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Currently being induced - Can I ask to stop?

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Littlebee1990 · 14/05/2021 00:31

Was induced yesterday due to a scan the day before at 39+3 saying I had severe excess fluid. Had a pessary in for 24 hours and nothing has changed. I’ve been here for over 36 hours now, I’ve not slept and I’m struggling mentally.

Am I able to request a c section instead? My mum had a stillborn linked to induction, I’m at risk of cord prolapse the longer I go and I’m really working myself up and just don’t think having anything else shoved up me is going to be right for me 😞

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Yafilthyanimal · 15/05/2021 10:56

Absolutely dig your heels in and speak up.

You should not be without food for this long.

Hope it gets sorted xx

MoreAloneTime · 15/05/2021 10:58

What a waste of time.

flashylamp · 15/05/2021 11:01

Oh OP, I feel for you Thanks

tcjotm · 15/05/2021 11:01

Oh bless you OP, that’s really rough. I agree you need to start making a stink, you’ve been patient but you can’t by nil by mouth day after day. You should be a priority with your preexisting health conditions too.

Puntastic · 15/05/2021 11:05

The squeaky wheel gets the grease, OP. Time to start squeaking.

LilacSloth · 15/05/2021 11:29

Thinking of you Flowers Hope they take you down very soon.

TheGoodEnoughWife · 15/05/2021 11:30

Just caught up with your thread today. Being without food for so long you will be in no fit state to be induced, it can be brutal.

I really hope they listen to you today and you get your caesarean.

hedgehogger1 · 15/05/2021 11:33

@Littlebee1990 honestly I remember being ina similar situation waiting for the consultant. Got to the point I felt like I was going to pass out. Spoke to someone, burst into tears and then got seen almost immediately. Don't hold back how you're feeling, let yourself be a priority

Rainbow321 · 15/05/2021 11:47

I'm another one that will agree that they seem to forget / bypass the placid ones . When the Dr comes let them you have reached your limit of being able to cope.

CrotchetyQuaver · 15/05/2021 11:59

Glad you've been "allowed" a section OP, I had all this many years ago with my first, weeping with exhaustion, pain and frustration 18 hours after induction started. I just knew I wouldn't have the strength left to get her out on my own at that point. The contractions were happening but not really doing anything. 24 hours or so later they put me on the drip with an epidural and 12 hours later I ended up with an EMCS anyway as baby was in distress with meconiun in the waters and a dipping heart rate. My cervix had stopped dilating and was going the other way, it was swelling basically. Turned out she was completely stuck and presenting face first. Born with a black eye but otherwise well and now nearly 28. Best of luck and I hope you meet your baby soon. The good news was that when my failure to progress happened with my second one, they didn't mess about and she was born by EMCS about 12 hours after I arrived at the hospital.

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Littlebee1990 · 15/05/2021 12:26

Just been told the board is full and it’s not looking like it will be today but they’ll confirm this afternoon. I got upset, told them it’s unfair and not right to have a pregnant women NBM 2 days in a row and I still cannot understand why I never seem to make priority on this board but I was told I had to be induced before my due date as I couldn’t go to due date.. which is tomorrow.

They’ve said they’ll update me after lunch .. pissed me off even more given I can’t have lunch.

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BertieBotts · 15/05/2021 13:16

I would be insisting on loads of monitoring just in case - it seems strange they were so worried but now happy to leave you and leave you and leave you?

At least with monitoring any concerns would flag up and then you may well become an "emergency" and just as urgent as anyone else!

Puntastic · 15/05/2021 13:44

I agree with @BertieBotts, I'd want a foetal heartrate monitor on me constantly.

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Littlebee1990 · 15/05/2021 13:54

I’ve asked again about baby HR and they said they’re happy & they think he just moved which is why it kept dipping so to them it’s not a concern and they’ll continue to monitor every 12 hours.

No update from doctor yet

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katmarie · 15/05/2021 14:03

They're keeping you nil by mouth in case they can somehow wedge you into a theatre? That's inhumane. They need to prioritise you. I agree speak to pals and start kicking up a stink.

feliznavidad2 · 15/05/2021 14:10

Thinking of you OP @Littlebee1990

I hate to say it but I agree with others, you're going to have to dig your heels in as this is unreasonable. You've been patient, you've waited but now... they really need to get on with it.

(I've also been in an induction bay for 3 days and seen lots of women come, go in to labour and come back from the labour ward with babies whilst I was sat there bouncing on a bloody birthing wall without a contraction in sight. You're right, it is soul destroying. Thanks)

mrssunshinexxx · 15/05/2021 14:31

You need to complain @Littlebee1990 and kick up a fuss !

SunnySpills · 15/05/2021 14:36

Sorry you're still waiting in limbo, op, it sounds really stressful.
Is your DH able to visit you today?
Flowers

Sexnotgender · 15/05/2021 14:37

Fucking hell that's atrocious! Definitely ask for PALs contact information.

MintyCedric · 15/05/2021 14:44

Get on to your DH and have him call up and create merry hell...PALS, press whatever it takes.

I'm sorry to say this but sometimes it is the only way to get stuff done and you just have to stop worrying about everyone else and throws your toys out of your pram to get results.

MrsT777 · 15/05/2021 14:59

@Littlebee1990

I am sorry you are going through this. PALS won’t be open today because it’s the weekend. I would get your husband to phone the switchboard at the hospital you are in and get him to ask to speak to the nurse in charge of maternity or hospital (depending on how big your hospital is) The switchboard will bleep them for you. Then he can explain what has been going on. He/she will then speak to your maternity team and come and explain everything to you. Take care 💐

sarah13xx · 15/05/2021 15:20

Oh no, really thought I’d come on here today to see baby was here 😰 That’s horrendous! Birth rights have a bit you can fill in but again, your situation is time critical (before you starve) so you’re really wanting someone to help today! I would just start demanding to speak to the highest up person you can and say you’d like to make a formal complaint. I’m totally one of those people too who would sit and say nothing because you’re probably on your own and it’s so hard having to do that yourself! I really hope they manage to fit you in today, it’s beyond a joke

IJustLikeBiscuitsOK · 15/05/2021 15:27

So sorry to read your updates, but you've done so well in asking for what you want. Keep it up, push your needs. Do not worry about being the "DIFFICULT" patient. Fuck that, tell them how worried you are, make them support you through this for as long as you have to wait. Obviously it's not the midwifes fault so getting angry with them won't help, but she's there to support a labouring mother however they need it. It is perfectly OK to voice how upset you are, and way better than bottling it up. Good luck OP

somersault · 15/05/2021 15:27

This sounds awful for you. I would say you have been grateful for their input but you now feel you are in an unsafe situation and one you can no longer tolerate and ask for a written copy of the complaints policy with this in mind.

MrsTerryPratchett · 15/05/2021 15:28

I was really hoping for good news. Keeping my fingers crossed here.

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