Your child freedom formula / child anxiety programmes - thread 2

[Psuedoshoes]

Carrying on the discussion of YCFF and other similar programmes...

Link to previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/child_adolescent_mental_health/4239684-your-child-freedom-formula-has-anyone-tried-it?msgid=108493516#108493516

Thanks pseudo. Hopefully @gracelands will be along to help.

posted from end of previous thread:

Gracelands (and anyone else using the programme), I'd still be really interested to know:

• Can you tell us any more about the advice you are given on how to handle things?
• How long have you been on the programme for?
• What kind of improvements have you seen so far?

Hullo :) Found you.

Thought it had all gone quiet over there so piled on over.Hope you don’t mind me barging in.

I love a bit of barging double

👋👋 thanks for the new thread

@SwanShaped Only good-naturedly, of course

Hi Double 👋 and barge away

Must say, you’re a very friendly lot :D

hello it’s me...

Us "mums" are don't you know double 😆

Hullo @GoodButNaughty - hope you’re feeling much better

We all took quite a ridiculous and unwarranted pasting. I think a bit of acknowledging that, and letting go, with some breathing exercises would be a good start to the thread.

Hope you and your families are all as well as can be x

@dappledsunshine Is that a subtle hint that you’re actually a bloke? :D

I couldn't possibly say double......

Just popping on to say hello I'm a lurker. Thank you so much for your well argued points. I am desperate and exhausted, lacking in emotional energy for the debate, and really appreciate you sticking up for vulnerable people, who should not be subjected to a hard sell.

Hi inspector. I think that's what got me - the fact they want you to part with such a large sum out of sheer desperation. I was glad of the thread too as I'd had the call - the lady I spoke to knew I was a single parent yet expected me to make a payment that day! To me it's akin to mediums who pray on those grieving - only a much larger amount of money is at stake.

The threads have been useful for talking about other options too, so welcome

Thanks @Psuedoshoes my DD is currently sectioned and medicated in a psych unit. Ive looked hard at the choices I've made over the years, and am happy with them. I am content this is not my fault and therefore find the narrative from YCFF offensive. It's great seeing alternatives being suggested - for us I suspect we're a rare case of receiving massive support from CAMHS and I'm eternally grateful to our NHS. I feel the solution is to look at the causes and do more to prevent, rather than allow the epidemic to continue. Social media, school expectations, ongoing harassment of girls, and just a generally bloody depressing world that these kids can't face.

Inspector

I think all of us are trying to do the very best we can by our children. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, but if I look back, then at every step of the way we made decisions with our DDs' best interests at heart.

Morning all. Well, I’m afraid I’m having a bit of a difficult day (more than usual). dd1 is battling anorexia. And it seems her friends have pretty much abandoned her. And I’m feeling at absolute rock bottom, as is she. Difficult to know what to do, other than fall to pieces.
@InspectorHastings Hello. No, it’s not your fault.

Need a strong coffee. As you were x

Oh that's so tough Inspector - and no, definitely NOT your fault. We have enough guilt already as parents to have to the blame of mental health conditions placed on our shoulders too. And I feel you too Double, when my DD's having a bad day I just feel absolutely helpless, I want to do something to make things better but sometimes there's just nothing that can be done other than wait it out. Especially given the last 18 months that families have had to endure.

@Psuedoshoes I know - it’s just been awful for most people :( Feeling a bit stronger now.

Wow I had fallen off the thread and hadn’t realised there had been so much more discussion - will go and catch up. Best wishes to all helping their anxious children 💐

This is possibly too 'easy' for people who have got as far as posting on here, but I have attended various events in person and they speak well, so you may want to check her out. A couple of sessions on understanding & managing anxiety coming up in next 2 weeks.

www.eventbrite.co.uk/o/lorraine-lee-training-7910172302

(By zoom so attendable from anywhere in the country)