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Anyone interested in an 'extended' bfers support thread?

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lilysma · 01/02/2009 11:14

Not sure what I mean by 'extended' exactly - maybe it's a self defined thing?

I define myself as an 'extended' bfer because I hardly know anyone else bfing a child as old as mine (DD is 26 months) and feel the need to discuss some issues with people also doing this and wonder if anyone else does??

Anyone up for an informal support thread on this?

OP posts:
theyoungvisiter · 24/03/2009 21:50

how funny! Ds sometimes tells me one or other side is not working and he wants the other one, which I just put down to toddler weirdness. I've never had him refuse both though.

[hopeful self-weaning emoticon?!]

Babieseverywhere · 25/03/2009 08:18

mawbroon, Remind me how old is your son ? Is it possible that he is forgetting how to latch on OR the start of self weaning ?

mawbroon · 25/03/2009 08:41

He is 3.5yo BabiesEverywhere.

I think it was just a blip. Normal service seems to have resumed through the night and this morning, although I asked him about it just now and he says there was no milk again this morning. But then, you know what it can be like trying to get sense out of a 3yo If there was no milk, he was pretty content to suck away for ages!

Babieseverywhere · 25/03/2009 08:47

LOL, kids eh

Glad the nursing back to nirmal

Babieseverywhere · 25/03/2009 08:48

Normal !!! NAking wriggly 7 month old \DS

RoRoMommy · 27/03/2009 10:53

Cadmum, thank you so much for taking the time to go back through all of that, particularly when it's obviously been a difficult topic. I can completely relate with that. I have a very sympathetic dentist and she's generally in agreement that it's not the breastmilk per se, but the combination with sugary foods and bad genes. Either way we don't want to lose anymore teeth so we're brushing twice a day with a flourise toothpaste and have cut out dried fruit and most candy/ sweets (except cake, he just had his birthday!).

Thanks for your support, everyone. It helps just to talk it out, even if I still end up in the same place.

Cadmum · 27/03/2009 11:11

RoRo: You are most welcome.

I am so pleased that your dentist is kind and appears to be more interested in helping rather than blaming you.

Will your son need to have his teeth extracted with a GA?

How often does he see the dentist?

Has Kellymom already been recommended to you? I found the information on that site very helpful although, like you, I just long for a solution and a happy toddler without a sore mouth.

Happy Belated B-Day to your ds.

Talking about it really does help...

I will try to find links to other threads I have read/posted on about tooth decay and BF.

Cadmum · 27/03/2009 11:15

Duh!

It was your thread that I vented on back in October...

Sorry for having forgotten that... and even sorrier that you are still worried about your ds.

RoRoMommy · 27/03/2009 11:57

Hi Cadmum! I am the one who should be sorry for requiring the repetition of helpful advice!

To bring you up to date, DS had two teeth pulled under GA two weeks ago. He endured like a champ. We thought we were going in to had one pulled, but the dentist found decay that extended in a "mushroom cavity" up to the. We've in one of his front teeth. So that one came out, too. He's got a very endearing grin now!

I just don't want to go through that again! You said you daughter had extractions, and a root canal, how many procedures (and times under GA)?

WilfSell · 30/03/2009 17:16

Could please ask you experienced extended BFers some advice please?

What do you do when you might have had enough but you might also want to carry on, just less of it?

It's constant. Since DS3 has been poorly he has got into feeding ALL the time. Many many times in the morning before work, all evening after work, ALL BLOODY WEEKEND.

I have (almost) had enough. I'd like to carry on but if only it was once a day. Or just twice. But I'm not sure how I'm going to change things now he's 18m. He has basically replaced most of his meals with 'lolo' as far as I can tell and despite being well for some considerable time, he's showing no signs of cutting back down...

Thanks

Any suggestions, experienced extended feeders

Mummy2LZ · 30/03/2009 20:10

I would like the answer to that myself!
I am in the same boat as you.
Plus when DD2 see's my sister feeding her baby she wants me to feed her aswell.
I still want to feed before bed and maybe first thing in the morning but not all the time during the day.

My DD is also 18 months.

WilfSell · 30/03/2009 23:01

Anybodeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee? For me and Mum2LZ?

mawbroon · 30/03/2009 23:05

I'm here, but my experience is probably not what you want to hear!!

My ds has been addicted to breastfeeding and any attempts at cutting down were futile.

So i just went with the flow and now he's cut down of his own accord..... aged 3.5yrs.

I subscribe to the lazy parenting philosophy.

WilfSell · 30/03/2009 23:14

argh!

mawbroon · 30/03/2009 23:22

Only another two years to go WilfSell.

It'll pass in a flash.

Only kidding

Have you read LLL's How Weaning Happens? There's all sorts in there, you might find something to suit you.

IorekByrnison · 31/03/2009 00:16

With dd, when it got to the point where I couldn't stand it any more I started to put the notion into her head that it was only for first thing in the morning and last thing at night. She wasn't mad keen on this idea but she accepted it eventually without too much drama. Well actually there was often a bit of drama about it, but nothing too serious. Haven't got round to stopping altogether yet though which might well be a greek tragedy.

Babieseverywhere · 31/03/2009 09:05

I have distracted toddler DD from nursing in the past, by offering to nurse in 5 minutes or after lunch and given her a glass of water, juice or raison instead. Or limited the length of feeds to 'count of ten' or just one side.

But I wouldn't restrict feeds if she is ill or recovering from an illness, to my mind she needs it too much then.

HTH

Mummy2LZ · 31/03/2009 21:34

I guess we will have to keep trying!

unamia · 01/04/2009 18:14

hello, can i join in too please .. dd is 21 months and shows no signs of stopping bf.
lovely to see there are so many other mums here in the same boat.
i had to laugh .. my dd also fiddles with my other nipple while feeding .. arrrgh .. lol
oh, and, i also bf her to sleep.

mybabywakesupsinging · 02/04/2009 01:05

ds2 seems to have stopped his morning feed when we were on holiday last week - wasn't interested at all (better things to do!). He had some kind of "I am a big boy" revelation and binned his nap, his highchair "no-chair!", his pushchair "no-walk!" and the morning feed went too.
Quite nice to be able to get out of the house in 20 mins instead of taking an hour, but I do miss seeing him before i go to work.
So now its just a feed after his bath...and he wants a cup of milk then as well, so I wonder how much longer he plans to feed at all...he will be 2 soon...
Its been nice; he is a doddle to feed compared to the refluxing ds1.
Will have to another baby!

mawbroon · 06/04/2009 10:45

That all sounds very positive mybabywakesupsinging.

Well, my ds is ill just now. Raging temperature since Saturday night, but no other symptoms. He has been saying no to milk which is incredible. Usually when he is ill, it's the only thing he wants. He has woken in the night, latched on for a bit then said he wants water instead.

And this morning, I offered to cuddle up with mummy and have milk and he said "no, I don't want milk, I'm three". I was astonished. This boy was the biggest fan of breastmilk ever. It looks like he really and truly is weaning! Not really sure how I feel tbh, mixed I think.

ChairmumMiaow · 06/04/2009 11:21

mawbroon - must be a bit of a shock after 3 years of having what often amounts to a cure-all!

We're having biting issues again. He doesn't bite hard but he does put his teeth around my nipple and smile at me. He's also starting asking for milk a lot then not really having any, or demanding it in the middle of his meal.

What stopped the biting last time was refusing feeds except between bedtime and wakeup - for a week or two over xmas. This time I'm thinking of refusing it except at those times and for his one nap. I'm hoping it will work again but if anyone else has tips they would be very helpful!

Telling him no or putting him away from me either results in a complete meltdown, or giggling and then trying to help himself again.

mawbroon · 06/04/2009 11:30

I know Chairmum. Not sure I will know what to do without it! I don't believe for a minute that he's finished yet, but it can't be far off. When we talk about it, he does say that he wishes there was more milk and that he is sad not to have any. Perhaps I should explain the supply/demand thing to him.

I don't really have anything helpful to say about the biting. My ds was so addicted that the threat of stopping a feed was enough to deter him!

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