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trivial reasons to breastfeed: #274

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SHRIIIEEEKPoolingBearBlood · 04/11/2009 18:07

no need to ever wash your baby's face, just wait until she pulls off and gets squirted, rub it in, et voila!

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chibi · 11/11/2009 18:06

he is 5 months old, 4 months adjusted. He was a good size at birh, nearly 6 pounds but dropped to 5 lb 9 then never really piled it on. he was gaining 6 oz a week for a while, but it has slowed down over the last month or so I think.

he is in 3-6 month sleepsuits and is fine lengthwise, just small.

i am tired of everyone else's baby being a huge, fat covered in folds textbook baby but this is beacause I wish mine were with all my heart.

he is v happy and content, meeting milestones (he can roll over, grabs at things and puts them in his mouth) and having 6-7 heavy wet nappies a day (about 90 ml of fluid, yes, I have done a control with water to estimate the volume) poos 1-2 times a day.

I just can't feel confident about it at all.

bf dd was so much easier, she was born huge, nearly 9 pounds, and grew at a similar rate to ds, but because she was so big she took a long time to drop to the 9th centile and no one gave me grief over her.

i will leave this thread as I know it is meant to be a light hearted celebration on bf and i don't feel i have much to celebrate or be light hearted about at the mo, today is a low day.

sorry

xtyuk · 11/11/2009 18:11

lol.. this topic has really made my day

Agree with all those things, cleavage, weightloss, not having to get out of bed everyone commenting how well rested i look for someone with a 10wk old baby.
By the way, longtime lurker here, love mumsnet, its the BEST!

Wigeon · 11/11/2009 18:47

Aw, chibi, it sounds like you are doing fabulously, and two separate health practitioners (your paed and the lactation consultant) say so too. It must be so dispiriting if people tell you he is small. They are probably just trying to make conversation (I've had "isn't she big / tall for her age" and "isn't she small for her age" and my DD is 25th centile! I think people just don't know what's normal. And 2nd centile is normal!). That's amazing that you've made it to 5 months too, especially as you are finding it hard. I think you definitely deserve some cake!

jaggythistle · 11/11/2009 18:51

Thanks, StealthPolarBear He will be 8 weeks on Monday, so just a few days younger.

My weight has come off more quickly than I expected, but I can still only fit into maternity trousers and joggies! Not really done much exercise except for walking, it's probably cos I had a rubbish appetite for the first few weeks after my unexpected c-section and I have a hungry wee baby.

I think this tummy will take a while to shift...

Indith · 11/11/2009 19:21

Chibi I'm sorry you are feeling so low, he sounds fab, just dinky My 2.10 skiny whatsit has just grown out of 12-18 month stuff, I too was of chubby thighs (then I had dd ). Some children are just little and skinny, he'll grow at some point!

A friend of mine's HV kept going on at her over her dd's weight, she was born around 10lb 5oz then drifted down the charts to the bottom where she followed her own little line. Eventually she gave in and allowed the HV to refer her just to get her off her back. Needless to say the paed took one look at this perfectly healthy small child and sent her on her way.

blinder · 11/11/2009 19:44

chibi - for you. there is nothing more miserable than worrying about your DC, especially food / weight related. Goddamit the guilt is always there and if you had ff you would still be wondering if you had given him 'the best start'. We can't win, us mums!

blinder · 11/11/2009 19:45

had a mars bar instead of the cake today. poor substitute. might deep fry another one...

bratnav · 11/11/2009 20:19

Loving the hotmilk bras

Watching my 3 girls pitch up on the sofa next to me, bfing their dollies whilst I bf DS.

That little loving gaze he gives me whilst he feeds, especially for the late night feed.

PercyPigPie · 11/11/2009 20:49

as well as the obvious nutritional & psychological benefits to both parties ...

Cake
That blissed-outness for them and you
Their excitement when they see you lift your top
Being able to scare neighbours by answering the door half dressed but with an excellent excuse
Big boobs (esp the left one as if you feed on the left you have your right hand free to navigate Mumsnet with the mouse)
Excuse not to go to evening events you don't want to
Excuse not to wash up supper when you don't want to
Excuse to catch up with TV, reading, and cake

thenameiwantedwastaken · 11/11/2009 21:13

lovely milky smell of baby
the way my dd blushes from mouth to ear just after she starts feeding
seeing her finish feed all woozy with milk all over her face

ladylush · 11/11/2009 21:29

Chibi - my dd is similar age to your ds (17 weeks actual, 7 weeks corrected). I can imagine how you feel. I had loads of people staring at dd as if she was an exhibit commenting on how tiny she was. If I'd have had a pound each time someone said that I'd be rich I tell you! You are doing really well to bf a prem baby. That in itself is a massive achievement. I pat myself on the back for that too - especially as dd only had ebm the first 10 weeks. The fact your ds is achieving milestones early is great. Dd can't roll over yet. I can understand you wishing ds was a fat baby but try to celebrate the fact that he is happy, content and doing well developmentally. Ignore the rude, intrusive comments and lap up the compliments/praise

Squiglet · 11/11/2009 22:55

Even though ds is 22 months, he keeps still and has a lovely long snuggle. He get very excited and impatient for 'mama'. If he is hurt, upset, tired etc etc a quick feed is all it takes and he;s happy again. When/If he wakes in the night, quick feed and asleep again, All the extra cuddles (and sleep), Choc buttons, Can wear underwired bra (anita), Past the breat pad stage, When he's poorly is all he wants and is The dreamy expression on his face when he latches on, That my mum who never bfed me is pro feeding and extended feeding having seen ds,

It is super fantastic

Squiglet · 11/11/2009 22:56

Has mumsnet changed now? Cant click on profiles? (thought i recognised ladylush )

cheesemonster · 11/11/2009 23:45

not read it all but we both like it??!!

KristinaM · 11/11/2009 23:53

i finished 5 years bf this summer and this thread is making me feel all pensive

and no, not for cake, i am a chocolate person

StealthPolarBear · 12/11/2009 07:12

time for another baby Kristina?

Druidmama · 12/11/2009 10:40

Trivial reasons for tandem nursing...

double cake
easy way to stop the 3yo running amuck while you're feeding the baby
watching people's faces when you finish feeding the baby, she crawls off, then the 3yo jumps up for her turn...
not worrying about my incredible non-solid-eating children...DD1 was 13mths, DD2 is 8mths and has so far consumed one slice of tomato.

StealthPolarBear · 12/11/2009 11:05

double cake not working for me

chipsticksmammy · 12/11/2009 14:33

chibi, you'll never be judged on MNet. We all think you're doing a fab job. My little one is tiny for her age, but she manages to wrestle a feed out of my big bangers.

You are doing the best for your baby no matter how they are fed. 5 months is amazing! Dont feel sad about anything xxxx

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