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why would anyone CHOOSE not to bf? if they know its the best thing for the baby?

219 replies

milkgoddessmakesthefinestmilk · 30/04/2008 20:38

this totally baffles me, , i truely cannot understand it.

i can understand it, if you try and find it too difficult, and decide its not working out for you.
but i honestly can not understand why a mother would not even want to.
surely every mum only wants the best for their baby?

is it because they do not understand the risks of giving formula?

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YouNeverKnow · 30/04/2008 21:31

everyone is different respect that and leave alone ffs

Izzywhizzy · 30/04/2008 21:33

@milkgoddess- anyone who reads that thread will see that that wasn't actually what you said.

What you actually said was, if people (by which you meant woman) like to work and chose to work, they shouldn't have children. It's OK if you HAVE to work for financial reasons, but if you do it because you like it, you're somehow less deserving/ less of a good mother.

The words sanctimonious, judgemental and naive all spring to mind.....

georgiemama · 30/04/2008 21:34

oh Milkgoddess, I am so uninterested in another 1000 post thread on that subject. I don't give a fuck what you think about breastfeeding, or working mothers come to that. OK?

Here's a riddle for you. I work full time, bad bad me. But I am still breastfeeding my 13 month old son. Bully for me. Now how are you going to fit me into your good mother/bad mother pigeon holes that you seem to need to put every woman on MN into?

Actually I don't care how you are going to, I'm just trying to get you to comprehend that your threads are nasty, judgy and mean spirited. At least when I am occassionally flippant or judgy, I admit it. You play all innocent, when really you're just stirring.

Tortington · 30/04/2008 21:38

risks of formula feeding versus throwing twins out of window

risks of formula feeding vresus own sanity.

i find original posts like this akin to those of

sanctemonious pious cows

Divastrop · 30/04/2008 21:38

why not start a thread with the title 'why did you choose to ff your baby?' or something rather than sounding judgemental if you are just interested in the reasons?

Izzybel · 30/04/2008 21:41

Milkgoddess - Why is it your business? You only need to be concerned about whether your own children have bm or not. Why bother about what everyone else does with theirs?

hunkermunker · 30/04/2008 21:42

I predicted this response.

Twice.

Who's this helping?

georgiemama · 30/04/2008 21:45

Hunker (nice to see you back by the way)

do you mean OP posting this in the first place, or our replies? Because for me its like a nasty scab you can't stop picking at, when someone is this consistently judgy (her OP on WOHM thread had exactly the same structure as this OP) it is very hard not to take the bait.

I;m trying not to take the bait, but obviously have, just want OP to have some comprehension that she is being offensive. Although really, I suspect she knows that and it is intentional.

milkgoddessmakesthefinestmilk · 30/04/2008 21:46

izzywhizzy, never one that whole thread did i say mother or women, youve decided to add that, don't tell lies and make shit up.

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georgiemama · 30/04/2008 21:48

Izzy, don't go there, just ignore.

Izzywhizzy · 30/04/2008 21:48

Georgiemama- I was just about to post something very similar.

Hunker- this thread isn't helping anyone who might be struggling with some kind of personal breast vs bottle dilemma, but it's bloody well helped me get my feelings about milkgoddess off my chest.

She pissed me right off with that thread about working mums the other week.

policywonk · 30/04/2008 21:50

It's true. She didn't say 'mother' or 'woman' on the WOHP/SAHP thread. I'm not saying that either that OP or this one is particularly conciliatory, but on the other thread at least she took a lot of abuse for something that she had never said.

Izzywhizzy · 30/04/2008 21:52

Yes milkgoddess, I'm a liar and you are a perfect mother who makes absolutely all the right choices for your children.

How wonderful it must be to be you!!!

How do you manage it? Did you read a book? If so can you tell me where to buy a copy? I'd like to strive for perfection too.

georgiemama · 30/04/2008 21:52

Oh come on PW, so she meant no parents should work? She obviously didn't mean that at all. Otherwise how is the economy supposed to function? Men with 17 year old children shouldn't work? What crap!

hunkermunker · 30/04/2008 21:54

Rise above it.

Hey, Milkygoddess, I work full time and still breastfeed my 2.3yo (crikey, he's 2.3! When did that happen?!). If I'd never had him, he couldn't be breastfed [dilemma]

milkgoddessmakesthefinestmilk · 30/04/2008 21:54

izzywhizzy, why are you turning saying that thread was about women, you are adding that yourself, i never once said woman or mother once, as it was about PARENTS
this was my final post on the matter.

xenia, why are you turning this into women

this women that.

ive said all along right from the off, im talking about PARENTS

you are cleary changing your tune xenia, before you where saying sahms, stay at home, as they never mounted to much and sneering at tescos shelf stackers, yes you where the only one to do this.

and now your trying to turn it around to

"justify whether the mother is bad to be away having her hair done or at the gym or writing poetry or stacking shelves in Tesco or making money."

point 1. your the one that keps turning it onto women not PARENTS

point2. you was the one [only person on the whole 1000+ posts actually] sneering at tesco shelf stackers, and saying that this is the sort of job most stay at home mums did before, choosing to stay at home
as they never amounted to much.

and as you have seen there are many professional women on this thread,myself included, that have choosen to stay with their children, so now your arguement that most sahm never amounted to much, is clearly seen by everyone as not true, your trying to, make out you didn't say that.
lol

still think your bonkers

you are very rude and clearly losing the debate.
its always a sign of someone losing the debate when they start telling fibs and twisting the truth.

although you forgot to tell us your views, about oaps, and those that retire early.
i would actually be interested in hearing those views.

anyway, i shall retire from this thread now, as we are off for sunday lunch with some working parent friends of ours
who have both shifted their hours to accomadate their little one.

do i care if peiple like xenia say im dumb and never amounted to much as i sah?
do i fuck! im a proffesional woman ffs and it just makes me lol

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hunkermunker · 30/04/2008 21:54

[snigger] at saying rise above it, then baiting.

SOrry.

policywonk · 30/04/2008 21:54

I don't know exactly what she meant. I interpreted it to mean that she believed childcare to be as much the man's responsibility as the woman's.

hunkermunker · 30/04/2008 21:55

Milky, I didn't see that thread - but are you saying that parents shouldn't work?

Are you advising Gordon Brown on the economy, perchance?

LittleMissNorty · 30/04/2008 21:56

what a load of bollocks

LittleMissNorty · 30/04/2008 21:57

sorry to clarify the post of 21:54:27 is a load of bollocks

Chequers · 30/04/2008 21:57

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milkgoddessmakesthefinestmilk · 30/04/2008 21:58

read the thread, its all there

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TheFallenMadonna · 30/04/2008 22:01

You have a fairly startling lack of imagination IMO.

Chequers · 30/04/2008 22:02

Message withdrawn