Being nosey- did you scream or were you quiet when giving birth?

[Princesspowersparkle]

Just being nosey really. I imagine myself being really quiet but I know when I get there I'll probably be screaming my head off. Think it will shock DH! x

[ZacharyQuack]

Like a banshee . The screaming was the second-best bit.

[fortyplus]

ds1 - epidural - just talked all the time (no change there).

ds2 - nothing at the end - made determined gritted teeth 'NNnnnnggghhhh!!!!' and can remember thinking in a very detached way 'That's interesting - I'm making Giving Birth Noises'.

[totaleclipse]

I only screamed (blue bloody murder) when my epidural wore off half way through c section, only for about 10 seconds though as I was stabbed with a needle and put under general anesthetic.

[mixedmama]

I had whatin hindsight and after seeing friends go through labour it all pretty easy - but I can assure you at no point did i have a positive mental attitude it just all happened to work out ok. i was negative throughout as it hurt so much - pure luck and hoping for the same this time.

[pinkmagic1]

Screamed blue murder with my 2nd! (had epidural with my first). Couldn't stop apologizing afterwards as I felt so guilty for frightening all the other mums to be who where in earlier stages of labour to me on the ward!

[Gobbledigook]

Ds1 - quiet because induced + epidural
Ds2 - quiet and calm apart from last 5 minutes, all went very fast so I lost the plot a bit
Ds3 - very quiet and calm, may have 'squealed' (ha ha!) as head crowned! Who doesn't?!

[kando]

dd1 - quiet [apart from exclamation of "whaddayathink I'm doing?" when asked to push]. Had gas and air and pethidine - not a good combo for me as I felt really out of it.

dd2 - a bit of "howling" when head crowning - had pethidine only.

dd3 - a few quiet "ow ow ow's" No pain relief AT ALL (ouch)

[theabear]

I screamed and swore lots!!! I was sooo embarassed afterwards but my dd was in the "back to back" position and it was agony. Had an epidural and it was fantastic!!

[spugs]

dd1 - screamed my head off, i lay down the whole time and took 1 1/2 hrs to push her out! blooody hurt.
dd2 - groaned a bit and may have said f word once. stayed upright for her though and pushed her out in 2 min.

[poptot]

I was completely silent apart form apologising to everyone around me for what I'm not sure. Very odd as normally you can't shut me up.

[dejags]

Intermittent silence and screaming here...


No screaming until the head crowned really - well maybe the odd scream when the pain got really intense during the final stages.

Screamed all three times when the head crowned. Boy it hurts (euphemism for it was f**king sore ).

Did not scream so much that I didn't listen to the midwife though - which is good because I never tore in any of my labours.

[treacletart]

I had a very fast unplanned home birth with DS. Screamed blue murder. Actually found screaming helped tremendously. They were definitely strange "primeval dont mess with me power screams" not "get off me what are you doing to me screams". I hadn't wanted to push until the midwife got to us, when she arrived and told me I could push if I wanted he came out in just 2. I think my power screams were actually an attempt to harness and strengthen my out breaths. I'm utterly convinced things hurt less during out breaths. Reckon I'd been breathing/screaming DS down without realising it. I'm going to be induced with no 2 in the next few weeks and have every intention of screaming even more this time and woe betide anyone who tries to stop me.

[vizbizz]

I am normally a real chatterbox, so quiet is not me. unfortunately for me I was quiet as a mouse - forgot to let the midwife know that the quieter I get the worse the pain is! D'Oh!

[casbie]

i kept saying 'sorry'.


felt like saying - for what, you silly woman your having a baby, don't appologise!

[Notyummy]

Spent most of the time moaning into the gas and air pipe, but no screaming or swearing....in fact DH said I was MUCH more polite and quiet than usual! I am quite forthright and have a mouth like a navvy, so he was fully expecting a barrage of abuse!

HOWEVER....when they took the gas and air off me so i could push without being wacked out of my brains, and THEN proceeded to give me what is known in the trade apparently as a 'high forceps delivery' (I read my notes!) without any pain relief at all, then I SCREAMED and SCREAMED. Poor DH was traumatized and burst into tears (he had been FAB all the way through). He told me afterwards that never realised a human being could make a noise like that....!

[RudiRedNose]

Growling like a lion. (well I am a leo!) I wasn't trying to make a noise but each time I did MW told me to stop pushing and I apologised over and over again as I was out of it on gas and air and pethidine. There is a reason why it is called the uncontrollable urge to push??? Guess what, I couldn't control it so dd just came right on out!

[iesha]

Iwas pretty quiet after the epidural, but before oh Lord, peple kept popping in and asking "was that a bad one"

During labour I just kept groaning, it hurts it hurts, like a little girl- until the MW knocked my drip out and I called her a f*king B*ch!! She said I did well as that was the only time I swore all day. I got my own back by throwing up all over her.

[nikster]

I got the giggles while on gas and air and pushing. I told midwife and DH that I thought I sounded like a sea mammal moaning into the gas and air pipes which seemed to echo through the walls and thought it was hilarious - they didn't laugh.
Got to love the gas and air - still hurts like nothing else but you just don't care!!

[Pickie]

DS1 a very well controlled homebirth (in our bath tub). No screaming and surprisingly no swearing)

DS2 They could hear me scream 3 houses down (found the screaming very relieving :-) and muttered (well so i hope) mild swearing! Again homebirth in bathtub.

Swore I would never have a 3rd after DS2 but am broody again so you do forget!

[JulesJules]

First one - I cried a lot - inbetween throwing up which I did every 20 mins for 24 hours...and whispered "I want to die" a lot. Did not have enough energy to be loud. In my defence, DD1 was back to back and the epidural did not work. Second time, a bit of pleasant conversation, a few jokes, a few giggles, yes, a caesarian section...

[halogen]

I love reading birth stories/experiences!

I was very lucky and didn't have too bad a time of it. I moaned and groaned a lot but it wasn't until things were really starting to happen that I started bellowing like a cow. That noise is hilarious. The midwife had left the room and suddenly came back to ask if I wanted to push. I did yell YES at that point! So she finally examined me and found I was fully dilated. I found it really hard not to carry on bellowing instead of pushing. At this point, I apparently told my partner that it wasn't going to work and we might as well give up. Ha! About half an hour later, I was someone's mother. Anyway, for me it was mostly bellowing and mooing. Where does that noise come from?!

[daisybaby]

As a mum, i grunted like a goodun.

I am now a midwife, and although a lot of my colleagues worry about women screaming, i think it's fine. If it works for you - do it.

[PavlovtheCat]

I talked to my baby constantly, telling her I loved her already, and that she was great, and that we would meet very soon. I moaned a bit, did not yell, only swore once, even when my 'doula' said, you can swear if you want to!

I did not try at all to keep it quiet, I just went with it as i wanted...

[Peachy]

Npisy with all three

with ds3 I could hear the woman next door as well

Now this is very bad and I am but I saw her as we went in, and it was the girl who bullied me at school, bringing in bags of her old clothes as a 'gift', and then I encou8ntereed her alter as my XP was a friend of her XH and she was a cowbag then

So I competed with her in my head and counted it as one of my greatest acheincvements that I beat her (by 1 minute) and got a bath first and made her wait

I am a bad person

[Dawnybabe]

Grunted and groaned with the pushing, and then when they decided dd was back to back and stuck and then my pain relief wore off leaving me with an upside down baby stuck in my pelvis, I screamed and sobbed and swore until I passed out. Sorry.....
Just make sure you tell the midwife when you want pain relief. Do not wait for her to ask.
I will have another one though cos they tell me I will probably have to have another csec, so that kinda takes the fear away.