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Serious question: why ^are^ many of the pro-b/f amongst you so rabid?

393 replies

Pruni · 26/08/2006 17:12

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hunkermunker · 27/08/2006 00:38

Seemed a bit broader than just MD, Aitch, but I bloody love Custy so not making a big thing of any of it.

I bloody love Pruni too, btw.

SherlockLGJ · 27/08/2006 00:39

Really Jerry it is just not good enough.............

Get them to leave............

Jimjams2 · 27/08/2006 00:40

hunker - do you really feel like that? Honestly feeding ds2 until past 2 I never felt odd (I stopped feeding him in public when he started getting too nosey). The only person who used to carry on was my mother, but I know her prudishness well enough to ignore her.

If I thought bfeeders were the underdogs I would be arguing in their favour on here, I never feel that though.

SherlockLGJ · 27/08/2006 00:41

Right Jerry I shall start singing if they don't leave soon.

sancerre · 27/08/2006 00:41

Aye Pruni and Custy are fab...but where did P go??! The thread went all over the shop without its OP to shape things up a bit!

Jimjams2 · 27/08/2006 00:41

pmsl nearlyhtree- I used to LOATHE being up waiting for the sodding steriliser. In fact I used to wait for the steriliser then go and wake up dh to tell him how much I hated waiting for the steriliser. God bfeeding was easier.

SherlockLGJ · 27/08/2006 00:42

RIGHT

I have tried to be nice about it ......................

Give us your glasses and show us your asses.

hunkermunker · 27/08/2006 00:42

Yep, JJ, I do feel that - see thread I've just started re that programme too!

hunkermunker · 27/08/2006 00:44

PMSL LGJ.

I used to be a barmaid and we'd say "Do your talking while you're walking" then "Give us your glasses and show us your arses" then "We've had yer money, now fuck off"

Jimjams2 · 27/08/2006 00:45

But seriously why? I honestly never felt like that..... I never had any hassle (except from my mother) - where does that feeling come from (serious question)

Sorry but I just PMSL at your other thread. The programme title is genius

sancerre · 27/08/2006 00:46

JJ, actually I do think bfers often feel like underdogs - it's a fact if nothing else that bfers are well in the minority in this country. Plus a LOT of women struggle with the feeding in public issue, I've done it plenty (and never had a bad experience) but quite often felt v vulnerable doing so, esp at first. Maybe there's a sort of underdog feeling in issues like that?? And once db is over what 6 months? then I'm sure many mums start to feel quite lonely as bfers, as other mums in their circle stop bfing (if they ever did, which most didn't...). As for bfing a toddler, another story again perhaps!

Jimjams2 · 27/08/2006 00:50

But how many poeple bfeed a toddler in public? I didn't (he was too nosey anyway) I just bfed him at home. I never felt ridiculous about any comments because I knew I could go home and polish my halo.

On here the underdog always seems to be the poor bottlefeeder. if there no way that breastfeeders can get support without bottlefeeders feeling bad? (serious question- maybe not- SN for example has started its own -off mumsent- group)

hunkermunker · 27/08/2006 00:51

Oh, I don't let it bother me, JJ - I'm too hardy for that sort of wilting.

But I have had lots of negative comments about bfeeding.

I'm apparently "like the natives".

It's "not normal" to feed past six months.

"His poo is weird" when DS2's nappy was changed the other day (that made me laugh though, I have to say!).

And plenty of other "if formula was so different from bmilk, they'd not sell it".

Jimjams2 · 27/08/2006 00:54

I like "like the natiives"- how old was the person who said that?

My mother would just mutter "you're not going to do THAT here are you, people might get upset" (which is hilarious as people getting upset is not something that bothers my mother ) When ds2 was little I was feeding him in a restaurant "ahh how sweet look at him sleeping" said my mother.... even she couldn't tell

aitch71 · 27/08/2006 00:55

at least the nasty comments you endure come from ignorance and aren't true, hunker... whereas if you FF, well, you just have to take it on the chin cos according to the Ecologist magazine the facts can't be argued, can they?

sancerre · 27/08/2006 00:55

I don't think you have to bf a toddler in public for people to think you're nuts, just them knowing you do it would prob be enough for most of em! So obv I keep it to ourselves generally, as it's no business of anyone else's.

Am genuinely sorry that ffing peeps get upset by feedling debates on here, but am no less rabid (there was a nicer phrase lower down, I forget which!) about bf for that reason though. Like HM am a bit ??? at the idea bfing mums might deliberately upset ffers, which just sounds nucking futs to me!!

hunkermunker · 27/08/2006 00:56

Oh, older than me and you put together, JJ, I can say that with some confidence Older than Jools, even

sancerre · 27/08/2006 00:57

am sooo slow HM at your comments, classy!
And a bit tragic too, obv.

sancerre · 27/08/2006 00:57

am sooo slow HM at your comments, class!
And a bit tragic too, obv.

sancerre · 27/08/2006 00:58

oops!

misdee · 27/08/2006 00:58

(i'm not in bed as spent the last hour searching for a craft knife i misplaced)

jj, i am cutting back to mornings only.

untill recently i was feeding dd3 in public, she is a teeny 18month old.

My dad makes me laugh, women sit down and say 'do you mind if i breastfeed my baby' and he says he doesnt mind at all, why should he mind? the women says some people get offended by it. he says 'my wife breastfed all my children why should i get offended'.

bless him.

hunkermunker · 27/08/2006 00:59

Aitch, I don't know what to say without sounding patronising which I don't want to be [dithers]

Jimjams2 · 27/08/2006 01:00

oh well there you go then hunker.

I'll always remember "ooh look Mavis there's another one" ( I was out with ds1 and friend's dd) and "what's the matter, cat got your tongue?"

The elderly provide me with amusement

Think aitch has a point there.

I'll get told off for suggesting it but maybe a separate rabid breastfeeders group would work well for some discussions. timetorant works well for SN.

misdee · 27/08/2006 01:00

lol@like the natives.

my mum is the worst, she thinks extended b/f is weird.

i ignore her mostly.

so does dd3

aitch71 · 27/08/2006 01:00

without being too obnoxious, sancerre, do you think that posting about the one food that is available to some children being 'junk' was designed to deliberately upset ff-ers?