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saka · 15/09/2006 21:54

I discharged myself from hospital against medical advice this afternoon, as I couldnt get anyone to take my dd, who is 3.8.

I felt like I was wet down below, like I had wet myself slightly but continuously, was having regular but not strong contractions, like braxton hicks, but every 7 mins and more thn uncomfortbale.

I called friends who said they would take dd and just got asked ;are you SURE this is it, are they sure your waters have gone, have they gone complatetly - given the 4th regree, instead of we are coming and will be there to help. I felt really interrogated and as if I was being a bother.

The doctor said the contractions were regular and a 2.10 on the scale, she wasnt sure if my waters had gone, there was nothing on the test, but she said it could be a slow puncture which was intermittant, and she really wanted me to stay overnight. Ive been more than uncomfortable all day. The baby was fine on the monitor.

I ended up discharing because of lack of childcare, and came home. Im still feeling really tight, and having regular, but not excrutiating contractions. Im 35 weeks now. My legs have gone to jelly, and I really needed to stay put.

Anyway, Ive told friend who was giving me the 4th degree on how important it was that I stay in, to sod off (not feeling like being nice to people, know Im being horrible, but just feeling pretty awful physically)....and said Ill get social services to take dd for a short while. They all had mroe important things to do - oike dates, meetings, or gonig to the museum with nephew tomorrow.

I had a c sectin last time. Im just going to stay where I am, go in if the scar is sore, and if not, if I end up gushing I guess I go in, but will just call an ambulance if I feel like he is actually comign out. Ive had enough. I cant get myself to hospital again, I cant bare the thought of donig much to be honest. I just want to stay put now.

Im feeling so upset that noone cares enough to say 'you stay in if they want you to and dont worry about anyth8ing.' It does hurt. Im 2 cm dilated and I guess I just have to cope.

Sorry. I am not happy being alone right now.

Its all too much

saka

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Emskilou · 15/09/2006 22:48

Cetainly, if you are booked at southend you will most likely be taken there, depending how far you have gone, only problem is I dont have the car right now, keep me updated and I will sort something out, if you go up to S/end hosp, could you take dd with you and I will be up there with your dd??

milward · 15/09/2006 22:48

saka - thinking of you at this time xxx

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saka · 15/09/2006 22:50

yes, laboured before, whilst being pumped full of mag sulph. Dd got distressed and they did a section.

A week like this! Noooooooooooooooooooo! Ouch ouch ouch.

I had steriods at 29 weeks - i was alightly dilated and because of dd being early they gave them ot me. I had two, one one day, the other the following day.

To be onest, i dont think I can take a week of this. Im feelng a ot of movement from baby down very low, like Im being tickled. Last time I was so knocked out I idnt feel a thing really.

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hunkermunker · 15/09/2006 22:51

Emskilou, Saka, if you want to, you can both email me so I can pass your contact details on to each other - I have no qualms about posting my email addy on here: hunkermunker at gmail dot com

pupuce · 15/09/2006 22:52

Right - and how often are they these contractions now ? Can you talk through them ? How long are they !

Don't wory about the week comment... you had a section so they won't LET you labour a week !!!!

3andnomore · 15/09/2006 22:53

Saka...try to stay calm and not to stress...I know easily said...but it will help you to cope...panicking is not gonna achieve anything...try to sit down and go with the flow of your emotions and pain and see what you fe3el...
with ms I knew, as I did with all of mine, that I was in labour no way how light...but within a day plus some hours my Baby;s were born, lol...anywa, dh was in NI when I started labour with ms 13 days early and he asked me...are th contracts strong...are they consistet...by then I was every 5-3 minutes, but coped well...and I could not say...yeah I have this Baby any minute now...but then, I also believe that my labour was so slow and sedate because my body held back for him to come...as soon as he came through the door of the delivery Unit my contractions got more painful and stronger!
So...maybe you need to get things sorted to relax into it all!

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saka · 15/09/2006 22:53

Emiskilou, that would be great. Can I let you know somehow if Im going in, and meet you there?

Im going to hold out here as long as possible, so dont wait up. But if it is morning and you are alright with coming up, to know dd was waiting with someone and I didnt have to worry would be great.

I dont want to wake dd up unless I really have to.

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Emskilou · 15/09/2006 22:54

Will CAT you my details xx

3andnomore · 15/09/2006 22:54

Oh forgot to say, I think...once dh was through the door I had ds within that hour

bighug · 15/09/2006 22:55

Hello saka I am 34 weeks and have been loitering on the Due October thread so know a little bit about the difficulties you have been going through recently. How are you feeling right now? It must be hard being on your own plus having your DD to think about. My heart goes out to you. If your contractions intensify and become more frequent then you should definitely phone the delivery suite to say you are coming back and then call an ambulance and take your daughter with you if no friend will help out (surely they will though once you are definitely in labour).

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saka · 15/09/2006 22:56

About every 5 mins now. I can breathe still, but cant walk, talk but breathless. It doesnt REALLY hurt, but it certainly doesnt feel good either.

Its better if Im on my hands and knees, if I sit up then it makes it feel worse.

Ill start to time them properly.

Thanks pupuce.

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hunkermunker · 15/09/2006 22:59

EMSKILOU AND SAKA, EMAIL ME!

CATs can take ages to come through.

If you both email me, you'll be in touch in seconds.

hunkermunker at gmail dot com

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saka · 15/09/2006 22:59

They last between 10 and 15 seconds at the moment.

Im going to try and have a cup of tea.

Em..thanks for sending me your details...

love saka

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Emskilou · 15/09/2006 22:59

It wont let me CAT you hun, my email is emma dot connors at btinternet dot com, give me your details or number and I will call you xxxxxx

pupuce · 15/09/2006 23:00

I think you still have some time (1h or 2 maybe more)... If you find that you really have to concentrate to deal with the contractions, (and can't face typing on mumsnet)... I'd call the ambulance.
I am afraid I have to leave the internet.... sorry........... I really wish I could stay!
Let us know how it ends... I am sure happily..... look after yourself... you are being very brave you should be damn proud of yourself !

hunkermunker · 15/09/2006 23:00

Or just email Emskilou, Saka

Good luck - and look forward to your birth announcement

pupuce · 15/09/2006 23:01

Right - Saka if they are that short... can I suggest you actually take 2 paracetamols and try to rest ? You will need the strength!
Drink/eat what ever you like but try resting....
Hugs xxxx

milward · 15/09/2006 23:02

You are strong saka - & a wonderful mum xxx

MissyCocker · 15/09/2006 23:03

good night and good luck Saka...I hope things work out well for you, your dd and your baby xx

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saka · 15/09/2006 23:05

Im going to have a break and see how it goes here for as long as possible.

Em, if you email me your phone number to fujiyakee at aol dot com, if it is a reasonable time of day Ill call you.

One good thing, Im now very set against the section unless it is absolutely necessary. I was a bit uncertain before, but feel more confident now that I can do it naturally. I did want a vbac, but the baby turned to a good position, and my scar doesnt feel odd at all, I think I can do this. So, that is positive.

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hunkermunker · 15/09/2006 23:05

Emskilou, have forwarded you Saka's details in case she didn't see your email addy x x x

Emskilou · 15/09/2006 23:17

Thank you hunkermunker, have emailed you my number saka, I'm going to bed now, but you have my details xxx

holidaysoon · 15/09/2006 23:29

Hi Saka I know you've gone off for a bit, Good Luck with it if you come back in the middle of the night. Just wanted to say if they get bad don't hesitate to call ambulance and take dd with you there are pleanty of people in a hosp who could sit with her so they will find someone and manage.

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saka · 16/09/2006 09:32

Just to let people know it is getting worse,but very very slowly. I had a bit of sleep, got woken up again by the pain, dozed off, managed to prop self up with pillows and at least shut my eyes.

The wetness is about the same, unless Im lying down, when it seems to speed up a bit. It is clear though. Im taking my temp whenever I remember, and its normal. The baby is moving around. My scar area doesnt feel sore. So I figure everything is alright.

The plan is still to stay put, and when I need to go in, take dd with me and call social services. It wont be nice for dd, but I will be back as soon as I can, and there is no other sensible option.

Ill let people know how it goes. Thank you for last night. You are all stars!

saka

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milward · 16/09/2006 09:39

best wishes to you saka xxx

call the m/w's at the hospital to see what they say & let them know how you're doing.