How do i get a c-section?

[singleteenagemum]

I know this probably sounds really stupid, but i really want a caesarean, how do i go about getting an elective one?
What's the process for it all? am i just plain stupid wanting one?
HELP!!

[goldenoldie]

Good luck STM.

[singleteenagemum]

Rochwen - i'm sure if they see how distressed you're getting over possibly not being able to have one, that if you push for one on emotional grounds it might help your case. From what i've seen on here and talking to my own consultant and mw, many agree that if it is going to cause the mother emotional distress to have vaginal, it;s just as necessary to have a c-section as it could be a medical problem and of course to lead to one. Hope you get what you want.
Let me know what they say.

[piglit]

Good luck STM. I too have a very small pelvis and that's one of the reasons why I had to have an emergency section. My db was 9 pounds and had his dad's (massive) head.

Another thing to consider is whether your mum had a hard time giving birth. I know some people say that the maternal line stuff is all bunkum (in other words if your mum had a shitty time because of a small pelvis etc then you might have problems too) but my consultant said that in his opinion it was an important consideration. My mum had a rotten time with me and my sibling; her mother had 4 stillbirths and her grandmother had even more (no sections done then). It's all just stuff to add to the equation - after all the more info you have then the more informed your decision will be.

Good luck.

[mears]

Rochwen - could you phone your consultant's secretary and ask for an appointment to speak to him sooner instead of waiting 2 weeks? Alternatively could you speak to your midwife and as if she could arrange an appointment out with clinic visit?

[vickiyumyum]

stm - as been already said no need to apologise, i'm sorry that i got into the whole argument, i'm glad that you did pick up some useful information, and that you seem to be feeling abit more relaxed about the whole situation.
i wish you well and hope your get a pleasant and quick delivery (whichever way that should be)so that you can enjoy your db.

[Rochwen]

I'm glad you got some more information STM, you still got plenty of time to make up your mind.

Good Luck !

Now, I KNOW that I want a c/s and my consultant's appointment is in two weeks time and I'm tearing my hair out about it. I have now idea who I am going to see, whether it's a registrar, a consultant or a junior Doctor and whether they are allowed to make a decision on the day. I'm just so scared they'll say no esp now that I've read that a Dr can refuse to give you one if he (yes he) thinks it's unethical. Then if I can't find another Doctor who is willing to do it then I guess I'm stuck. I'm terrfied ! Also, I hope I don't go into labour before they made their mind up.

[SoupDragon]

STM, absolutely no need to apologise - you didn't cause anything. It's just an emotive subject. Glad you've not been scared off.

Good luck

[singleteenagemum]

thanks very much.

[Kidstrack2]

Thats good I had a scan then too with my second as my first was 9lb 2oz and I had a small pelvis and ended up a c/s but the weight scan said baby no2 was going to be 7lb 7oz but I was 4days late and baby weighed 7lb 10oz so the scan was very accurate! Good luck

[singleteenagemum]

got one at 34weeks. They think i may be ok, because i have big hips. I always thought big hip = big pelvis. Just goes to show how much they don't teach you in A-level human biology!!

I'm sure everything will turn out the way it;s supposed to. If they don;t think i need a c/s, from what people have said i don't see there's a need for me to try to get one. It;s their profession, they've been trained in things like this and i should take their advice on board. i'm sure i'll get the birth i want, coz at the end of the day the most important thing to me is my dbs and his well being so i think it doesn't matter about me and the pain i'm in as long as he isn't distressed by it. That's what i'm basing my decisons on, when and if they need to be made.

[Kidstrack2]

No need to appologise to anyone! Looks like you may need a c/s afterall. Are they giving you a weighing scan to see how big baby gets?

[singleteenagemum]

Good morning everyone,

I hope everything has clamed down a bit. Sorry i didn't post yesterday but was at the hospital for a 28week scan and to see my consultant. Apparently i have a small pelvis and so if dbs gets too big they will recommend a C/s. i'm sorry to have caused so many feuds, i did just want some advice. Thank you all for the advice and where to get information, it's all been a really great help. I'll let you know what i have, after dbs is born.

God knows what i'll do if they recommend one, or if they don't but at least i have the right sources to tap into and get the support and advice needed in order to make an informed decision.

Sorry to mumsnet for causing an argument.
STM

[oliveoil]

The Enddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddd.

xx

[starrynight]

Ok then. Not much good in a fight am I. LOL.

[goldenoldie]

I'll start.

My body, my choice, and I'm having a c-section.

[goldenoldie]

Hey Starry - do you think we could start our own fight now! This is much better than trying to get any work done.

Glad my boss can't see what I'm up to.........

[Carriemumsnet]

Dear all

Sorry to post rather late in the day on this. As you know we are all for strident debate, and this is obviously an emotive topic, but we'd just like to remind folks that all posters on mumsnet have feelings and although it's fine to have strongly held and opposing views it would be great if folks could make those views known without getting involved in personal attacks.

Thanks in advance


the musmnet team

[vickiyumyum]

as i said as soon as she has stopped attacking my proffessional role then i will. sl*g me off personally and i couldn't care less. water off a ducks back, but i have worked long and hard for my career and i'm not going to let someone undermine my ability for no good reaason, other than personal vendetta.

[Fio2]

oh fgs you two SHUT UP

[vickiyumyum]

Here we go again i wasn't making any accusations about what you had said to stm, just what you had said to me personally. so stop twisting things and just leave it now it is getting very boring!
as i sadi i am an advocate for supporting women in their choice on where and how to give birth, however i disagree with the choice to have asection because you 'want' one, if there is a reason and yes i class extreme fear as one valid reason then i am all for supporting that women in her choice. what i am against is its my choice, i paid my taxes, i should be allowed to do whatever i want argument, because that just doesn't cut it, however as already said countless times if you have agenuine reason for whatever type of delivery and you are well informed of the pros and cons, then fair enough.
i will say it again, i have no problem with what you have said to stm, just how you have taken and twisted everything i have said.

[aloha]

It would almost be amusing that you think there is something wrong about standing up for women's options if you weren't a midwife.

STM - go for what you want. As I posted to you before, look into your options, but if you really do want a c-section, be prepared for a fight.

[aloha]

Oh come on VYY - you had a patronising and personal go at me in almost every single one of your posts. Look at them!
"perhaps you should seek counselling as you are obviously a very angry woman"
"you were almost trying to force stm into having a section"
"narrow minded"
"bee in a bonnet"
"i still don't understand you vitirol" (vitriol?)
"you obviously do not know your limitations"

And you have the nerve to call me narrow minded!
Here let's compare your opinions with mine, as demonstrated on this thread.
YOU: "i don't beleive that you should be allowed to choose to have section that is my opinion regardless of whether you pay for it or not!"
And this:"you do not have a right to have a section you have aright to have a birth within a hospital, that does not mean having major surgery, because you choose to.
i certainly do not agree that the rich should have the right to choose, just because they can pay for it."
All of this on a thread entitled "How do I get a c-section"!
Now let's look at my 'narrow minded' posts that are 'full of vitriol":

"Singleteenmum, you may have an OK birth, you may not. I'm not saying you 'should' have any particular kind of birth. Look into your options. But in the end it has to be your business. I am in favour of choice - for EVERYONE - not just women who want vaginal birth. |
And
"Not everyone has such a good experience as I did though. And if you plan on having six kids then you are probably better off having a - horror! - vaginal birth. "
And
"I am in favour of choice - for EVERYONE - not just women who want vaginal birth."
And
"I'm all for waterbirths, homebirths, birth centre births and even standing on your head births for those who want them. And all the attendant costs to the NHS that they may entail are absolutely fine by me. "
So much for 'forcing STM into having a section" - what rubbish.
One of us is in favour of maternal choice, the other isn't . What worries me is that the person who is opposed to it is working in maternity services.

[starrynight]

In fact, a lot of that page is of interest to this debate. (both sides of it)

[starrynight]

Actually, its not an editorial but a letter from an obs in Holland (saw the word 'editor' and got confused [roll eyes])

[starrynight]

p.s. Scroll down to 'unnecessary caesareans should be avoided' for the info.