why would anyone CHOOSE not to bf? if they know its the best thing for the baby?

[milkgoddessmakesthefinestmilk]

this totally baffles me, , i truely cannot understand it.

i can understand it, if you try and find it too difficult, and decide its not working out for you.
but i honestly can not understand why a mother would not even want to.
surely every mum only wants the best for their baby?

is it because they do not understand the risks of giving formula?

sorry its just a genuine question, i just want to understand thats all, sorry if i upset you cvq, i havent seen your thread.

Answer to OP - Because it is their choice. And frankly, it is none of your business.

Hello, SPB, thought I'd dip my toe in again and test the water

Are you a Stewart Lee fan, btw?

I'm a great defender of free speech especially when it comes to difficult subjects which, when aired, yeild a good deal of learning often on both sides. So I don't like being advised, twice, not to post any more.

Milkgoddess, I know you weren't trying to upset anyone but these threads tend to upset people a lot.

It will get nasty.

If you want to delete it you can contact MN.
Otherwise accept that you'll get a lot of angry/upset people.

well im sorry if i upset anyone, truely i am

i just wanted to be able to understand others pov's
thats all.

oh good grief not again

man I need to type either faster or slower...
or maybe not at all...

Milkgoddessmakesthefinestmilk.

I unwittingly started this thread once because it is exactly what I thought too...

What I didn't realise is that lots of people experience pain and give up, have bad advice and give up, need to go back to work immediately for financial reasons, need sleep, are on antidepressants, have been abused or have serious body issues or are so heavily influenecd by family tradition that actually very few people seem to actually choose to formula feed.

There is also a body of people who are ignorant of the risks of formula feeding as I was until I started becoming interested in the topic. Advertising has really encouraged to view formula feeding as the norm when in fact it should only be used as a last resort.

If you want to change things in this respect get involved in the government consultation on formula advertising:

www.breastfeedingmanifesto.org.uk/make_your_voice_heard_2.php/

Lots of people post because they like a bit of mudslinging, some people post that the subject is boring and it goes on and on and so on. I going to watch The Apprentice.

Oh so bored of this now.

Exactly so Poohbah.

And this applies to so many aspects of parenting. Your own experience isn't the whole picture.

hi poohbah, ive already signed upto the bfm
but thankyou for the link.

Milkgoddess you are starting to seriously hack me off with all these bloody threads.

has this not been done a million times before........

Unfortunately I don't think this is a wind up. This isn't the first judgemental, bit-annoying thread that milkgoddess has started recently. It seems that she just can't understand ANYONE who might do stuff differently to her.

It must be great to live a life free of any doubt or insecurities.........

See here:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=2724&threadid=515122#10448014

Milkgoddess started another thread recently along very similar lines of "I can't understand why any woman would have childrena and then choose to go back to work, don't they want to be a proper mother?"

It upset lots of people, a lot. Milkgoddess seemed to play completely dumb aout why anyone would be offended by being found to fail her high standards. This thread seems much the same.

I never say this, but trip trap, trip trap, who's that tripping over my bridge?

please go away.you know nothing!

X posted Izzy

well i still agree with that, i do not understand why any parents would want to put a 6 week old baby into nursery full time,if they didn't need to.

Wind your neck in, Spidermama - I didn't say not to post. And I crossed posts with you the second time.