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saka · 15/09/2006 21:54

I discharged myself from hospital against medical advice this afternoon, as I couldnt get anyone to take my dd, who is 3.8.

I felt like I was wet down below, like I had wet myself slightly but continuously, was having regular but not strong contractions, like braxton hicks, but every 7 mins and more thn uncomfortbale.

I called friends who said they would take dd and just got asked ;are you SURE this is it, are they sure your waters have gone, have they gone complatetly - given the 4th regree, instead of we are coming and will be there to help. I felt really interrogated and as if I was being a bother.

The doctor said the contractions were regular and a 2.10 on the scale, she wasnt sure if my waters had gone, there was nothing on the test, but she said it could be a slow puncture which was intermittant, and she really wanted me to stay overnight. Ive been more than uncomfortable all day. The baby was fine on the monitor.

I ended up discharing because of lack of childcare, and came home. Im still feeling really tight, and having regular, but not excrutiating contractions. Im 35 weeks now. My legs have gone to jelly, and I really needed to stay put.

Anyway, Ive told friend who was giving me the 4th degree on how important it was that I stay in, to sod off (not feeling like being nice to people, know Im being horrible, but just feeling pretty awful physically)....and said Ill get social services to take dd for a short while. They all had mroe important things to do - oike dates, meetings, or gonig to the museum with nephew tomorrow.

I had a c sectin last time. Im just going to stay where I am, go in if the scar is sore, and if not, if I end up gushing I guess I go in, but will just call an ambulance if I feel like he is actually comign out. Ive had enough. I cant get myself to hospital again, I cant bare the thought of donig much to be honest. I just want to stay put now.

Im feeling so upset that noone cares enough to say 'you stay in if they want you to and dont worry about anyth8ing.' It does hurt. Im 2 cm dilated and I guess I just have to cope.

Sorry. I am not happy being alone right now.

Its all too much

saka

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Elibean · 17/09/2006 20:34

Delighted to catch up on the news! Definitely MN at its best, very special...
Thanks again Em, really appreciate you posting.
Most of all, relieved that Saka's dd is sounding happy

Miaou · 17/09/2006 20:35

sending positive vibes to you saka ... hope you are doing ok and we hear the announcement soon!

hester · 17/09/2006 22:58

So very pleased that all is going ok, Saka - I've been worried about you. (I also hope the midwife was very, very crusty to your friend..)

Forgive the hijack, but pupuce I've just seen your message and yes, I have a dd! Eleven months old and an absolute delight. I am very, very happy

Saka, can't wait to read the birth announcement x

Miaou · 18/09/2006 06:58

Just logged on to see if there was any news yet... hope you are doing ok saka

Pruni · 18/09/2006 07:48

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jmcmugwump · 18/09/2006 07:49

Another one from the October thread - best wishes to Saka and her dd (and soon to be DS) She has had a really tough time of it and is being incredibly brave - well done mnetters - I think now oficially the 4th emergency service

FoghornLeghorn · 18/09/2006 08:07

So glad you decided to go in Saka, and hopefully someone has come and got your DD by now.
Good Luck

DogMum · 18/09/2006 08:51

I'm another from the October thread. Blimey poor Saka's really been through it. Fabulous that she received so much support from mnetters, esp. Emskilou. Thanks for keeping us updated.

Look forward to seeing the birth announcement.

Swizzler · 18/09/2006 10:14

Another October person here - love to Saka, her DD and (if he's arrived by now!) new DS .

So glad of everyone's support over the weekend - this is where Mumsnet comes into its own.

Highlander · 18/09/2006 10:16

more positive vibes from another October-ee.

Hope the baby has popped when I log in again tonight xxxxxx

hunkermunker · 18/09/2006 10:16

Thinking of you, Saka - glad that you have a good midwife - your DD sounds a star too. Emskilou, thanks for the updates x x x

Emskilou · 18/09/2006 10:21

Morning all,

You'll have to excuse me I'm all emotional again!!! An extremely happy saka has just called me to say that as of 12:30 am she has a beautiful baby boy, he weighed 8 lbs 5 ozs born naturally. She is over the moon, he looks very much like his big sister. She said the midwife stayed with her the whole time and let saka take the lead, they had originally wanted to have her constantly monitored but saka was far happier moving around which she did and everything was fine. They are letting them go home today all being well with the pediatrician and she says she will be back online in a few days!! Saka especially wanted to thank those mners who were quite stern and kicked her up the backside (her words!!), she says she could not have got through this without everyone and really really appreciates the help and support she got from everyone. Well I am welling up even more now, so so so so so happy for saka and her beautiful children!!! Hope I have got everything down in this post, take care everyone, em xxxx

hunkermunker · 18/09/2006 10:23

BRILLIANT!

Congratulations, Saka! Welcome to your beautiful baby boy - and well done, you incredible woman!

(I promise never to say I told you so about getting in touch with a MNer, OK? )

pageturner · 18/09/2006 10:26

Brilliant news! Congratulations saka!

pupuce · 18/09/2006 10:26

Fabulous - thanks Emskilou....
I am so pleased she got what she wanted !!!
And what a big boy for a 35 weeker!!!

Emskilou · 18/09/2006 10:31

Oops meant to say that her dates were wrong, by 6 weeks! Never mind, just so happy all is well with the saka family! Ahhhh made my day, cant stop grinning

FoghornLeghorn · 18/09/2006 10:48

Fatastic news Well Done Saka

And well done to you too Emskilou, you sound like you have been a huge help and comfort for Saka.

anniediv · 18/09/2006 10:50

I read through all of this last night, so exciting. Congratulations to all concerned.

Pruni · 18/09/2006 10:52

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Highlander · 18/09/2006 10:52

wahey!!

Elibean · 18/09/2006 10:58

Hurrah! Well done Saka, congratulations!
And thanks again Em

Swizzler · 18/09/2006 11:24

Fantastic news

Big thanks to Emskilou for all her support and for keeping us informed

lemonaid · 18/09/2006 11:40

Ooooh! Congratulations saka, DD and DS! Lovely to have a happy ending after a traumatic few days for you.

zippy539 · 18/09/2006 11:49

Have actually got a tear in my eye. Brilliant, brilliant news. Well done Saka and your dd, and welcome to ds.

girlygale1 · 18/09/2006 13:14

Another one from the October thread - Congratulations Saka, read through everything last night, but didn't post, just had to say that I found all the support everyone offered Saka was overwhelming, and am glad that at least she had support from all of you.

Am so pleased that at last through all the crap Saka has gone through she has got the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. Much love to you Saka and your new family xxx

... Amazed at how they can get the dates THAT wrong!!!!!!