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Young Vibes. New company set up by the same people as Your Child Freedom Formula and Peaky Parents
Hols12345 · 18/02/2022 06:38
Hello, if you're looking for information on youngvibes.co.uk child anxiety program, they are the same people as YCFF and Peaky Parents. They've set up under a new name.
See previous thread for discussion:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/child_adolescent_mental_health/4352676-Peaky-Parents-Kactus-Kids-formerly-known-as-Your-Child-Freedom-Programme-YCFF-and-other-previous-names-Child-anxiety-programme
BruisedSkies · 03/08/2022 19:09
Hey, @NickyRus How was the call? I’d agree that you need to read the threads and listen to the Radio 4 programme on it. Then you can make up your own mind about whether you think that they may be able to help your step-son.
No one has actually be able to say what the programme involves, apparently it was too complicated to explain. There are some deletions on the first thread due to ‘sock-puppeting’ which is where a person uses multiple usernames and pretends to be different people. In this case, one person was pretending to be multiple happy customers. Sam’s first ever post got deleted at she was sock puppeting.
I’ve also name changed a few times, but haven’t pretended to be different people.
There is a ruling from the ASA when the company was called Your Child Freedom Formula for making false claims. Trust Pilot also stopped people making new reviews because they’d been using them falsely. Same with Peaky Parents. They’ve also been known as Kaktus Kids, Anxiety Free You and some other things. Can’t remember them all now.
Teen has some good tips on how her daughter recovered. There is a lot lacking in NHS services and it can be hard to find support that is sufficient.
TeenDivided · 03/08/2022 19:16
Yes, I have posted re my DD's recovery (ongoing, but so much better than at her worst Autumn 2020). However my DD does not (as far as we are aware) have autism - her anxiety is almost certainly trauma based (she is adopted).
(User name might change but always starts with Teen)
Perfectstorm72 · 03/08/2022 19:22
Yes, interested to hear how you got on with your call @NickyRus and also to let you know of local parent support groups and organisations who can support you via signposting, local services and loads of support. Free of charge. I run a group who has parents who have paid £5k and been very let down and dissatisfied. Hence my interest in protecting and warning others praying on the vulnerability of scared parents have a look at PLACE network from Charlie Waller Trust which lists lots of local support groups for parents and carers of children and young people with mental health issues as well as this with Autism and ADHD etc.
Mibb2 · 03/08/2022 20:10
Hi @NickyRus. I'm glad you found these threads. I've been on them since early on. Originally as Mibb then Mibb2 and I'm also hols12345.
Theres also a thread in AIBU which has some screenshots and links www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4601299-to-warn-you-about-this-company-offering-solutions-to-childs-anxiety-and-school-refusal
I haven't used the program but I have been on the receiving end of a lot of aggression and reactivity from Sam and others supporting her on these threads.
I hope that you're able to find help for your child. There is definitely support here and useful links provided by other posters.
BruisedSkies · 03/08/2022 20:58
Just looked at Young Vibes UK YouTube account. Anyone seen it? I’m super confused as to why all the Child Mentors there have South African (?) accents? Can someone else watch it and get back with what they think? Coincidence? Something else? (I’m not very good at recognising accents)
TeenDivided · 04/08/2022 07:20
BruisedSkies · 04/08/2022 07:09
Yeah definitely. Much better to be able to try it for cheaper and then see if it’s helping. Not to be guilt tripped into spending £5k and encouraged to take out loans or borrow from family to pay it
Unless it is like drug dealers? Give you a little bit with promises that the real good stuff will come, but then to get the apparently 'good stuff' you have to fork at thousands? I must be getting cynical
3xteens · 04/08/2022 10:20
NickyRus · 03/08/2022 17:28
Hi, I'm new to Mumsnet. Just seen this thread and I'm really startled. We have a call with these people at 6.30 this evening. My step-son has ADHD and atypical autism, is on meds and his anxiety is out of control. We were really hoping they would be able to help. Have people actually had bad experiences of them or is these more generic comments? And any other ideas for combatting horrendous anxiety that the private psychiatrist doesn'
t seem able to touch? Thanks x
Hi @NickyRus my advice is beware. In our experience they/Sam does not acknowledge autism. Although we feel angry with ourselves for getting involved (Sam makes it very clear which parents she likes and doesn't like. I had all of my confidence as a parent knocked out of me by that woman), we have come away with a clearer picture of what we need to do for our child at the moment. For us just taking all pressure off, not involving any outside influences and just accepting our child for who they are. I have great faith that given time with us by their side they will find their own way. This approach probably wouldn't work for everyone but it has certainly changed things for us.
The programme pushes lots of changes, one after the other. As you know change is not great for an autistic person. It had massive expectations on parents and you are quickly put down or spoken to negatively when at your most vulnerable. They also start to question your own anxiety/depression medication and try to talk you into stopping it without any real knowledge of what it is etc ( they hadn't heard of my medication and had no idea of other medications and the interaction if I just stopped one). They then delve into you personal life and relationships, even suggesting that you block family members out of your life if they aren’t supportive or have a negative effect on you. Looking back I can see how quickly we were drawn in and how it took over our lives.
I still agree with the basis of the programme and see how it might work for some people with anxiety BUT it all seems to be based on one person's personal experience - Sam. To my knowledge she has never been a parent of a child with severe anxiety and all of the scary things that come with it. No one when questioned has been able to tell us how the programme helps autistic people! I've seen employees come and go on the programme whose children have been on the programme. Whilst the mentors are lovely they all follow the same spiel. As does the child psychologist (or whatever she is, if she's still there).
Mibb2 · 04/08/2022 11:51
3xteens · 04/08/2022 10:20
Hi @NickyRus my advice is beware. In our experience they/Sam does not acknowledge autism. Although we feel angry with ourselves for getting involved (Sam makes it very clear which parents she likes and doesn't like. I had all of my confidence as a parent knocked out of me by that woman), we have come away with a clearer picture of what we need to do for our child at the moment. For us just taking all pressure off, not involving any outside influences and just accepting our child for who they are. I have great faith that given time with us by their side they will find their own way. This approach probably wouldn't work for everyone but it has certainly changed things for us.
The programme pushes lots of changes, one after the other. As you know change is not great for an autistic person. It had massive expectations on parents and you are quickly put down or spoken to negatively when at your most vulnerable. They also start to question your own anxiety/depression medication and try to talk you into stopping it without any real knowledge of what it is etc ( they hadn't heard of my medication and had no idea of other medications and the interaction if I just stopped one). They then delve into you personal life and relationships, even suggesting that you block family members out of your life if they aren’t supportive or have a negative effect on you. Looking back I can see how quickly we were drawn in and how it took over our lives.
I still agree with the basis of the programme and see how it might work for some people with anxiety BUT it all seems to be based on one person's personal experience - Sam. To my knowledge she has never been a parent of a child with severe anxiety and all of the scary things that come with it. No one when questioned has been able to tell us how the programme helps autistic people! I've seen employees come and go on the programme whose children have been on the programme. Whilst the mentors are lovely they all follow the same spiel. As does the child psychologist (or whatever she is, if she's still there).
NickyRus · 03/08/2022 17:28
Hi, I'm new to Mumsnet. Just seen this thread and I'm really startled. We have a call with these people at 6.30 this evening. My step-son has ADHD and atypical autism, is on meds and his anxiety is out of control. We were really hoping they would be able to help. Have people actually had bad experiences of them or is these more generic comments? And any other ideas for combatting horrendous anxiety that the private psychiatrist doesn'
t seem able to touch? Thanks x
@3xteens thanks for that post, it's very measured and thoughtful and makes total sense.
I'm so sorry you went through this, and totally understand how vulnerable a parent is in that position which is why I haven't let this go.
I have a child currently in the process of ASD assessment and your approach of taking the pressure off is also what I've done. It's hard to do when everything around you seems to be telling you to do the opposite but it's genuinely the only thing that has helped. Xx
BruisedSkies · 04/08/2022 14:37
Thanks for sharing that, 3x. I’m sorry she made you feel worse as a parent and knocked your confidence out of you. She doesn’t even believe autism exists apart from us all being a bit on the spectrum. It sounds like you know what your child needs really intuitively.
BruisedSkies · 05/08/2022 00:37
That’s loads more email perfect. Didn’t even get that many when I was signed up to VoucherCodes.
benhoward it’s not exactly Linden method but I think was influenced by that. I can’t quite remember the link but hopefully someone else will remember.
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