velcrobott that is exactly the sort of post that is not helpful, and exactly the reason people get upset. I fed foor over 3 and a half years- I know how it works, but I couldn't feed ds3 (supply problems). I knew exactly what the solution was - bed, rest, frequent feeding until my supply established itself, but with a severely autistic 5 year old that wasn't going to happen. Now if someone so caring about my success at breastfeeding had come in and offered to look after ds1 and ds2 and do everything that needed doing, so I could concentrate on upping my supply with ds3 - and didn';t have to get up half way throough a feed to lift ds1 down from on top of the fridge freezer then great. But as my (very pro breastfeeding) midwife said " you have to be realistic".
Actual practical help is useful, telling people they just need to try harder without even asking their situation is not. At the time when I was attempting to establish breatfeeding with ds3, ds1 was still up at 11.00pm at night running around the house, so we were cooking and eating at 11.30pm. WOuld you have cared enough about my supply to have come in and taken over from 6.30am to 11.30pm (ds1's daily waking hours then, although he was aslo up in the night)? If not then telling me I could have "tried harder" is ridiculous beyond belief.