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Being nosey- did you scream or were you quiet when giving birth?

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Princesspowersparkle · 12/07/2007 12:57

Just being nosey really. I imagine myself being really quiet but I know when I get there I'll probably be screaming my head off. Think it will shock DH! x

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sashasmama · 17/07/2007 09:01

hi there
i enjoyed reading your this thread! i had an emergency c section without even experiencing a contraction so i really cannot comment but i just wanted to let those who are thinking about it getting the epidural: it is OKAY and not scary... they used a really thin needle to inject painkiller into your back first, and it's really just a small pin prick, and then after that you don't feel a thing when they are actually inserting the epidural cathether. then you feel a nice warm rush in your legs and then the next second it's completely numb. so if you want it, have it and don't let anyone else influence you or make you feel like you are a loser or copping out! so i was just lying there having a conversation with my doc and aneithesist (about something in the papers i think) while he was fishing around my insides to get dd out, it was so bloody surreal. i know a lot of you really cherished your birth experience and i can see why but i am really paranoid about birthing pain and THE CUT down there so i was glad of how things turned out...!

WilkiesWizardWheezes · 17/07/2007 09:22

Started off just breathing through contractions but as it got stronger I kind of moaned down the gas and air mouthpiece.

Grunted when pushing.

No screaming though

Would anyone else like to watch their birth back i.e. of video to see what they were like?? I was high from the gas and air - I bet I was hilarious to watch

Jackaroo · 17/07/2007 09:57

I "breathed" for 5 days. I screamed like a banshee on hte 6th day, but that might have been the fact that they didn't believe i was contracting with the extra induction drugs, so wacked them up until it all went horribly wrong..... I think the screaming indicated that maybe I had been contracting OK afterall... :-) Don't start screaming straightaway, if you can help it, and then when you do, they'll take it seriously

Leati · 17/07/2007 09:59

Grunted during pushing and thats it.

FioFioJane · 17/07/2007 10:12

pmsl @ eemie, say what we are all thinking eh?

lyra41 · 17/07/2007 11:01

screamed like a stuck pig with ds2 - he was stuck too! that evening my throat was agony! there did come a point when the mw asked me to be quiet and focus on pushing - i managed to virtually bite through my bottom lip in my efforts not to scream! Happy days......

Josie57 · 17/07/2007 13:52

I think I just grunted and groaned with the effort, after 3 hours of pushing I was knackered and just trying to focus on getting my gorgeous little boy out. I was so away with the fairies that it came as a total shock when he was born - I think I just thought there was never going to be an end. However, the woman down the hall was screaming like a banshee and dh was worried it would put me off or scare me - I didn't give a f**k what she was doing, I just wanted my boy out!

ChasingSquirrels · 17/07/2007 14:52

not everyone who has an easy birth think it was down to something they did. I certainly don't - in fact I don't talk about my own IRL unless pressed, and do feel that mine are made less of by other people, just because they were easy.

DivaSkyChick · 17/07/2007 15:32

Well I for one would love to hear more from people who had easy peasy births. I have ten days to go and I WANT TO BELIEVE!!

Jackaroo · 17/07/2007 16:02

OK, well I know about 6 mums who had really easy births, as in minimal labour time, easy delivery... but then one of them ended up in shock because it was so quick....... and another took her eldest to a birthday party the next day, and then thought maybe that wasn't such a great idea

ChasingSquirrel - I have a great awe of people who have had "easy" births, and I don't think it's a lesser birth, I certainly don' think it's to do with the mother being fabulous or terrible "at it". My assumption is that it is still the most lifechanging experience, just for a more positive set of reasons that pain, screaming etc... I crave that kind of experience, and truly would be curious to hear what an "easy" experience is like (not that I'm asking you to be that person). I think some of my friends are guarded, as you are, because of my delivery. I'm guessing you don't think "Oh, that was OK, lets go and put dinner on"....

fuzzywuzzy · 17/07/2007 16:05

I was quiet, I find I cannot scream and give birth at the same time...giving birth is about the only time I am unable to multi-task as it happens...

StarlightMcKenzie · 17/07/2007 17:20

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schmizaj · 17/07/2007 17:43

Gosh what a popular thread.

DH said I screamed, I said that I made birthing noise. If you don't have drugs them noise can be really helpful. Helps to block things out and creates diversion. When you find yourself screaming just move the noise down to chest to save your throat. The focus of my loud noise moving through all of my body helped me cope. Noise good, tensing not.

Why be quiet? It's your experience, do whatever you want to that helps.

Divachick, I did have a good birth comparatively. Got into birth pool for stage 3 and it was amazing, didn't really hurt at all for that bit because of water. May not be an option but just think of 'bearing down' not 'squeezing' when it comes to pushing. Whatever way bub comes out you'll be dead proud of yourself for doing it!!! Good luck.

allgonebellyup · 17/07/2007 17:45

SCREAMED SCREAMED SCREAMED!!

vole3 · 17/07/2007 19:45

What I didn't mention in my earlier post was that because everything was so quick I ended up with a 3rd degree tear. Didn't notice it at the time, but it did smart a little afterwards.
The repair had to be done under a spinal, which was no biggie.
So the only problem was that I work at that hospital, knew all of the theatre staff and will never be able to look them in the eye over coffee without thinking of the fact that they have seen bits I'd not planned to ever show them

rantinghousewife · 17/07/2007 19:47

Screamed my farking head off. When ds was born, he was a bit of a superstar (9lb10oz was big for a baby 13 years ago). All the nurses came in the next morning to see what all the noise had been about.

bookwormtailmum · 17/07/2007 19:51

I remember swearing twice and jumping on the bed. I probably did scream at some point - probably when I was waving the gas-and-air mouthpiece around .

Dottydot · 17/07/2007 19:52

I screamed like a banshee and howled and wailed and swore until I got my epidural...

Then I apologised a lot and watched Coronation St and settled down until ds eventually made his way out!

ChasingSquirrels · 17/07/2007 20:48

Jackaroo - I certainly don't think it is anything to be in awe of, if anything I am in awe of what friends who had difficult births went through - but at the end of the day - you are there, you are in labour, and you don't have any farking choice, it has to come out one way or another doesn't it!

ds1 was a 2 hour birth, pushing (and screaming like a banshee ) for the 2nd hour, but no tearing at all and definately 'easy' compared to a lot of other people.
I didn't talk about it too much because everyone else seemed to have horred stories and would just say "lucky cow" and launch into another horror story, leaving me feeling somewhat belittled.

ds2 quite literally fell out in a 15 minute labour, and I do talk more about that one - because it is a 'story' in its own right (birthing my own baby unattended) as well as being quick.

BUT, I am totally unfit, did not 'prepare' in any way for either labour (was in total denial that it was going to happen with no.1 and would have happily had an elective section if they had said it was breach) and consider myself to have a low pain threshold - so presumably my body is pretty well built for actual childbirth (not for pg unfortunately, the 8 mo preceeding the births were pretty crap).
Also, my mum had reasonably quick labours with my brother and me (no where near as quick as mine but 8 hrs with no 1 and shorter with no 2) and my maternal grandmother had her no 5 when she went to the loo.
So I kind of presume that there is something genetic about it.

loopybear · 17/07/2007 21:26

Everyone definately knew I was delivering DD. I probably terrified the other women. I remember when I had to go to the delivery suite a couple of times (car accident etc.) DH and I would sit there thinking someone must be having an horrendous time with all the screaming or she was being murdered. I actually found it helped me focus on pushing.

rantinghousewife · 17/07/2007 21:29

Chasingsquirrels, I read somewhere that the quicker your labour, the more painful because your body doesn't have time to adjust to the pain. Don't know if that's true, both my labour's fairly lengthy but a bit bemused that your friends would think because yours was quick, it would be painless.

mamama · 17/07/2007 21:31

Quick labour. Noisy. Got told to 'shhhhh'.

frogs · 17/07/2007 21:34

Ds was born after I went from 7cm to giving birth in 10 minutes, with no time for any pain relief. I remember hearing someone making an awful lot of noise in a "cow in pain - stagey soap-opera birth" kind of way. Then at some point I realised that was me.

frogs · 17/07/2007 21:35

Oh yes, and ds was 10lb. But I do still feel residual guilt that the first sound he ever heard was his mother swearing like a docker. again.

rantinghousewife · 17/07/2007 21:36

Isn't that the first sound that all babies hear then?