Why "choose" to bottle feed???

[Difers]

I am a breastfeeding mum and I meet lots of mums who said they tried to breastfeed but weren't able to which I can totally understand but My mother-in-law said she "chose" to bottlefeed and didn't bother even trying...

So I am wondering, given the benefits of breastfeeding, why would anyone "choose" to bottlefeed??

marvellous, heartfelt post

and am that it was deemed neccesary to use words like 'nazi' and 'goosestepping' in a thread about BF

as escapefrom has proved, you can make an emotional and valid point without resorting to such imagery

I don't know any working class people in their twenties that drink wine.

But the literature about guidance levels may have been given a rehaul since I last saw is 4 years ago.

The breast feeding lit I wasd given for ds2 was a comic strip, and I was quite unbelievably offended. I am not nine, I do not read comics. I would have felt the same at 17.

nah, i disagree tiktok, i think that the wine hting is relevant as much to age as class. i didn't drink wine until i was older and would still rather have a beer if pushed to drink. i remember asking about limits etc as the class i went to talked in wine terms, iykwim?

me too, wine is something i drink now, in my late 20's. in my teens and early 20's i drank beer and alcopops

Don't be Escapefrom. I think that is a brilliant post, honest and sensible.

I was actually quite shocked when I noticed at baby clinic that people get Vouchers for babymilk and initially thought that really undermined breastfeeding. It would be very difficult for the Government to take that help away though as it may place babies at risk.

I chose to bottle feed no 2 because I found bf to be too exhausting and draining and I personally don't believe bf has any added health benefits.

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the vouchers can be used for cows milk and now for vegetables etc for the mother too. a lot of families rely on those vouchers, to take them away would be disasterous!

No. I am talking about MY EXPERIENCE, as working class woman in her 20's, with friends who are working class people in their 20's - none of us drink wine.

Why are you so offended by my life, motherfunk?

'added health benefits' 23 balloons? it is a perfect food for a human baby. there is nothing added, it is perfect in itself.

LOL at 'comic strip'

Tiktok (wondered where you were ), of course I knew there is research, I was actually just wondering about some conclusive, hard facts (and if I'm honest, links!) But I've just googled and am trawling through it now....

Interesting results about breast cancer levels in the west - it seems that if the boobs are not used for their pre-designed biological process they really do start malfunctioning. Interesting stuff, it makes a comment on the cancer reasearch site that even if we do b/feed in the west it needs to be for longer to reduce cancer rates... here info.cancerresearchuk.org/news/pressreleases/2002/july/40356

but formula is a valid alternative!

oh yawn bloody yawn.

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was that aimed at me norah?

I did not say nobody working class drinks wine. I said I DO NOT KNOW anyone working class who drinks wine.

Gosh, you're quite rude aren't you!

ruddynorah bm may be a perfect food but IMO formula is a perfect alternative for those of us who 'choose' not to bf

it is a valid alternative, but there is a lot that is not in formula milk, that is in breast milk..not least the fact that breastmilk passes antibodies to the baby, that colostrum boosts immunity, that milk adapts and changes as the baby grows.....

I agree that breastfeeding has a bit of a NCT going, women in their 30's zealot image and that younger women in their 20's may find it difficult to identify with that.

Incidentially, In younger days used to drink cider in the park prior to going to the pub but now drink mainly wine which makes you far more pissed more quickly.

Difers, sorry, I went to bed last night before seeing your question. Yes, use of language like that (Nazi etc.) in any context but the original does upset me. I'm sure you had a horrendous time, and I'm sorry for it, but the MWs who bullied you weren't mass murderers. I see lulumama agrees.

Fab post, escapefrom.

Also Tiktok, sorry about the assumption that the Victorians were prudish... I really thought they had a lot to answer for, they were a bit odd though...

How come the age old statement of 'don't want to get my norks out in front of my mum/dad/cousin' keeps cropping up then? The scandinavians don't have such bodily hang ups and the only time British inhibitions are generally down are when the blue wkd is aflowing on a sat night. THEN the norks come out

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It's the (exclusive) sexualisation of breasts combined with prudishness, I think, Lizzer. I live in Germany and while the culture as a whole is notably more tolerant of bf in public than (by all accounts) the UK, it's actually the younger generation - who have been particularly subject to the same kind of relentless sexualisation of breasts that we see in british culture - who are more likely to have a problem with bf on those grounds and say they don't want to 'have to see it' .

I tried to bf,I really did, but couldn't and had to bottle feed which was such a pain because I also had OCD which made me very anxious about sterilising/cleaning/doing it right - it was horrible and I so wished I didn't have to do it