Mumsnet has showed me the meaning of prejudice

[Hannie55]

OK, so i breastfed dd.
Intend to bottlefeed this one (due end aug).
Must be pretty neutral right?
So why is it when i read the debates on here that its clear as day to a neutral that its mums who bottle feed formula to their babies that are the ones being judged and harangued?
Yet its some of the breastfeedrs who shout loudest and demand the acknowledgement that they are in fact the opressed?
What makes it worse is its so underhand and sly, if any bottle feeders come back they are accused of being prejudiced, paranoid and of supressing guilt (wtf?!).
Mumsnet has really opened my eyes to some wierd views, none moreso than the anti-formula lobby (who of course are not anti formuls at all).

Really did not realise these people existed, thankfully they only appear in cyber-space!

Maybe, Hunker, maybe.

Slight hi jack but well done to your ds on the chess tournament Kerry.

So for those women it is down to the social attitude of it. I am suprised really but then not really. Sorry gone off subject a little, but am intrigued at low b/f rate in Ireland.

Kerry, I just don't think you can generalise like that.

No, KM, the what separates you and the other pro-bf people here is a fundamentally different view of personal choice.

(The following only applies to choice by the way. A lot of bf/ff is not through choice).

If I see someone choosing to ff because they believe that their breasts are for men or that formula is just the same as breastmilk, I certainly disagree with their reason; but their choice is their choice. Just as mine is mine.

Above and beyond basic considerations of personal freedom, I'm also very aware that even when people give dodgy reasons for doing something, there may be much more going on than they're willing to tell the world at large, and for that reason alone, I believe very strongly that people's decisions should be respected.

And so I find it perfectly easy to accept people deciding to ff, even though I'm very convinced of the advantages of bf, couldn't be more so really. The 2 views aren't mutually exclusive.

About BF/FF not your ds obviously.

because although this thread started with a few rolling eyes type posts, it was a reasoned debate

You are the only one insulting ff parents and that is putting education about bf back and making a section of parents feel angry, guilty and sad over their choices but I think that is what you wanted

Most bf supporters don't put their points across in the way you did

(btw I'm not pro either way, I'm pro what is right for you and that particular baby at the time)

Ok, I have to admit this thread is a learning curve for me too, have to say I agree with welliemums post 100 per cent. I have to leave this thread now as I'm not the best for debates especially at nearly 1am in the morning.

"Initial breastfeeding rates in 2005 were 78 per cent in England, 70 per cent in Scotland, 67 per cent in Wales, and 63 per cent in Northern Ireland. In England and Wales, Scotland and Northern Ireland the incidence of breastfeeding increased between 2000 and 2005. "

taken from here although regarding NI

But you are ROI, arent you?

So, I didn't have the best interests of my child in the forefront of my mind when I decided to bottle-feed?

Hmmmmm

Thanks for that.

No vvvqv we are Iceland.

Got her feckin coat............again.

Wommys gone to Iceland

Desi...dont bite, not worth it.....

No vvvqv that would be KERRY
Boom boom!

surely she doesnt feed her children that shoite?

Have only skimmed it, but this looks heartening re bf in Ireland

It's from a while ago, but these things take time.

I know

Suggesting that people don't care about their own children is about the worst insult you can give, and it's a rubbish one.

As anyone can spot who has an ounce of respect for different ways of raising children.