if breast is best, then logically, bottle is second best?

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tee hee heee
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er, do you really think it's surprising some people will find this thread upsetting, Stitch?!

I often find myself thinking how happy I am I did SECOND BEST for my dd...

well you know what dinny - for a short time I was - the night DH went to Tesco at 1.30am to buy bottles, milk and a sterliser I was in tears, and got upset for it for a couple of weeks after that...........but then I realised that it didn't matter - and who gives a damn - my DS2 was (and still is) a happy little chappy and it didn't matter what anyone else thought (and as mentioned below - I had more negative comments about my BF DS1 than I did about Bottlefeeding DS2)

Don't see the point of this thread at all if not to make bottle feeders feel like bad mums and stitch feel superior.

I have a sense of humour but what is funnya bout this , can someone explain where the joke is?
I'm not touchy about the formula (though i've had my momemst), but i just don't see what is funny!

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lighthearted chat?

Stitch, do you truly think anyone will beleive that starting a thread like this?

Stitch-in one sentence you say 'this is a topic that always ends up winding people up on mumsnet.'
and in the next sentence you say 'i just wanted some lighthearted chat'

So where did you think the 'lighthearted chat' was gonna come from when you started a thread that you knew 'Ends up winding people up'?

how old is your ds2, QOQ? Maybe the hurt has faded. Mine certainly hasn't and that's why I find this thread upsetting.

yes i do dinny.
and i have no desire to get into another intense thread. i have already apologised for tactlessly causing anyone any upset, and will not allow anyone to draw blood. .

dinny DS2 is almost 19 months - how old is yours? (and FWIW I posted on similar thread this time a year ago over on BW - and had the same view then - when DS was about 6 or 7 months)

dd is 3.

actully it was very lighthearted at first.

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I breasfed my twins, but only for 4 weeks as i dried up, my twins were 7 weeks premature and i would have loved to have been able to carry on breastfeeding them.

But i am not at all offended by this thread, it is just lighthearted fun.

what, lighthearted until it caused someone to be upset and feel like shit?

No it wasn't, the third post was from someone not happy with the thread

"what, lighthearted until it caused someone to be upset and feel like shit?"

Well yes it was lighthearted - debating whether Brandy, Gin or Whisky was the best to 'spike' the bottle with

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was just thinking same myself, Spod.
and thanks for that - bf-crazy ds has restored my faith in myself somewhat!

My anger at the medical foke who pressurised me to stop feeding was make worse when DD1 got glue ear. All the sites about glue ear say things like:-
"How common is glue ear?

It is common. More than 7 in 10 children have at least one episode of glue ear before they are four years old. In most cases it only lasts a short while. Boys are more commonly affected than girls. It is more common in children who:

live in homes where people smoke.
were bottle fed rather than breast fed.
have frequent coughs, colds, or ear infections.
have a brother or sister who had glue ear.

The only factor that applied to dd1 was the bottle feeding. I felt bad for putting her into the operation for grommets etc and I felt it was all my fault for letting the midwife tell me I had to bottle feed. It wasn't my fault but I still feel guilt when I see her problems and I worry about the amount of GA she has had in her life.

So if a woman decides to bottle feed I don't look down on her but I do care when people give up because of misinformation or small minded ness on the part of people who should know better.

Sorry this presses my buttons, I'll shut up now

dinny, why are you allowing total strangers to make you feel upset?
i am sure you are doing your best for your children in every way that you can. dont allow anyone else to ruin your evening, or your joy of life. its not worth it.
i dont know much about you, but i do wish i was more like you when it comes to finances. my kids lives would be better if i could be as thrifty as you.

eh? thrifty? eh?

someone way down said she was a 'failed b/feeder' but gave baby some bm for 17 weekish.

My question: what then is a 'successful b/feeder'? Not trying to be difficult as I know that this is like saying 'how long is a piece of string'. To me the thought shows how hard we can be on ourselves and how much pressure to b/f we feel.

I think that b/feeding in an environment of little or no support means that everyday a woman b/f is a victory. Not a bonus, a victory!

dinny, yo bought a double pushchair from me, used it, then sold it on.
me, idiot that i am, bought it brand new, and would have ended up gifing it to the charity shop if friends hadnt insisted i sell it, and dh hadnt insisted he wasnt going to pay for another single pushchair

whaaaat? haven't sold it on, was using it yesterday. why do you think I had? even if I did, it's kind of my prerogative, isn't it?