts. One has offered to come back if we need her again.

Why are you being so grumpy on here?

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Mtorun · 20/05/2011 22:10

I stopped reading after 3rd page so don't know if somebody already suggested. Can't you get another temp?

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BoffinMum · 20/05/2011 22:11

So you didn't read the thread but you thought you would have a go anyway?

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Mtorun · 20/05/2011 22:14

Sorry, I didn't mean to be mean. I was just looking at it from nanny point of view thats all.

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BoffinMum · 20/05/2011 22:16

I am not sure you are really. Are you a qualified nanny?

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Mtorun · 20/05/2011 22:16

Well actually you have 3 pages anyway so it means I have read them all :)

purplepidjin · 20/05/2011 22:17

Mtorun, are you actually Boffin's nanny? Because that's the only reason i can think of for the grilling you're dishing out!

littleducks · 20/05/2011 22:17

Must have misread.....but LOL at boffing

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