Page 5 | How to stay awake during night feeds part 9!!

funchum8am · 14/04/2013 18:55

Hi all, dashing in after weekend away with no Internet access! Had a lovely time with friends and their kids. Stayed up too late boring one friend to death with my tiredness stories but compared to you ladies I am actually getting good sleep so shouldn't moan! And obviously staying up late was a terrible idea as I feel appalling today. Back to work tomorrow so off to bed soon.

Mrsn so sorry to hear you are feeling blue and also about your friend's loss, that is utterly heartbreaking. Things will get better in the end....try one new change at a time and eventually things will come good.

Larle your DH has been very unhelpful, and I hope things are better now

Marbles yay for sleep! It is bizarre but I too have slept more since going back to work!!!

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MrsNPattz · 14/04/2013 19:04

We have decided to go completely back to how we were doing things for a couple of weeks ie no routine, cause I'm stressed up to my eyeballs and it's going to make me ill - feeling down, tearful and anxious because of it all and I was really in a good place before all of this. I'm started to really not enjoy being a mum which is breaking my heart, so a couple of weeks without the pressure to clear my head and sort my head out will hopefully put us in a better place to start routines/sleep training then.

Hi Funch, glad you had a good time!

Marbles fingers crossed you continue to get good nights!

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Emilythornesbff · 14/04/2013 19:20

Mrsn.

abi2790 · 14/04/2013 19:52

Sorry your feeling down MrsN. Sending you lots of sleepy dust

I'm hoping for a repeat of last night. I think I have a plan to get him to sleep longer. He was shattered last night and went to bed at 8 so I thought bathing him later might be a good idea. Usually we start the bedtime routine at 6 but I started it at 7 tonight and he's been rubbing his eyes with tiredness since 5. Wish me luck!

TeaandHobnobs · 14/04/2013 20:12

MrsN if it hasn't already been suggested to you, I would recommend reading "What mothers do" by Naomi Stadlen - I just started reading it after it being suggested to me on MN ages ago, and I have to say, it is a comforting read (although I was crying a little on the train as I read it). For anyone who has felt a bit shit about being a mum...

I think your plan to go back to what was working before sounds like a very good idea - maybe try again in a month or two, or when you want to try again. Seperation anxiety sounds a real possibility, or maybe going through a developmental leap and feeling unsettled? It is all about coping

On the Babytea front, we are still not making any progress really - he is settling fairly quickly when he wakes, but he is still waking several times a night. I made DH do night duty last night though (as I am now not feeding DS before 5am unless absolutely necessary) and I felt much better for not having to get out of bed all night even though my sleep was still disturbed. It also showed DH how bloody knackering it is to be the one getting up all night!

Went for my first outing with my mum and dad this afternoon since my dad was diagnosed - his wheelchair is a bit unwieldy but it was lovely to be out with them again

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MrsNPattz · 14/04/2013 20:34

Thanks guys, Tea I just bought that book for my Kindle App so thank you for the recommendation! Sorry things haven't improved much, can I ask how you managed to night wean?

It's so windy here! I have the opportunity to start a Jo Jingles class tomorrow - opinions please? If we do it that will be 4 days we have things on, but it sounds fun.

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larlemucker · 14/04/2013 20:55

Just nipping in

Big hugs MrsN you are not a shit mum. I think we have all either been in your position or will at some point feel like we hate motherhood. We're here for you MrsN, 24/7 xx

Baby larle has had 5oz of expressed milk so hoping he might sleep better tonight.

Anyone else's bf baby poo a lot? Sorry if TMI but I heard that breast fed babies don't always poo every day, baby larle goes 4/5 times a day! Is this normal?

Emilythornesbff · 14/04/2013 21:17

larle normal to poo a lot and also normal not to poo for a few days.

mrsn bloody windy here too.
And any excuse to get out I say. I did take ds to jo jingles. He enjoyed it (was about 2 at the time). Quite structured sessions, about £5 a class i think.

SoYoFromKokomo · 14/04/2013 21:23

Evening all, it's bedtime here in the house of horrors. Today we've alternated between the dog being monstrous, Bubs screaming and a few rare moments of quiet. DH has a big day at work tomorrow so it's all me tonight and we've got to be up & out earlier than usual tomorrow for a friends party so soda law states that tonight will be a horror!

See you all shortly for and sympathy!

MissingMyMarbles · 14/04/2013 21:26

Flying in.....

Larle breast fed babies poo anything from every feed to every 10 days and everything in between

(((Hugs)))MrsN Everyone feels a bit like that sometimes, but remember feelings are not necessarily a reflection of reality. They are transient and changeable. You are not a shit mum, for sure. Hope you feel better soon.

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MrsNPattz · 14/04/2013 21:38

Thanks Larle xx

Having a nightmare bedtime here, he will go to sleep, then wake up crying, then go to sleep feeding but then transfer fail etc etc. something is not right and it hasn't been for a while but I don't know if it's teeth, separation anxiety, developmental or something else entirely. He's shattered though and so am I

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Emilythornesbff · 14/04/2013 21:39

Hey.
Babythorne sleeping. About to re attempt transfer to cot.
See you soon.

Emilythornesbff · 14/04/2013 21:41

Mrsn. Why not take him to HV clinic next week just to check all well.

abi2790 · 14/04/2013 21:50

MrsN DS has been the same tonight. He keeps waking up crying (which he never does). It could be teeth? My lo is 4 months and has no teeth so I'm not quite sure.

I hope I get to sleep at some point tonight!

larlemucker · 14/04/2013 22:05

Can I pick the brains of some of you ladies with older LOs?
We have our first birthday invite! My friends DS is 1, no idea what to buy him. Parents are pretty well off so he isn't short of stuff! Any ideas??

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MrsNPattz · 14/04/2013 22:06

Emily my hv really upset me at little mans 6 month review re BLW and now I don't want to talk to her about anything cause I know she will blame everything on BLW. Anyone know if I can see another?

Good luck Abi - I'm contemplating co sleeping!

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Anypants · 14/04/2013 22:30

MrsN - I have about four different weighing clinics in my local area on different days, all run by different HVs so if I fancy a different opinion I can go to any of them. See if this is the case in your area?
I've already had 'incapable mother syndrome' a few times and DD is only 7 weeks so no, you are not bad at it, you are simply human. Take the rough with the smooth and focus on the positive - in a few days or weeks or months it'll all be very different. Chin up and keep venting on here. God knows how women did it in days of yore with no MN...

Pinebarrens · 14/04/2013 23:06

mrsN you sound like a great mum, one just trying to find the best solution for your LO.
sleep issues are the pits, take heart it really will get better & you sound like you're doing a great job. Do whatever you can to take some stress out of the situation be that co-sleeping or DH taking over for a bit just whatever works for you family& your family.

maybe call your surgery see if there are other HVs you can go to or go see your GP just to reassure yourself that baby is ok.

its so windy here too DS already been up for a feed, he's also unsettled tonight but i think its the weather in our case.

hoping everyone has a good night!

abi2790 · 15/04/2013 00:28

Ugghh ds has been awake every hour withoit fail crying his little heart out. Luckily I managed to settle him without getting him out of his crib at 11 but he wasn't having it this time. Any idea what this could be? I'm worried he might be in pain cos of the sound of his cry :(

larlemucker · 15/04/2013 01:28

Woke up soaking, no clean, dry gro bags. Going to be up for a least an hour waiting for tumble drier
Can't use blanket due to night time acrobatics

GiraffesAndButterflies · 15/04/2013 02:09

Hi all
((Hugs)) MrsN I hope things improve for you soon.

I had to reread everyone's saying it was windy to work out if you mean weather or DC. It's windy here too but indoors

DD has a dr appointment tomorrow morning and our GP is going to get quizzed over what might be making her so unsettled. It surely can't be normal that at 8weeks I'm only getting 3hrs sleep a night, can it?

(Can it?!)

SoYoFromKokomo · 15/04/2013 03:31

Big unmumsnetty hugs MrsN, sometimes you just feel like you've no idea what to do for the best don't you? Just remember all your baby needs is food, warmth and love (which you're giving in spades) and the rest will all come together in its own time. Just do what you need to do to survive at the moment and think about your plans again once you feel like yourself again.

Up for 1hr 15 so far here and 2 transfer fails. It just drives me mad that she can fall fast asleep on the boob and then be wide awake the second her head hits the Moses basket with no signs of sleepiness! Argh! She's just lying there looking at me now as if to say "pick me up woman, can't you see I'm awake and shouldn't be!"

abi2790 · 15/04/2013 03:43

Fourth feed here. DS woke up crying again but luckily he slept for 3 hours instead of 1. My poor boy doesn't look happy at all :(

GiraffesAndButterflies · 15/04/2013 04:16

Argh. Managed to get DD down but she woke after half an hour. Bringing my grand total of sleep so far tonight to 1hr. This might actually be our worst night yet at this rate. :(

Anypants · 15/04/2013 04:34

Giraffe sounds like a horrendous night, a few of which we had this week ourselves. I think it was a growth spurt but I was continuously feeding all night and it nearly finished me. Is it just night times or can you catch up on sleep during the day? Grab yourself a and power through for tonight - it'll be better tomorrow.