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Can we start a 'club' for extended BFers?

189 replies

GuppinBuppin · 02/10/2006 20:25

DS just turned 1 last week. I just need some friendly support from other moms who have BF toddlers. I am definitely in the minority in RL!!

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Adorabelle · 03/10/2006 00:39

Unfortunately I was formula fed so i'm as thick as pig shit which is why i'm trying to give my dd a better start by being an EXTENDED breast feeder

Wouldn't want het to turn out like me would I, Fuck No

cowmad · 03/10/2006 00:41

califonia...whaa??
wanna read your last post again??
an then dont bother to clarify

cowmad · 03/10/2006 00:41

ooo!!! latte any one? cappuchino then!!!

Adorabelle · 03/10/2006 00:41

Well done jjmum, you fed him for as long as you thought was good for him. You can't do any better than your best for your child & you did great

Adorabelle · 03/10/2006 00:43

jjmums post just proves that the HV we see need
to be giving far more support & advice to bfeeding mums

josephjaidensmum · 03/10/2006 00:56

definetly i was given hardly any advice.
at the hospital i was the only mum breastfeeding.
and the hv didnt really talk to me about it b4 or after only to ask which was i was feeding.
it was my mum that talked to me about it and we were all mostly bf.
its a shame i had to stop as he really took to it from the first moment and that was the only problem i had in all that time.
was so much easier breast feeding i think everyone should at least try, and hv should have a lot more advice it was also my mum that said to put baby on b soon after birth

iu noticed after he went on to bottles he did get little colds and thing so what they say is so true that it is best for baby
ohh sad now wish i could of lasted longer, hes 13 months now

mamamaaargh · 03/10/2006 01:00

LOL Adorabelle!

Think we're all doing great to be bf at all, no matter how old they are!

Not sure about bf my ds (12.5 months) in public anymore as he tends to give a very dirty chuckle and lift up my top. Wish I had the nerve to though! Definitely not stopping anytime soon - I admire all you ladies with older babies who are still going. Glad I'm not alone - I don't see ds giving up anytime soon (if ever...) even if other people think we should. MIL was very disapproving that we bf at all. Wish those disapproving looks didn't bother me so much!

It never occurred to me to stop feeding in feeding rooms because it may upset other non-bf mothers, despite the very rocky start we had. How thoughtful, Prettycandles.

all4girlz · 03/10/2006 01:26

my dd4 likes to lift my top right up when feeding but I still do it when she wants it she is 17 m tomorrow--no intention of stoppin but iI am trying to cut down during the day !!

agalch · 03/10/2006 09:16

Hiya all

I can join a club at last lol

I ff ds1,not sure why,i was youngish and not one mw/hv ever mentioned it to me.Think because i was young they assumed i would ff.He's 15 now.
I bf ds2 till he was 2.5 and was sad to give up but i needed to have a decent nights slep.
I bf dd1 till she was 22 months and i was 7 months pg when i weaned her off.Didn't think i would cope with tandem feeding.
I am currently bf dd2 who is 9 weeks today and she can feed for as long as her heart desires.She is my last child so may continue for 1/2/3 yrs,who knows?

harpsichordcarrier · 03/10/2006 11:59

cowmad, I think you may have the wrong thread.
the op is looking for extended breastfeeders.
I think you may be looking for "are there any posters who would like to share their ignorant, prejudiced views and demonstrate beyond all doubt precisely how breathtakingly stupid they are?"
good luck with that

cowmad · 03/10/2006 12:07

nice harpi..couldnt be missing out on a bit name calling then could you

terramum · 03/10/2006 12:40

DS is 26 months & bf. Have never had a bad comment about bfing. He doesnt feed as much in public as he used to (partly because I am nto sitting down as much & partly because hes far to interested in running around & looking at stuff!) but still feed him whenever & wherever he asks. Fed him in the shoes dept of Next last week (for all of 20 seconds!). He asked - I sat down on the bench & fed him - no fuss & I dont think anyone even saw us. I dont know any bfers at all in my local area, but go to an LLL group about an hours drive away to keep me sane, as well as chat online with fellow bfers.

terramum · 03/10/2006 12:40

DS is 26 months & bf. Have never had a bad comment about bfing. He doesnt feed as much in public as he used to (partly because I am nto sitting down as much & partly because hes far to interested in running around & looking at stuff!) but still feed him whenever & wherever he asks. Fed him in the shoes dept of Next last week (for all of 20 seconds!). He asked - I sat down on the bench & fed him - no fuss & I dont think anyone even saw us. I dont know any bfers at all in my local area, but go to an LLL group about an hours drive away to keep me sane, as well as chat online with fellow bfers.

Adorabelle · 03/10/2006 13:03

Nice one terramum

Good to know i'm not the only one out here feeding a toddler, my dd is 2.4 & like you LO she doesn't really ask for it while we're out, far too many other interesting things to be doing!

belgo · 03/10/2006 13:07

I'm still demand feeding dd2, who turned one last week, does that qualify me for your club? Just been away with my dh's family (holiday with inlaws=very bad idea) and didn't tell them that I'm still bf. Previous experience with dd1 tells me that they disapprove of bf beyond 6 months. The thing is, I have no idea when I'm going to stop bf her. Has anyone else had negetive experiences with family?

TooTickyTheAppleMuncher · 03/10/2006 13:08

May I join? I bf dd1 until shewas 2.5, ds1 until 18m, ds2 until hewas nearly 3 and am currently bf dd2 (15m).

kiskidee · 03/10/2006 13:09

i know one 'extended' bf in rl. it was a relief when i met her!

kiskidee · 03/10/2006 13:09

i know one 'extended' bf in rl. it was a relief when i met her!

belgo · 03/10/2006 13:10

Too ticky: have you ever had negetive comments?

bobsmum · 03/10/2006 13:21

I'll join too. Ds breastfed til he self weaned at 17 months and asked for a cup. dd is almost 16 months and we'll try to reach to the recommended 2 years if possible.

She signs for milk using babysigns, but she's kind of adapted it now so it looks like she's clicking her fingers "garcon, garcon??"

TooTickyTheAppleMuncher · 03/10/2006 13:24

I don't think so, but it is very easy to think you are being Looked At. You sort of get asense of where it is fine andwhere it isworth being extra discreet (still do it though - we have a Better Baby Sling which is ideal).

TooTickyTheAppleMuncher · 03/10/2006 13:25

My dd2 uses the milk babysign too - one of the very few signs we actually picked up.

PrettyCandles · 03/10/2006 13:40

Have you had problems with broken nights? Apart from the occasional 'she needs more calories than bm can give her' -type comments (!? what planet were they on?), the only other negative comments or assumptions I ever received were that I must still be feeding through the night. Not so, dd slept through from 6m - not consistently, and with some sleep-training - and I never fed her at night from then on.

Tyedye · 03/10/2006 13:41

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dollyp · 03/10/2006 13:44

I would love to join, but probably on a part time basis .

DD is 18 months tomorrow, and whilst we haven't finished BF, she so rarely asks for it now. LASt night was her first feed in about a week - her teeth hurt and she was clawing at my top so I fed her and she fell asleep on the boob. It was so lovely that I just lay there for 1/2 hour watching her as she slept. Have wondered how long I will continue to have milk as she feeds so rarely adn I am 15 weeks pg with no 2, but for the moment, when she asks she gets .