How do i get a c-section?

[singleteenagemum]

I know this probably sounds really stupid, but i really want a caesarean, how do i go about getting an elective one?
What's the process for it all? am i just plain stupid wanting one?
HELP!!

[singleteenagemum]

Stuff you started oatcake

[aloha]

The vitriol is all one way. I don't want to prevent anyone having a vaginal birth if they want one. I just get sick of busybodies who want to stop other people having a choice when it is, frankly, none of their business.

[motherinferior]

Well, there you go, HM. I'm not trying to trump you, I'm trying to point out that pregnancy and birth are not a walk in the park and it's not actually unconstructive or discouraging to point that out, it's just true.

[homemama]

Aloha, perhaps total surprise rather than shock - certainly not outrage. As i've said, it's her decision.
I wasn't like a caged animal at all. Walked around til near end of pushing then squatted and out he came. That was it. It was over and I was instantly better. No long recovery.
STM, research all your options and decide what's best for you.

[vickiyumyum]

aloha- perhaps you should read my posts as you obviously haven't! i have had 2 sections 1 emergency and 1 elective for breech! even though recovery went well, still wouldn't recommend over vaginal delivery as for most women recovery is much faster. its just a shame the only people who wnat to tell you there stories are those who have horror stories to tell!

[aloha]

I'm all for waterbirths, homebirths, birth centre births and even standing on your head births for those who want them. And all the attendant costs to the NHS that they may entail are absolutely fine by me.

[homemama]

If you look back at all my postings, i've told her that the choice is hers.

[aloha]

Homemama, did I say that this was your experience? No, I said it was MINE. And just as valid as yours.
As for the 'people only want to tell you horror stories', on the contrary, I have found that it is perfectly socially acceptable to tell horror stories about section ad nauseum. They kill you, I couldn't walk for a year blah blah, but absolutely taboo to say anything nice about sections or to compare a vaginal birth unfavourably to a section.

[mears]

I certainly do not think I am better than anyone STM. I am sorry I do not agree with you that women necessarily 'know and trust' their own bodies. I meet many women who have been astounded at how they have coped, or indeed, not coped with labour.

You are quite right that labour is different for every woman as is the experience of C/S. The reason I feel I can have some input is that I have 20 years of midwifery experience and have seen first hand the issues of vaginal and caesarean birth.

If you read what I said earlier in my postings, I do think that women who want a C/S desperately should have one. They should however gather all the facts. One of the facts, whether you like it or not, is that there are greater riskds associated with caesarean birth than vaginal. That is especially so in the case of elective C/S for no medical reason. C/S is definately a life saver of mum and baby. I have seen women haemorrhage badly at elective C/S requiring intensive care. Do not be too harsh on those of us who are exposed to childbirth on a daily basis.

[aloha]

And vickiyumyum, you did say that women should not be allowed caesarians even if they pay for them themselves. And I find that staggering.

[singleteenagemum]

Don't be harsh at all on those of us that aren't exposed everyday then.

[vickiyumyum]

aloha - i think that the vitirol is coming purely from you, you obviously have some bee in your bonnet about being allowed to choose. what is all the harshness towards oatcake? she is merely stating her opinion and i feel was trying to give stm an honest outlook and good advice, about keeping her mind and options open.
you on the other hand seem to have picked up on the right to have a section and have run with it!
on and on to a whole other issue.
noone has denied stm the right to choose just advised her to consider her options and ensure that she goes to the right places to get info!

[aloha]

Hey, I'm not the one who wants to deny choice to women, and thinks they know best.

[vickiyumyum]

yes becuause i don't beleive that you should be allowed to choose to have section that is my opinion regardless of whether you pay for it or not!
however my professional opinion is a whole different issue, but then again i'm glad that all of the mums that i have met have been glad and grateful to have their babies whichever way, and yes i have been present for elective sections and their care does not differ in any way

[aloha]

Why on earth not? What is it to you? I would really love to know.

[aloha]

I am perfectly sincere. Why do you think women shouldn't be allowed sections?

[vickiyumyum]

i haven't read anyones opinion on here and thought that they seem to think they know best except for you aloha, just what is your problem with everyone?
i think that stm is perfectly capable of standing up for herself and you have turned it into an argument against anyone with an opinion that differs to yours!

[motherinferior]

It feels like an illness an awful lot of the time, in my experience.

[vickiyumyum]

aloha- it is nothing to me i have expressed my opinion as you have expressed yours. perhaps you would like to let me know what it is to you as to what stm does with her life!

[aloha]

Why won't you have a break from personally insulting me and answer my question?

[goldenoldie]

Dino - don't think my story is frightening?

What frightens me is being told I don't have autonomy over my own body, and other people get to say what I can or can't do with it.

Check Jillinlondons references - it's good enough evidence for me.

STM - In my experince with child-birth if you keep on asking hard enough and long enough you will get what you want in the end, but not before those who do not agree with your right to choose, or those who feel you should not have control over your own body, have tried to break you down by telling you all the stuff you've already heard on here.

[aloha]

Come on, WHY when it isn't a question of costs to the NHS, do you think a woman shouldn't be permitted a section if she wants one?

[homemama]

Ladies, I think we have to remember that this thread is here because an anxious teenage mum to be is in need of our advice.
STM, people have strong opinions based on their own experiences. In the end you are going to make your own decision. Just do it armed with all the facts and not out of fear or anecdotal stories from either camp.
Good luck