Being nosey- did you scream or were you quiet when giving birth?

[Princesspowersparkle]

Just being nosey really. I imagine myself being really quiet but I know when I get there I'll probably be screaming my head off. Think it will shock DH! x

Agree WHOLE-HEARTEDLY with what MelbourneMum said in response to Vole3.

I wasn't afraid throughout the whole thing, I was relaxed and knowledgeable and in a good state of mind, but when your labour is almost measured in days not hours and they are bringing in consultants and specialists and exchanging worried looks over the fetal heart rate monitor, the state of your mind doesn't really alter the hard medical facts and the unique circumstances of your labour. Every case is different and there is an ingredient of luck in how the birth goes.

Wonderful that some people have relatively easy 4 hour births. You should be grateful, not smug.

Others NEED the interventions - part of the reason our infant mortality rate is low is because these interventions exist.

State of mind is a factor, but it only gets you so far.

Much grunting and a bit of groaning with the pushing stage, but otherwise pretty quiet and no swearing (which surprised me as I have slightly fishwife tendencies normally). I expect having the gas and air thing clamped firmly between my teeth at all times during contractions up until that point helped.

The bizarre thing I found was that because my contractions were well spaced out (as was I, hahaha) I could have a perfectly polite 'could you please pass me some water' type conversations in between them. It wasn't a walk in the park, but having had a fairly easy time, it really wasn't bad, hard but not bad (wouldn't want to do it as a job though .....)

Low pitched mooing noises during pushing. Scarily polite.... I belched at one point and apologised to everyone in the room

I too mooed. I was recommended it as a way to do long conrolled breathing & it worked for me.

for ds was v quiet just groaned as i had epidural...but for dd i howled the ward down. too late for epidual dh told me afterwards i sounded like i was possesed hehe...had to apologise to woman next to me twas her first baby..

SAID (not shouted) ow ow ow in the car on the way to hospital with ds2 (was fully dilated on arrival). ds1 age 2 was in the back saying "ow ow ow" and giggling his head off. he thought it was funny.
who cares if you scream, you are pretty inlikely to say somwthing a midwife hasn't heard before.

Peachy - you are not a bad person, it was Karma being dished out on the cowbag....lol

What goes around, comes around etc

I was pretty quiet, mostly done went ow, ow, ow, ow very quietly. I tend to shut everyone out though and concentrate on ME, ME, ME

I did hear a woman next door screaming her head off though after I had given birth, apparently she had been doing it for quite a while the poor thing.

Nobody will mind if you scream or not. They mostly care about the end result .

I made very low, loud groaning hippo noises. Helped with the pushing - I pushed for 3.5 hours and burst blood vessels in and around my eyes...
I don't think I swore but I do remember saying very pathetically at one point - 'my tummy really hurts...'! Oh and asking for an epidural 10 minutes before I pushed DD out - was refused, threatened with forceps, and that did the trick...

During contrations before getting to hospital I was mainly heavy breathing and moaning but not screaming whilst holiding onto the bannisters on the stairs!
When getting to hospital (3 mins apart) I was feeling in need of pain relief, I did found walking helped and I didn't want to lay down or sit down, I wanted to stand and hold onto things!
3 hours later I was sent for a c section due to complications. Up until this time I had kept my eyes shut for the contractions and tried to breathe the gas and air to control my breathing.
I do wonder how I would have coped with the pushing part, probably would have screamed my head off!

Oh the joys of child birth - actually for me it was really not too bad, my sister has 5 children and her first 2 births were awful. I was there at both and remember thinking, not a chance are you ever going to get me in that position.... Of course the screaming and endless labour of my sister faded into the background when I found out I was pregnant. Luckily for me my first son decided to make a quick entry. From the moment of my first contraction (which hit me like a tidal wave) to actually pushing him out, it took me 1 hour 59mins!! I didnt have any pain relief and did do several cow like impressions. May I add the only reason I didnt have any pain relief was because I threw the gas and air tube at my ex as I was breathing through my nose and not my mouth - didnt really help!
My second was induced a week early as to avoid any "moments" while out shopping and suddenly ending up with more then I bargined for. Again after being given an internal which broke my waters, I took just over 2 hours and again no pain relief.
I really think the grunting sound is something you can only make in child birth as I have tried to recreate the sound for others and never can quite copy it!... One of lifes little mysteries.
Good luck with the mooing xx