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Can we start a 'club' for extended BFers?

189 replies

GuppinBuppin · 02/10/2006 20:25

DS just turned 1 last week. I just need some friendly support from other moms who have BF toddlers. I am definitely in the minority in RL!!

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wangle99 · 03/10/2006 22:29

Can I join too? Am currently bf DS who is 3 next Sunday, was debating whether to stop as felt we were 'ready' but now not so sure. I know of nobody that is feeding a child this old . Glad to read of some on here though!

Loshad · 03/10/2006 22:31

I fed all mine beyond a year. Ds1 for 17 months, only weaned him as was 8 months pg with no2 - i think if i'd had the support from sites like mumsnet would never have weaned him. Ds2 fed for a 13 months, weaned himself, Ds3 fed for 2y 2months, weaned himself and potty trained himself the same week , DS4 fed until he was nealry 4, and weaned himself carefully and gradually. He's the most confident and charming of the lot of them

chipmonkey · 03/10/2006 22:40

Popsy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!at those mothers. Do you want me to come over there and sort them out for you?

welliemum · 03/10/2006 22:43

pttaaaaarrf......... spat out my tea at popsycal's "incense" story.

But am wondering if I should be crying not laughing at such a horrifying comment.

Oh, me, bfed dd1 til she self weaned at 19 months. Currently bfeeding dd2 who is erm, I think, 15 weeks? at not being sure, I will have to go and look this up now.

I suspect loads of people are bfeeding toddlers behind closed doors. dd1 didn't feed during the day during the later stages, so unless I mentioned that I was still bfeeding her, people didn't know.

chipmonkey · 03/10/2006 23:03

BTw so shocked at popsycal's story, forgot to say am bfing ds3 who is 21 months ( 19 corrected as he was 8 weeks prem) Have plans to finish when he's 2 but think he may have different plans.

FillyjonkthePumpkinEater · 03/10/2006 23:03

poppy...

am actually at that story

how f'ing rude. I would have been pretty shaken and upset.

I can see how its funny but...are you ok?

tigertum · 03/10/2006 23:12

I'll join. DS is now 17 months and BF. I'm in the minority around here breastfeeding, let alone extendly. I always go to mumsnet when I feel abit alone with it. Lots of lovely posts on here, which is exactly why!

misdee · 03/10/2006 23:23

can i join? dont now anyone in RL who is an extended breastfeeder. dd3 still feeds in the morning, and with dh going back and forth between the hospital and home she is feeding mroe during the day as well. the bedtime feed has snuck back in as well. ah well. it keeps her happy.

she does have cows milk, and the ladies at the school say 'oh is mummy cutting you off' in a jokey way. they didnt find out i was still breastfeeding till dd3 was well over a year, when she grabbed my hands and gave me the 'booby look' and they all went 'awww she loves you so much' i said, yes, but she wants a feed as well.

the only place out side of home and family homes,i feel 100% breastfeeding is at hospital. very strange. i am ready for the 'she is too big for that' comments to start if she does want a feed in public.

Adorabelle · 03/10/2006 23:30

Daisymoo, Bloody good on you for tandem feeding,
& to be tandem feeding a 3 yr old, I think that's FAB

Wangle99, lovely to hear posts like your & other
mnetters still feeding beyond 3. I never gave it a 2nd thought how long I would carry on bfeeding dd for. I now have the confidence to keep feeding her till we are ready to stop^, not when society & friends/family think we should.

Should also add, I was always a wee bit embarresed to say how much I enjoy still feeding my past 2 yr old now after reading all your great posts i'll never feel uncomfortable again

milward · 03/10/2006 23:43

I'm bf my ds & have bf my other kids for longerthan the cultural norm here.

bf in public - just everywhere. bf on demand as well. Wish that info & support was out there for all mums - more in the general media - tv, mags - just to put something everyday into an everyday context.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 04/10/2006 00:19

Ah, a club i can join.....

Adorabelle · 04/10/2006 00:29

milward, think you have hit the nail on the head there.

Bfeeding beyond 6mnths is not the social norm, if we saw more celebs feeding older babies,
& had more media coverage then I don't think feeding an older child would be so strange.

mamamaaargh · 04/10/2006 00:37

Thanks for the link, Kiskidee

I loved this bit: "A toddler will sometimes spontaneously, for no obvious reason, break into laughter while he is nursing. His delight in the breast goes far beyond a source of food." My ds does that all the time. I never really thought about why, but it's so lovely to see!

And, what a story Popsycal - not sure if I should laugh or be horrified! Hope you're ok. ALthough I have no problem with bf my toddler, I am fairly sure that if I received such a comment, I'd burst into tears.

Coincidentally, my dad called today and, whilst talking about DS's teeth, said "So, you've stopped bf then?" When I said No, his response was 'good'. Yay for my Dad who, to my surprise, has always been the most supportive family member when it came to bf.

Adorabelle · 04/10/2006 00:50

I've been waiting for an adverse comment to bfeeding my dd while out in public since she
was about 19months, cos by then she was really tall, still slim, but looked alot older.

Never had an adverse reaction, prob cos am so open in the way that I feed her (people prob don't even notice tbh) Also fed her on demand, still now, even though everyone assumes she's at least 3 cos she's so tall! And terribly advance
socially

VeniVidiVickiQV · 04/10/2006 01:26

Popsycal

I had a few "double-takes" when b/feeding on the plane home today. But nothing more, as they averted their eyes after, rather sharpish. DS very much a well proportioned 18 month old and is difficult to miss when b/feeding him.......particularly because he likes to shove his toes in my mouth when feeding him atm

Adorabelle · 04/10/2006 01:55

Popsycal, I missed your post earlier but after
re-reading !!! As you can see I am a little taken aback by such idiocy. Will you go back to this group? If so, Please bring up the subject of bfeeding an older baby whilst this silly trout is near by, i'd love to hear what she comes up with next

Original poster
GuppinBuppin · 04/10/2006 08:43

VeniVidiVickiQV - LOL at toes in the mouth! My DS does that too!

It's amazing really. I started this thread feeling alone cause i was BFing a ONE year old. But I seem to be a beginner really!! Thank you so much all of you!

Popsy - what a story! That's the type of crappy ignorant thinking that we need to get rid of. Good for you for not being ashamed to tell them taht you ARE "still" Bfing.

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prince · 04/10/2006 11:04

Hi everyone just wondered if you have read the story on the bbc website outlining that bf babies were more intelligent , due to breastfeeding mothers being more inteligent, of course3 I totally agree (having been a bf mother myself) Perhaps cowmad should take it up it might just boost hers!

belgo · 04/10/2006 11:09

Yes I have read that. It's strange that it implies that only the more intelligent mums bf? It seems to be incresing the golf between those who bf and those who don't.

Tatties · 04/10/2006 11:14

Popsycal! I am too scared to go to toddler playgroups because I just don't really want to have to deal with that situation. But bizarrely I am quite happy to bf in public - in cafes, etc.. where there is a mix of people; but I don't want to do it in front of other mums (unless its a bf group).

Belgo, Terramum and Adorabelle - thanks for the reassurance I'm sure it will get better. There is so much going on in their little lives at this age and I am just grateful to have this wonderful parenting tool at my disposal for calming, focussing and reviving him

NotQuiteCockney · 04/10/2006 11:32

Oh, my DS1 still has a feed from time to time ... he's 5. Not much of a feed, and only in the bath, but still.

And DS2 is 3, and still very happily feeding. I don't think he'll stop any time soon.

KoshkaTheFriendlyGhost · 04/10/2006 12:23

im going to ask a really stupid question, and im really sorry if this offends im no way is that what i want to do.

my question is do your DC have food as well or just purely bf? Im curious thats all cos i dont know anyone in RL with children, so cant ask!

kiskidee · 04/10/2006 12:49

very hearty appetite koshka. with bf the weaning guidelines is the same as ff.

KoshkaTheFriendlyGhost · 04/10/2006 12:51

aaah so you have food and bf? aaww yum must be so nice for your LOs and you. full tummies andthe great nutrients, etc from milk

Tyedye · 04/10/2006 13:04

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