How do i get a c-section?

[singleteenagemum]

I know this probably sounds really stupid, but i really want a caesarean, how do i go about getting an elective one?
What's the process for it all? am i just plain stupid wanting one?
HELP!!

[Fio2]

oh fgs you two SHUT UP

[vickiyumyum]

as i said as soon as she has stopped attacking my proffessional role then i will. sl*g me off personally and i couldn't care less. water off a ducks back, but i have worked long and hard for my career and i'm not going to let someone undermine my ability for no good reaason, other than personal vendetta.

[Carriemumsnet]

Dear all

Sorry to post rather late in the day on this. As you know we are all for strident debate, and this is obviously an emotive topic, but we'd just like to remind folks that all posters on mumsnet have feelings and although it's fine to have strongly held and opposing views it would be great if folks could make those views known without getting involved in personal attacks.

Thanks in advance


the musmnet team

[goldenoldie]

Hey Starry - do you think we could start our own fight now! This is much better than trying to get any work done.

Glad my boss can't see what I'm up to.........

[goldenoldie]

I'll start.

My body, my choice, and I'm having a c-section.

[starrynight]

Ok then. Not much good in a fight am I. LOL.

[oliveoil]

The Enddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddd.

xx

[singleteenagemum]

Good morning everyone,

I hope everything has clamed down a bit. Sorry i didn't post yesterday but was at the hospital for a 28week scan and to see my consultant. Apparently i have a small pelvis and so if dbs gets too big they will recommend a C/s. i'm sorry to have caused so many feuds, i did just want some advice. Thank you all for the advice and where to get information, it's all been a really great help. I'll let you know what i have, after dbs is born.

God knows what i'll do if they recommend one, or if they don't but at least i have the right sources to tap into and get the support and advice needed in order to make an informed decision.

Sorry to mumsnet for causing an argument.
STM

[Kidstrack2]

No need to appologise to anyone! Looks like you may need a c/s afterall. Are they giving you a weighing scan to see how big baby gets?

[singleteenagemum]

got one at 34weeks. They think i may be ok, because i have big hips. I always thought big hip = big pelvis. Just goes to show how much they don't teach you in A-level human biology!!

I'm sure everything will turn out the way it;s supposed to. If they don;t think i need a c/s, from what people have said i don't see there's a need for me to try to get one. It;s their profession, they've been trained in things like this and i should take their advice on board. i'm sure i'll get the birth i want, coz at the end of the day the most important thing to me is my dbs and his well being so i think it doesn't matter about me and the pain i'm in as long as he isn't distressed by it. That's what i'm basing my decisons on, when and if they need to be made.

[Kidstrack2]

Thats good I had a scan then too with my second as my first was 9lb 2oz and I had a small pelvis and ended up a c/s but the weight scan said baby no2 was going to be 7lb 7oz but I was 4days late and baby weighed 7lb 10oz so the scan was very accurate! Good luck

[singleteenagemum]

thanks very much.

[SoupDragon]

STM, absolutely no need to apologise - you didn't cause anything. It's just an emotive subject. Glad you've not been scared off.

Good luck

[Rochwen]

I'm glad you got some more information STM, you still got plenty of time to make up your mind.

Good Luck !

Now, I KNOW that I want a c/s and my consultant's appointment is in two weeks time and I'm tearing my hair out about it. I have now idea who I am going to see, whether it's a registrar, a consultant or a junior Doctor and whether they are allowed to make a decision on the day. I'm just so scared they'll say no esp now that I've read that a Dr can refuse to give you one if he (yes he) thinks it's unethical. Then if I can't find another Doctor who is willing to do it then I guess I'm stuck. I'm terrfied ! Also, I hope I don't go into labour before they made their mind up.

[vickiyumyum]

stm - as been already said no need to apologise, i'm sorry that i got into the whole argument, i'm glad that you did pick up some useful information, and that you seem to be feeling abit more relaxed about the whole situation.
i wish you well and hope your get a pleasant and quick delivery (whichever way that should be)so that you can enjoy your db.

[mears]

Rochwen - could you phone your consultant's secretary and ask for an appointment to speak to him sooner instead of waiting 2 weeks? Alternatively could you speak to your midwife and as if she could arrange an appointment out with clinic visit?

[piglit]

Good luck STM. I too have a very small pelvis and that's one of the reasons why I had to have an emergency section. My db was 9 pounds and had his dad's (massive) head.

Another thing to consider is whether your mum had a hard time giving birth. I know some people say that the maternal line stuff is all bunkum (in other words if your mum had a shitty time because of a small pelvis etc then you might have problems too) but my consultant said that in his opinion it was an important consideration. My mum had a rotten time with me and my sibling; her mother had 4 stillbirths and her grandmother had even more (no sections done then). It's all just stuff to add to the equation - after all the more info you have then the more informed your decision will be.

Good luck.

[singleteenagemum]

Rochwen - i'm sure if they see how distressed you're getting over possibly not being able to have one, that if you push for one on emotional grounds it might help your case. From what i've seen on here and talking to my own consultant and mw, many agree that if it is going to cause the mother emotional distress to have vaginal, it;s just as necessary to have a c-section as it could be a medical problem and of course to lead to one. Hope you get what you want.
Let me know what they say.

[goldenoldie]

Good luck STM.