Being nosey- did you scream or were you quiet when giving birth?

[Princesspowersparkle]

Just being nosey really. I imagine myself being really quiet but I know when I get there I'll probably be screaming my head off. Think it will shock DH! x

silent during all labours but dd2. During labour of dd2, started howling but felt that while I was crying, I wasn't able to handle the pain. So went back to being quiet.

From the point that the midwife said no to epidural sscreamed annd swore as loud as I could until she agreed to let me move fromt he birthing unit to the labour ward, then she made me walk there - i think this was transition as I cant remember that part too much, have to thank her though as by the time i walked over was time to push so missed out on the epidural which in hindsight i am pleased about.

I had a student midwife during my first delivery who had done many deliveries, but not many stitches. She didn't make too good a job of the stitches either, and seemed to be taking forever. I was still sucking like a demon on the gas and air, and at one point I came off it and said to her "what are you doing down there, making a fucking quilt?" I swear to you. I think at that point DH left the room....

totally silent with all 4. got irritated with anybody else who made a sound.

Well- looks like I'm gonna find out what I'll be like soon- waters went this morning! No contractions yet so going back in tomorrow morning where I'll prob be started off! Yey!

X

I got told off for screamning - the midwife told me it takes up too much energy....

good luck honey, and you have to let us know if you mooed,pooed, swore like a trooper or screamed like a banshee

Having had no pain relief during either birth I have to say there was a lot of moaning and grunting, not so much screaming though.

no 1 - screamed like a banshee
no 2 - just popped him out

In my first labour, even though the level of pain is the highest I'd experienced; because it wasn't a sudden, sharp, shock (it felt to me like a dull, deep aching pain which gradually intensified to a peak then ebbed away) I didn't scream or swear, because I only ever do that out of shock (like if I drop something on my foot, or cut or burn myself)...

Instead made some very low, moaning or growling noises, which I found very helpful, because I could vocalise it, but without panicking myself or anybody else, and it helped my breathing (screaming takes up WAAAAAY too much breath and energy) and I intend to try to vocalise it in the same way with this one.

I could hear the other women on the labour ward screaming and it was scary to hear, and really irritated the hell out of me, but I did realise that some women will experince different kinds of pain, or labours or may be genuinely very scared, and that their noise didn't have to affect me. In the end I didn't notice anyone else.

Ds - Epidural, nice & quiet & relaxed.

Dd - Gas & air screamed, cried & screamed even louder

So ScoobyDooooo... It's epidurals all the way then!

I don't scream or swear, but I moan, groan, moo and sometimes shout - no matter what pr I use. I've only once been asked to be quiet, but then I was losing it and yelling a leeetle bit too much, and actually needed the mild reprimand to help me get focused again.

Actually, in the earlier stages, as it starts getting intense, I sound a bit like I'm having rather good sex at the peak of the contractions .

I pretty much slept through my labour - when the midwife pointed out I'd be much better lying on my back and opening my legs I said 'No, I can do it like this'

Damn drugs!!! (legal ones I hasten to add)

I didn't have the energy for screaming.. but cried like a baby throughout! The pain's just unbearable isn't it? Like amputation without anaesthetic or something similar.. unbelievable.. and I'm just 5 weeks away from doing it again

my memory was that I was mooing like a cow but DH assures me that it was just gentle moaning, bless him!

I thought I was screaming, but DH can't remember, so I couldn't have been that bad.

My labours have all been fairly quick (ish), but I still had time to scream.
The third time my midwife delivered the baby (screaming) and said 'she has her mothers lungs then !'.

I feel if you go through childbirth with no pain relief you deserve a damn good scream.

For DD2 I didn't have much pain relief and screamed during the contractions (a panickiy ow ow OW! scream) but went fairly quiet while pushing until she was nearly out then did some shouting about how it hurt and what was the midwife doing to me???

For DD1 I did the screaming during contractions until I ran out of energy and got too high on G&A then did lots of drunk-sounding mumbling interspersed with a few very loud "OW!"s.

I have no idea, i was on another planet

What a brilliant thread. I had a very good friend deliver me who I knew was an excellent midwife so I felt very relaxed and well looked after during my labour. I moo'd during each contraction but not too loudly. I also said a lot of 'my ae, my ae'!!!! I just felt soooo much pressure in my bum!!!
I just a bit of gas and air. I was two weeks overdue, very keen, ready and relaxed to be in labour

vole3

Hilarious.

You just confirm my previous observation:-

People who have easy labours always take the credit, as if it's something clever that they did and the rest of us just missed a trick.

Enjoy the illusion. You lucky cow .

(Not bitter at all)

Talking of cows, I liked the post (on an ancient thread) where someone said the sounds she made were 'more All Creatures Great and Small than Emergency Ward 10' or similar.

I vaguely heard the sounds I made but couldn't believe they were coming from me. And they were involuntary - not like Cod musing about whether it helped or not. Wasn't optiojnal (ha-mention Cod and you start to type like her)

Eemie - you are so right about the sounds being involuntary. The stupid consultant told me off and trying to be quiet actually put me off the whole business.

Just read vole3's post. Unless you're being ironic vole, I'm very pleased you had an excellent labour. Just remember that yours wasn't typical - it doesn't mean the rest of us were crap at coping.

Right TM. My good friend gave birth a few weeks before me. She told me she had screamed the place down. I asked: did it help? and she looked at me perplexed, and said - I can't really answer that - it wasn't like that - and not long afterwards, I found out what she meant!