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Original poster

Thread has disappeared. This is the one where I explain what I mean.

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weasleymum · 19/07/2007 23:39

IMO

There is no BF mafia on MN.

There are people who are very strongly in favour of BF. They are right to be, it is better.

There are people who haven't BF and are upset and/or guilty. This is very sad.

But there is no mafia.

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meandmyflyingmachine · 19/07/2007 23:42

Eh?

Enid · 19/07/2007 23:42

oh god wont you lot ever learn

MadEyeMisdee · 19/07/2007 23:44

i reasd the original post.

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weasleymum · 19/07/2007 23:46

I started a thread saying that if people are being attacked for formula feeding, they should link to the posts where this is occurring.

Thread was pulled.

But I feel strongly about this. I am appalled at the idea anyone would attack someone for not BF... but in fact I have not ever seen this happen on MN.

If people are making unfounded accusations about judging, that is not on.

If people are attacking formula feeders, that's not on either.

But let's see the evidence.

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JoMa · 19/07/2007 23:47

learn from your first thread being pulled please. this is not on.

Original poster
weasleymum · 19/07/2007 23:50

What's not on, JoMa?

People are talking about a BF mafia. I'm saying that I haven't seen it.

If someone has seen it and can show it to us, I'll chance my mind at once.

Until then, I'll go on believing that it doesn't exist.

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Enid · 19/07/2007 23:51

go to bed

oops · 19/07/2007 23:52

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UCM · 19/07/2007 23:53

atchuly they sed muffia

LittleBellatrixLeBoot · 19/07/2007 23:53

Weasleymum I thought that was what you meant tbh.

There have been a minority of posts which have said absurd offensive things about formula feeders. On every single occasion, they have been attacked by the pro-bf-ers the unwashed masses would refer to as the BF mafia.

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weasleymum · 19/07/2007 23:54

Er, no, Enid, it's 11am.

Almost allt he BF/FF firefights that start here mention judging and a mafia sooner or later.

All I'm saying is that I want to see this myself before I accept that it's happening.

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oops · 19/07/2007 23:56

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LittleBellatrixLeBoot · 19/07/2007 23:56

It isn't happening.

Usually. But there are always one or two nutters.

And then those who want to believe there is a mafia, cling on to the idiot posts of the nutters who have been repudiated by everyone else.

Twinklemegan · 19/07/2007 23:57

Ah I wasn't going mad then. It was there, then it wasn't.

Direct attacks, no probably not. Inferences and guilt-tripping, most definitely yes. Intended, maybe not. But the effect's the same.

I'm not posting examples as I can't be bothered.

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weasleymum · 19/07/2007 23:59

Oops, I'm not an aggressive person so I'm sorry if I came across that way.

I am angry though.

There are some very good people here who have helped loads of people, including me. I see plenty of enthusiasm and dedication here, and I am angry to think that these people might start to think "Oh, why bother".

I'll say it again, if people are attacking Ff-ers that is unacceptable, but let's see the evidence before we accept that that is happening.

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IsabelWatchingItRainInMacondo · 19/07/2007 23:59

For some reason non BF mothers' sensitivity doesn't seem to attract much respect. Some comments may not be direct but still painful to some mothers.

For instance, if a mum is saying how frustrated she feels at having failed to BF for as long as she wanted, the last thing that person need is someone comming to say that Breast is Best. Why? because she knows that, otherswise she wouldn't be frustrated.

I have been in one of those threads when a very well known BF supporter gate crashed the thread, posted a bunch of references about why breastmilk was better, the more she was asked to stop the nastier and direct she became, until she finally left when several posters asked her to leave, not without saying first that she had not said anything wrong, BF was best and it was the other woman's problem, she was too sensitive.

I don't know if there is a mafia, but I know you will get shot in flames if you dare to contradict some people here

oops · 19/07/2007 23:59

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Original poster
weasleymum · 20/07/2007 00:01

Well, inferences and guilt-tripping are unacceptable too, twinkle.

But if you won't link to posts then we can't discuss this, or try to improve things.

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Twinklemegan · 20/07/2007 00:01

Good post IWIRIM - it just rubs salt in an already gaping wound.

IsabelWatchingItRainInMacondo · 20/07/2007 00:01

And obviously I have crossposted, have autoreported myself, I didn't know the deleted thread was about example and I have just posted one, apologies but I don't want to start another debate.

Thank you

oops · 20/07/2007 00:02

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Twinklemegan · 20/07/2007 00:02

I don't want to start a fight or throw accusations around Weasleymum. Also it's late and I'd have to search back through a lot of threads I've been on.

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weasleymum · 20/07/2007 00:02

You are missing something, oops.

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harpsichordcuddler · 20/07/2007 00:03

ach, I really can't be bothered either.
it is just a bit tiresome to get accused of judging and attacking and then to be judged and attacked in the next sentence.
for feeding beyond six months. to pluck an example from the air

oops · 20/07/2007 00:03

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