With the best intentions, and no disrespect, do you feel woman that have c-sections havent 'properley given birth'?

[CharlotteACavatica]

Do you ever feel you think that way even if you dont mean to??

I had a baby - therefore I gave birth.

yep - that's what I usually think (when I'm not being a stress bunny). My DH says, "DD just climbed out of the sun-roof rather than the door." Typical male analogy, but what he is trying to convey that it doesn't matter how she arrived, just that she did!

My comment was aimed to LittleLapin.

Some people do ChippyMinton!

If I started worrying about whether or not I had done things "properly" I'd be in a right state by now!

My ds was conceived using IVF and born by emergency c-section under general anaesthetic. So neither me nor DH saw him being born. Infact, when we had to sign hospital form to take him home which says you must confirm that it is your child you are taking, DH said, "Well, we don't know do we? Neither of us were there (Or at least conscious) at either the conception or birth!!"

Ok, so it took a few weeks to come to terms with unexpected birth but we're just thrilled to have him, however he got here.

thanks lilred

whoever said lower down, there is not easy option when it comes to giving birth, is right.

Alas, we seem to be going round in circles with this thread, and as entertaining as it might be to witness an online cat fight, I think I'll sign off.....

I think if the OP was about ELECTIVE cs's to fit in with parent's schedule, I would say yes, but if it was an EMERGENCY cs or an ELECTIVE for health reasons, I would say no.

Not the most sensitive OP of all time though.

at your DH TheApprentice.

Just interested Charlotte - until your friend said something, had you given it much thought?

LilRed - we say sunroof too!

I have been asked if I was "upset" that I had a c-section - I normally reply with a "nooo, because I'm still perfect down below" accompanied by a lascivious wink

Lilbloodwantsredgore
Oh ok now i get it.

I have to say though, on the flip side, i was soo relieved when i was told i was going to have to have a cs. I was scared shitless at the thought of doing it naturally. And both mine were planned elective sections so i got tpo choose their birthdays etc as you described. I had brilliant theatre staff etc too. I was up and about the next day, however it was painful, but the beautiful baby lying in the hospital crib was worth it. Id say the worst part was having to stay in hospital for the 3days post delivery, that was bloody awful. If my baby wasnt screaming it was someone elses - i dont think i slept for longer than an hour at a time. I couldnt wait to get home.

mellowma no piles, but I did manage to poo the day after D3 was born [smug]
(that was TMI wasn't it )

Littlelapin - I believe the term is 'honeymoon fresh'....

LittleL, I always think about that too! Dh is VERY lucky!

oh PMSL .. I'm really starting to like you now

I'm a chimp

ROFL

Oh god, a creepy bloke - the type that takes his holidays in thailand IYSWIM - once said that to me

Hmm, the thing is I DO feel that way about my section births.
I guess that's my problem, but regarding them, no I don't feel I "gave birth".
I felt great about my normal births though.

I don't feel that way about other people, just about myself

I like that idea LilBloodRedWantsGore, its a good way of looking at it, im sorry if i upset you hun, i have had times of feeling very low after my first c-section, and i now how it feels, but regardless of the title, my intentions to bring this up were always friendly and respectful, honest!

Haych! Just goes to show we are all different doesn't it.

a friend of my neighbours asked for an extra couple of stitches after her VB so she could be honeymoon fresh

Maybe you could request change MN Towers change the title for you CharlotteACavatica.

Tell the truth Lulu, it was you wasn't it "A friend of my neighbour" indeed

Right DD is squealing so I'm off!

Occasionally i have given it some thought ChippyMinton yes, but we had such a heated discussion on it with some other mums at a toddler club today that i wondered how many people had such differing opinions on this subject and how many differing opinions!