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[saka]

I discharged myself from hospital against medical advice this afternoon, as I couldnt get anyone to take my dd, who is 3.8.

I felt like I was wet down below, like I had wet myself slightly but continuously, was having regular but not strong contractions, like braxton hicks, but every 7 mins and more thn uncomfortbale.

I called friends who said they would take dd and just got asked ;are you SURE this is it, are they sure your waters have gone, have they gone complatetly - given the 4th regree, instead of we are coming and will be there to help. I felt really interrogated and as if I was being a bother.

The doctor said the contractions were regular and a 2.10 on the scale, she wasnt sure if my waters had gone, there was nothing on the test, but she said it could be a slow puncture which was intermittant, and she really wanted me to stay overnight. Ive been more than uncomfortable all day. The baby was fine on the monitor.

I ended up discharing because of lack of childcare, and came home. Im still feeling really tight, and having regular, but not excrutiating contractions. Im 35 weeks now. My legs have gone to jelly, and I really needed to stay put.

Anyway, Ive told friend who was giving me the 4th degree on how important it was that I stay in, to sod off (not feeling like being nice to people, know Im being horrible, but just feeling pretty awful physically)....and said Ill get social services to take dd for a short while. They all had mroe important things to do - oike dates, meetings, or gonig to the museum with nephew tomorrow.

I had a c sectin last time. Im just going to stay where I am, go in if the scar is sore, and if not, if I end up gushing I guess I go in, but will just call an ambulance if I feel like he is actually comign out. Ive had enough. I cant get myself to hospital again, I cant bare the thought of donig much to be honest. I just want to stay put now.

Im feeling so upset that noone cares enough to say 'you stay in if they want you to and dont worry about anyth8ing.' It does hurt. Im 2 cm dilated and I guess I just have to cope.

Sorry. I am not happy being alone right now.

Its all too much

saka

Well done Saka and congratulations to both you and dd.

Emskilou, you're an inspiration.

Well done to Saka from another October thread-ee. That is such good news and you have been so brave throughout. Hope all is going well and that you are having the best time getting to know your son.

It is so wonderful to see all this support that you have had from MNetters. I am sure that it will bring tears to the eyes of anyone who reads through the entire thread.

Can't wait to hear how you are getting along ina few days' time.

Congratulations Saka from another October thread ee.

I also read through this thread last night and thought it was mumsnet and women at their very best.

Well done to everyone who offered support and to Saka on a traumatic birth but a brilliant ending!!!

and xxxx

Can't wait to hear more news of son-of-Saka.

Congratulations!
I don't know you Saka, but really admire your strength.
Fantastic news!

oh, wonderful wonderful wonderful!!!!!!

So pleased for you Saka, congratulations on your lovely little boy - and what a good size he turned out to be! Sounds like you had a good labour too.

congratulations - don't know you apart from this thread but just wanted to say well done for being so strong. You sound like you have been through loads recently, hopefully you can relax for a little while and get to know your new son.

Thankyou to E too for being brilliant.

congratulations Saka. well done.

congratulations saka-wonderful news

Oh how lovely, congratulations!

Congratulations Saka. Can't believe they were that far out with the dates!!

well done saka! x

congratulations saka
ive just seen this thread and read through everything over the past few days.you've been so brave and such a good mum to your little girl.hoping that she's happy and that you've all been looked after well.cant believe your so called friends (then again my sister was the same when i was in labour with my 2nd), good luck with everything with both your children.i hope that you are recovering well and take time to relax and enjoy your two children.let us know how things are going when you are well enough.

what's he called by the way?

Saka - so pleased for your family, from another 'due in october'

Hi everyone,

Just a quick note to say thankyou to everyone here. Without your support I wouldnt have made it through this.

Adam is doing well, he is beautiful and a real joy to me and dd. Dd is also fine, and trying to help with nappies, though has asked if she can have booby milk again with her brother.

I had no early scans,one at 28 or so weeks, and another late in pregnancy, as well as very little care as I came back to the UK pregnant - Ive had no midwife taking care of me, just a GP doing my bloodpressure now and again, one consultant appointment saying he wanted me to have a repeat section (I feel like going up to him with his 'you will split and kill the baby stats and showing him my boy whilst making some kind of rude gesture to him!) , and had trouble accessing medical care - residence issues etc..I last bled in Jan. The doctors went on that, though I said Dec and Jan were ligh periods. Sooooo....hence the suprise non-prem baby.

Still totally amazed at the birth. It has been so much easier in a lot of ways. Esp with bonding and feeding.

Both dd and ds are sleeping at the moment. We had a bit of a disturbed night's sleep!

Im so glad I had a vbac, it all went well, great midwife at the birth, minimal monitoring and I managed on gas and air. Only a tiny tear and a bit sore. It was a really positiv experience compared to dd birth.

Better go..I cant stop looking at him! Im still in shock I think...

Really, all of you are amazing women, esp emzickle, I cant say how much it meant to me to have you there, as I really wasnt 'myself' and had got a bit disorientated and scared.

Friends have insisted on staying,asked to come and see the baby. Im trying not to totally ruin friendships and taking all the help they are now offering, though still a bit angry...

I had better go before one of them wakes up.

Love you all so much. Ill be online on and off, and try and write a better birth announcement later on

Whiffy, if you are there, hope the birth went well and thank you for everything you offered HUG

Thanks to Pupace as well for being a bit tough with me, I needed someone else to take control...and to all of you for everything. Those kind words helped me so much and really gave me strength! Gosh I feel like Im accepting an oscar!!! Sorry...very over emotional!

much much love

saka

So pleased to see this - so happy for you Saka, & much admiration too! Sounds like an excellent birth - huge congrats to all 3 of you!
xxx

Morning saka,

Been thinking about you all lots, so glad you are home safe and sound. Speak to you soon when you are a little more settled.

Take care

Em & babies xxxxxxx

p.s very good idea to keep your friends around!xx

saka, that is so lovely, you sound really loved up!!!

All the best xxxx

Well done Saka, you have been so brave, congratulations on your little boy

Emskilou, you are a star

I love Mumsnet and all who sail in her

congratulations saka.you did brilliantly and should feel really proud. you're being a fantastic mother. keep going and just remember most people are completely gormless about pregnancy and childbirth til they've experienced it. one of my friends couldn't understand why i was reluctant to search endlessly for confetti for her wedding at 32 weeks pg. felt so guilty ended up doing it and had strong contractions for 24 hours-obviously she wasn't bothered by this. i'm sure when she gets round to having babies she'll be mortified. i bet your friends will be the same. do tell them how you felt though if you can do it gently, like that you won't end up screaming at them at a weak moment!
keep going you've been fantastic

what a lovely post saka. after all the panic - how wonderful that it went well, with the good mw etc. and what a privelege to witness mn at its finest. wonderful

Saka - I am so pleased to see that you had a VBAC and are safely home with your DD and new DS We were all certainly worried about you - so glad your friends helped in the end. Best wishes, mears

Aah, Saka, well done you. You deserve all that love you're feeling
And welcome, Adam!

What a heartening thread to read.

Many congratulations to you Saka, may all the worries be behind you and life start to feel sweeter from now on.

Emskilou, you are a true star, you are an inspiration to the human race, and all those who were around for Saka when she needed it, what a fantastic community this is.

Congratulations Saka. I've only seen this thread today, but am so glad that there is a happy ending .

Take care

Crayon