Hand hold. No heartbeat 38+5 being induced currently.

[MisssC3025]

Hi all..

Just need some people to talk to. My baby was diagnosed with a lethal condition at 20wks. We decided to carry to term knowing that he may pass away in utero... which has been the case for us.. we found out yesterday after experiencing no movement 😭😔 (38wks +5)

Came into hosp this morn to start induction process. Have had two lots of misoprostol. Cervix examination at 4pm suggested that my cervix is still posterior.

After first tablet was inserted at 12pm I started getting bad cramps like period pain. Since getting my second they're much stronger. My back is achey!! Have so far just had paracetamol.

It's an ongoing dull painful ache and my tummy tightens every now and then. This is my first pregnancy so no idea how contractions should feel!

Any advice support would be grateful. Obviously if things progress I may not be able to message but at the moment I'd really like some people to talk to.

Anyone with similar experiences 💙💙

Oh, I’m so sorry to hear this. I have no words of comfort for you, I think this is every woman’s nightmare. Sending love and courage and a virtual handhold. If there is any comfort at all, take it in that you gave your little one a chance. that was a brave decision

@dementedma thank you 💙💙

Just hugs, to get through labour and the time afterwards with your baby

Does the hospital have a cold cot? Take lots and lots of photos you may not feel like it at the time or want to looked at them straight away but I have friends that regretted not taking more later on.

Have you already chosen names?

So sorry 💐💐 Make sure to ask for all the pain relief that you need.

@MisssC3025, I’m so sorry. No experience but didn’t want to read and run. You already know you’re a strong woman having made a difficult decision at 20 weeks. I wish you as painless delivery as possible and speedy recovery.

Oh sweetheart. I’m so sorry for your loss mama. Keeping talking here... how are you feeling?

I'm so sorry. You don't know me but I am thinking if you and your family xxx

Sending you a big big hug ♥️

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Thinking of you xx

and a handhold from me.

I'm so sorry. X

Oh MisssC 💙 I think I remember your earlier posts about your ds.

I hope everything goes as well as it can during the induction. Will be thinking of you tonight xxx.

Be kind to yourself. You’ve been amazing.

Hand hold from me. I'm so sorry for you and your family. 💙💙

I'm so sorry, Misss. You've been very brave indeed. My heart goes out to you and your husband.

So sorry...please take pictures/footprints/handprints.. Thinking of you all. .x

Thinking of you OP. I'm so sorry.

I have absolutely no words other than I'm so sorry 😩life really is cruel sometimes

Absolutely no words, I admire your strength and courage.
You are a brilliant mum.
Sending so much love your way x

Xxx

Thinking of you OP. Have you been offered patient controlled analgesia (PCA)? Usually in situations like this anaesthetists are more than happy to dose you up to the eyeballs on morphine if you aren’t coping with the pain. I hope everything goes smoothly for you xxx

Hi everyone.

Thank you all for your kind words. Thankfully (because we have known for so long that he may not make it in utero or shortly after birth) we have got lots of memory ideas to do once he arrives. I've written a detailed after birth plan so the MWs can support us make memories.

I weirdly feel a feeling of calm because now we are aware of the outcome and can now focus on his arrival instead of wondering what's going to happen.

I can't get comfortable on these beds though have asked for so many pillows but my belly can't get into a comfortable position. 😔

It's also worrying not knowing how long this process will take 😕

Enjoy your time with him once he’s here OP xxx

I’m so sorry to read this OP

Please try and get as much painkillers as you can. There is no need for you to suffer any more pain than necessary

@MisssC3025 oh my darling, you’re so brave. Sending so much love and hand hold/hugs.

Get lots of painkillers in you and make sure you take your time afterwards. Take photographs xxx

@Bienentrinkwasser they have mentioned all options for me and have said as soon as we want to we can chat to them about all pain relief. At the moment it's more a dull ache as opposed to anything unbearable so just waiting to get codeine and see how I go! Next tablet is to be inserted in the next half hour or so 🙏