Anyone interested in an 'extended' bfers support thread?

[lilysma]

Not sure what I mean by 'extended' exactly - maybe it's a self defined thing?

I define myself as an 'extended' bfer because I hardly know anyone else bfing a child as old as mine (DD is 26 months) and feel the need to discuss some issues with people also doing this and wonder if anyone else does??

Anyone up for an informal support thread on this?

I got my copy of "Mothering your nursing toddler" today (from LLL) which I've started reading - if anyone is interested I'll probably do a mini book review.

That would be great Chairmum!

Ds also helps himself when he is bed with me. If I try turning away from him he simply climbs over me lol.
DH thinks it is cute

I always meant to read that book Chairman. Then DS got older and older and I thought there wasn't much point because he would be weaning soon......... LOL

Chairmum sorry!!

I borrowed that book yesterday. Hope it's good. Recommended by tons of people.

mawbroon - I used to be ChairmanMiaow on the internet until I had DS. I'm (or was!) a techie type so I used to amuse myself when people assumed I was male

hi all, may I join? DD is 14 months now and currently feeding even more at night than when newborn - last night 10pm, 1am, 3am then up for day at 6am for another big feed. she was down to 1 feed some nights or normally 2 up until recently.
am thinking it might be teeth - not sure calpol or teething gel instead of boob would go down well though - what would you do?

great to read about all the natural term bfing by the way, lovely to know there is so much support out there. I am the only one I know from my baby group still bfing at all.

Hi IHeartIona, plenty room on the thread for you!

We had a dreadful night last night. DS clambered into bed at god knows what time. I put him back into his camp bed (my mum has his bed while she is visiting this week) and he wailed the house down asking for milk. Repeat several times.

DH who is all too keen for us to stop feeding (day or night) said FFS, just give him milk. So it seems that he is all for it when it suits him....

And ds peed in our bed. He hasn't wet the bed for about 6 months!

mawbroon - that's awful. My DH only does the settling at my request as he's happy for DS to feed as much as I'm happy with!

We've had a bad night too. Add teething to a cold and the poor little lad won't settle for long without calpol. I ended up in the guest bed with him last night (he sprawls and although DH is happy to have him in with us none of us sleep well that way)

Oh, and the little darling is also biting - really hard, and not just when feeding - he left a mark on my arm through my jumper this morning

Another teething lo here, he is cutting molars 2 & 3, and going spare until he comes in our bed.

I was so glad when ds's last teeth came through and I could eliminate teething from the list of possible reasons for random grumpiness!

I'm just constantly questioning my decisions. When he's well he sleeps in his own bed beautifully, has one feed which I am quite happy with and everything's great.

When one little thing is wrong, he's so difficult and I've got used to having more sleep. I'm finding it so hard to get up twice a night and more - especially when he takes ages to settle and I end up squeezing into his bed and dozing off.

We're currently looking at what we can do when he wakes to make our lives easier- I'm thinking of putting the cot back up next to us (one side down right up to the bed), but DH thinks he won't sleep in it as he hated it in his own room (he just randomly started refusing to go in it). We're also contemplating kicking DH out of bed when DS wakes up (or DS and I going into the double in the spare room). Trouble is, I worry that the more I feed him / the closer I am, the more he will want it when he wakes.

Arrggh! Parenting is hard!

I have that Nursing toddler book, I liked it a lot and still dip into it from time to time.

We have a cot with three sides only bungy jumped to my side of our bed. I do find that our baby DS won't fall to sleep there. However it is possibe to move either baby DS or toddler DD into the cot once they are asleep, plus it gives us more usable bed space as I can place DS right on the cusp of the bed and if he rolls he is safe.

We like the cot on side of bed option at the moment but saying that we have DH, me, 2.9 year old DD and 9 month old DS in one bed, so we need the space !!!

Do you think it's worth reading the book even though ds is 3.6yo?

mawbroon - I haven't got that far but they do have a section on 3 year olds

BabiesEverywhere - DS and I had a pretty good night together in the double last night so if it continues for a few more nights we will get the cot out again! He stirred a lot but mostly just snuggled into me to go back to sleep, so although I woke quite a few times I didn't wake much, and think I could get used to it this time!

I have the nursing toddler book too. The curly haired little girl on the cover looks a bit like my DS (2.9) and he's convinced it is him and gets v excited!
It has a nursing past 4 section too Mawbroon

Hadn't heard of that book before, will look it up.
V amused here as 17 month old DD broke off from her bedtime feed to tell me 'nice'! Good to have some positive feedback...

Hi everyone can I join you?
dd is 14 mths and still BF, I always said I would stop when she was 1 but we're both happy with the way things are even though she is waking 2-3 times at night [yawn]!!

I haven't read the whole thread so sorry if this question has already been asked, Over the last couple of weeks when dd is feeding she is leaving teeth marks on the top of my nipples and its getting a bit painful. Why is she doing this and is there any way I can stop it??

dragonfly - are those teeth new? We always have a period of discomfort when DS gets new teeth, almost like things don't work the way they used to. I just make him open his mouth wide before he latches on (easy now he mimics!) and relatch if he starts to get uncomfortable. It normally sorts itself out when the tooth is out fully.

Hello, can I play please? I'm a bit new to mumsnet and my little boob addict has just turned two. Think I'll get that book if it goes up to three and beyond, because he's showing no sign of losing interest and I have visions of myself in a few years' time standing with a boob through the school fence every playtime!

How are we all doing?

Still nursing extensively, how 'bout you?

Nursing, Nursing, Nursing. Getting a little fed up at times - DS2 came out with 'Give me milk. Get your boob out mum' the delightful little chappy.
Hows every one else?

Similar story here, DS will reach down my top when he wants milk.
He still doesn't sleep through the night. I've decided to put off TTCing until next year as tbh I'm just about to start a new job, and I would like ds to be potty trained and if not bfing, just down to once a day and most importantly sleeping through the night, before dc2 comes along! I had awful migraines and morning sickness when I had ds, and I just don't think I could cope with all of that the way ds is now.