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Retroperitoneal Leiomyosarcoma part 2

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Earlandmrsgrey · 24/01/2026 09:02

The power of Mumsnet...I actually had a reasonable nights sleep!!

Work night out tonight. Bongo's Bingo in Clapham. Not sure what to expect but I wasn't going to turn it down. I'm hoping to find a good balance of doing stuff/doing nothing this year. I get so exhausted, but I don't want to spend the rest of my life on the sofa! This blasted cancer has at least resulted in the reconnection of some old school friendships. Every cloud... sometimes you just have to search a little deeper for the silver lining.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/cancer/5394978-likely-pancreatic-cancer-how-do-i-tell-my-mum-that-im-probably-dying-from-the-same-thing-that-killed-my-father?page=1

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Beachtastic · 30/07/2026 06:59

Gosh OP I would find a day trip in and out of London exhausting, let alone what awaited you there. I hope you had a cardi with you!!!

Earlandmrsgrey · 31/07/2026 13:39

I'm amazed at how quickly all my hair is growing back! Especially my eyebrows...I don't think they've been this thick since the 1990s when I plucked them all out. Damn you fashion!

So far I'm only suffering from mild nausea, a bit of constipation and facial flushing causing the capillaries to burst. All not as bad as when on Dox though.

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Daftapath · 04/08/2026 23:10

Good news that the current side effects are relatively gentle. Hopefully they have and will stay that way

Earlandmrsgrey · 10/08/2026 18:40

Big pants pulled up (to be honest, since having the stoma they've always been big with an added pouch to hold the bag in place) and port insertion complete. Now that the local anaesthetic is wearing off it hurts a bit but the procedure itself was just weird and occasionally uncomfortable.

Celebrated with a Honey & Co cheesecake. Yummy.

Chemo again on Wednesday. Then off to Cornwall for a week on Friday.

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hourspassed · 10/08/2026 18:58

Well done on enduring the port insertion! I had a PICC line in my arm for chemo and hated it! But it served the purpose I guess.

Have a fabulous time in Cornwall - such a beautiful place to visit.

Tastycelery · 10/08/2026 19:04

@Earlandmrsgrey you are a trooper. StarCheesecake very much deserved.
Have a wonderful week in beautiful Cornwall.

Daftapath · 10/08/2026 23:37

Hope the sun shines in Cornwall for you!

Flamingmentalcats · 11/08/2026 06:48

Enjoy your week away x

Iamnotalemming · 11/08/2026 09:26

@Earlandmrsgrey sunflowers as promised! Have a good time in Cornwall.

Retroperitoneal Leiomyosarcoma part 2
WatieKatie · 11/08/2026 10:57

I hope that you have a wonderful time away in Cornwall and enjoy plenty of cream teas.

namechange62 · 14/08/2026 20:09

Earlandmrsgrey · 10/08/2026 18:40

Big pants pulled up (to be honest, since having the stoma they've always been big with an added pouch to hold the bag in place) and port insertion complete. Now that the local anaesthetic is wearing off it hurts a bit but the procedure itself was just weird and occasionally uncomfortable.

Celebrated with a Honey & Co cheesecake. Yummy.

Chemo again on Wednesday. Then off to Cornwall for a week on Friday.

I live in Cornwall! I truly hope you have good weather and it's not too hot for you.. low 20s today and a cooling breeze.. (North Cornwall)

Earlandmrsgrey · 15/08/2026 12:08

Thanks for the sunflowers, they're beautiful.

Absolutely excelled myself this morning. My husband has always wanted to do the Eden Project Parkrun so I joined him! Mostly walked it but I am so proud of myself! Then a mooch around the biomes and up to the lookout where it was almost 47 degrees.

Need a little sleep now but feeling well and truly alive.

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Jasminesmellingcandles · 15/08/2026 16:16

Incredible good for you , well deserved nap 🌺

Daftapath · 15/08/2026 18:56

Wow! Well done!

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 16/08/2026 13:52

Amazing @Earlandmrsgrey

I'm in awe. You've got so much courage.

Wowsersbrowsers · 17/08/2026 12:51

The Eden project is gorgeous. What a beautiful day.

Earlandmrsgrey · 19/08/2026 13:47

It seems that today marks one year since my first post. What a year it's been! So many ups and downs and blind bends to navigate. Now I reach another one. Royal Marsden have turned me down as they don't believe the journey is any quicker?! However, I can go to Southampton. Southampton is clearly closer and easier, but do I want to? I'm happy with UCLH and I've met other sarcoma patients on the same regime as me so we see each other every fortnight. Apparently Southampton is part of the wider London sarcoma group so care should be the same but I don't know whether I trust this or not. I once rang Southampton Maggie's and the person answering my call didn't know what a sarcoma is. I know Maggie's isn't actually giving the treatment but it's a wider alarm bell. If only I had a crystal ball.

In other news, I'm still on holiday in Cornwall with my husband's family. He has had to leave today as he couldn't get tomorrow off work. Everyone else has gone out and I had a lovely peaceful walk down to the beach and then along the coastal path. Bliss. Monday was more chaotic and ended with my mother in law being taken to hospital. She's still there awaiting more tests. She's not been well for a while but has been resisting any medical attention and will not take advice. She's a very stubborn woman who I love dearly but in many ways that I won't go into this is her own doing.

I shall spend the rest of the afternoon reading. May be later I'll head to the village shop for an ice-cream.

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Daftapath · 19/08/2026 17:00

I think if you are happy with the treatment at UCLH, I can see that it would be a huge reason to stay there. Will travel become tougher though and would S’oton then be an easier/better option?

Sorry to read about your mil. Hope they can identify what is wrong quickly and treat her.

Do go and have that icecream! Eat all the icecream!

Earlandmrsgrey · 27/08/2026 11:28

Lots going on! This will be long.

MIL was discharged on the Thursday afternoon. I had a go at her about eating and drinking and she was very taken back as I'm not normally so blunt! She was taken home on Sunday and had a Dr appointment on the Monday which my BIL went to. Seems that she listened to my advice (but didn't to DH, BIL or SIL who have all said the same thing). She is brighter and perkier all round. I hope she keeps it up.

In the end I decided to stick with UCLH. I've not met a member of staff whom I dislike. They are more specialised than Southampton and overall they see more rare cancers so even the radiography teams don't bat an eyelid at all my missing organs!

Pre-chemo consultation was on Monday. My RBCs are low but kidney and liver function are good so they don't think iron supplements will do anything. My neutrophils were only 0.99 and the cut off for this chemo is 1. They would be happy at 0.99 though but I would require a repeat before infusion. I then met my sister for a touristy day out. A river trip, then over Tower bridge to Southwark Cathedral and finally the Shard. Loved them both. Last time I did a river trip my boys were small and I spent most of my time making sure that they somehow didn't launch themselves over the side! Therefore I didn't listen to the commentary, this time I learnt so much more! The Shard was fabulous, it was a clear afternoon and we could see so much. If you live in London and you haven't done it then you should. Especially if you enjoy a city break and do all the sites elsewhere but are never a tourist in your own home area. Next on my list is St Paul's and a Tower Bridge tour.

Tuesday was a much needed rest day!!

Back again yesterday. Unfortunately my neutrophils had dropped to 0.92. It took almost 2 hours before the team agreed to go ahead. This meant that I didn't leave until about 17:15 despite getting there at 9:45. A long day!! Was joined for part of it by a friend I met when we both did outdoor military fitness classes. She was an art student at the time and moved on about 14years ago. I've not seen her since. Unfortunately she's not been in the greatest of health and has resulted in physical and mental health problems. I genuinely think it was a positive afternoon for both of us as we could moan about ourselves but listen and emphasise with each other at the same time. A real reminder that sometimes Cancer isn't the worst thing that can happen.

I'll be back on the filgrastim injections from now on. DH will be doing as many as possible as he is much better at it than me.

My brother flew in from NZ yesterday. Last saw him 3 years ago. He's had to leave the family behind for this trip though. All being well he will pop over on Friday and we'll do some touristy stuff in Winchester. I'll have to wear my mask for the whole day so hoping the humidity drops by then. Then Monday will be a family get together...I will stay well!

Some scrotum broke my youngest drivers door window the other day at his Uni address. Police not interested. Still trying to get insurance company to get on with it. Currently he and car are back with us and we're all ferrying him around to work again. Feel really sorry for him.

Currently I look like a beetroot. Dacarbazine is really light sensitive and despite factor 50 I've really caught the sun. Coupled with the chemo flushes that break my facial capillaries I look awful. DH keeps asking if I'm alright as it looks like I've spent the morning crying.

Providing my neutrophils respond to the injections then I might go back to do some sort of work in the next few weeks. Fingers crossed!

Time to go...a massive hawkmoth has just flown in the back door and gone straight up to the roof lantern. Need to get the fishing net out and catch it. I'll be the one with a broken leg from standing on the sofa!!

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DeQuin · 27/08/2026 13:47

Glad you decided to stay with UCLH -- I would have done the same. Having a team you know and trust is worth a lot.

The Shard is amazing. Fun things circa St Paul's: the cafe on the 5th? 6th? 10th? floor of the Tate modern has a table and bench with a sheet window overlooking the river and is an amazing view. There is also a restaurant with a fun view of St Paul's: Madisons. Is quite tricky to find the entrance to IIRC but worth doing -- a cocktail bar on the roof and a restaurant with amazing views.

Sorry about the beetroot look, and needing to catch things in the roof lantern. We used to get dragonflies that would not be caught.

Muchtoomuchtodo · 29/08/2026 12:48

It sounds as if you’re doing amazing @Earlandmrsgrey

i think I’d have stuck with the team at uclh too in your position.

Your London adventures sound great, I’ve only ever been with the kids and fancy the idea of exploring without distractions! I think you’ve inspired me to look into booking a trip.

Hope you have a wonderful time with your brother xx

Earlandmrsgrey · 02/09/2026 12:49

Had a lovely day with my brother on Friday. We normally don't have a huge amount to talk about as we're just so very different in every way. He is deeply religious and does a lot of preaching back home. I'm not religious in the slightest! We had a lovely chat, I think all his preaching meant that he was able to talk about death and dying very openly. It was very refreshing and I felt much better for it. Did the Winchester touristy stuff together and had a bit of a Monty Python sing song under the Round Table!

Monday was a family day with. Obviously with a brother in NZ we're not often all together. Bad family photographs all done.

This infusion has been horrid for side effects. First there was the photosensitivity, then swollen ankles and sciatica down the right leg. Then bone pain in the right foot. Then the most hideous bone pain in my spine, ribs and sternum...likely due to the filgrastim injections. Fortunately that pain now seems to be over. Left ankle seems to be fine now but the right still hurts. Rest of me is fine though!

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namechange62 · 02/09/2026 13:22

Earlandmrsgrey · 02/09/2026 12:49

Had a lovely day with my brother on Friday. We normally don't have a huge amount to talk about as we're just so very different in every way. He is deeply religious and does a lot of preaching back home. I'm not religious in the slightest! We had a lovely chat, I think all his preaching meant that he was able to talk about death and dying very openly. It was very refreshing and I felt much better for it. Did the Winchester touristy stuff together and had a bit of a Monty Python sing song under the Round Table!

Monday was a family day with. Obviously with a brother in NZ we're not often all together. Bad family photographs all done.

This infusion has been horrid for side effects. First there was the photosensitivity, then swollen ankles and sciatica down the right leg. Then bone pain in the right foot. Then the most hideous bone pain in my spine, ribs and sternum...likely due to the filgrastim injections. Fortunately that pain now seems to be over. Left ankle seems to be fine now but the right still hurts. Rest of me is fine though!

Probably easier to tell us which bits don't hurt?! I'm glad you had a lovely visit with your brother..
Sending hugs..

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 03/09/2026 16:24

I love reading your updates as you're so busy always.

I'm sorry you're having so much pain, though.

Winchester is a great place. I worked there for six weeks years ago and really enjoyed it.

Hope you start to feel better soon.

hourspassed · 03/09/2026 20:48

Lovely update @Earlandmrsgrey (apart from the spine pain!) I also love Winchester - great shopping!

Nice to hear you spent time with family and found the talk with your brother helpful. I'm not religious but it does fascinate me at times. Sending hugs 💐