How to stay awake during night feeds part 9!!

[MrsNPattz]

A nice shiny new thread!

[Anypants]

Thanks em - i'll try and remember to take a nice deep breath and make my next request calmly and politely. And high five soyo as it means there's hope for us all.

[Anypants]

I've got loads of milk in the freezer too abi that I obviously can't use right now so it'll probably be no good soon.
Things can only get better

[lazzaroo]

any how old is your little one? I only ask as .I also have a bottle refuser (as was my first!). We tried all the tricks & have bought every type of bottle going as .I was determined to get a break this time but she's had other ideas. Anyway, we've decided to give up & go straight to cup. She tolerates it much better and drank about 50mls from it tonight. I know that's not loads but it's a start! And much less upsetting than our bottle attempts as she really seems to enjoy it. She's 20 weeks & I'm really hopeful that over the next month she'll get the hang of it. Worth a try if yours is old enough?

[larlemucker]

Sorry to hear of shitty nights and DHs. They just don't seem to realise that being at home with a baby all day is just like having a FT job.
My DH does all bath times as that is their bonding time. I do sometimes have to ask him to change a nappy but not always. It annoys me as they can then say no, we never have that choice. It's very much if I don't do it who will?

And no they never notice you crying, or they do but they don't say anything as they don't know how to handle it.

Hopefully we won't make it to 1000 posts during the night!!

Hiya funch, thanks for coming to visit! Any tips for how you cut out night feeds?

[Anypants]

She's 12 weeks lazza and she had 1oz from the new 'natural' bottle yesterday (after a 5 min meltdown) which I had literally just expressed as an experiment, so it was obviously the right temp and fresh. I shall persevere as she was out of sorts today so that prob didn't help, but will have a crack with the cup if no joy. The HV also recommended the cup for bf babies.
If I don't crack it, it's not the end of the world but it's so I can achieve two things - a) a KIT day at work, for which I could use the money and the break, and b) a night out with DH as it could be lack of quality time with each other that is killing us. I was really annoyed with one of my post-natal mums today who bottle feeds and says she and her DH go for the evening all the time which made me feel cr*p for choosing to bf.

[funchum8am]

Larle we did a mild bit of cc, ie leaving her to cry for five and eventually up to a max of ten minutes, but really I think time just did the trick. I had heard things got better at three months but for us if anything it got worse around then, but around six months she started sleeping 7-2 and gradually when we weren't rushing in to her she would wake, cry for a few minutes but then sleep another hour, then same til dawn. About a month ago she started going 7-4 and then doing another hour if we flipped her onto her front. I see lots of threads about early waking babies getting up at 5 but I am still so grateful for her sleeping that long I am not complaining!!

With DHs who are not helpful I honestly would take the nuclear option and just leave the house. I am a bit of a radical I know but seriously, these guys presumably want you and the kids to look after them when they are old....they have to muck in. Give them no choice and they will soon learn. And I speak as the full time working parent....they are perfectly capable of changing a nappy after a day at work. If I can do it after wrangling secondary school students in a massive comp then so can they!!

[larlemucker]

First feed here. Sounds really wet and horrid outside.

Any I know exactly how you feel. Friends who formula feed have been out for a couple of nights. One friend was tired so her mum had her DS for the night and did all feeding duties!!

It's realty hard but I just keep telling myself that the many benefits really outweigh the negative points.

Hope everyone's sleeping

[SoYo]

Hi all, miniYo did well again in her cot. Haven't decided whether to try learn her in her for the night or put her into Moses basket, I'll see how she s at the end of the feed.

[GoatBongosAnonymous]

Wow, busy tonight! Sorry to learn of bad nights and DHs not pulling their weight. As someone said, it's called being a parent, not helping!

As for here, so far tonight we have been yearling solid for 4 1/2 hours. Yay.

PS to all those who are comparing ff to bf, believe me when I say it really isn't always a key to freedom. I had my first night off when BG was 9 months old... So enjoy the bf and its benefits!

[GoatBongosAnonymous]

Yearling??? Let's try yelling.

[larlemucker]

Up for 3rd time I think. Once he is asleep he is coming in with us!

Reading spooky thread on chat, bit scared!!!

[Anypants]

You're not alone goat - all the other Mums ff and i'm the only bf but they're all as hermit-like as me. Although, a couple of them get their Mums over to do the night feed for them to give them a break
My Mum pointed out to me today though that when she had me, she bf and didn't have anyone to help her out, so it can be done! And my Dad was also quite useless

First feed, hopefully only one until 8am...

[Newmum2013]

Well miracles do happen! Little man has only just woken for first feed since going down at 11!

Hope everyone is enjoying a well deserved snooze!

[SoYo]

Hi all, second feed here after putting her down in cot again. If she doesn't go down easily now we're co-sleeping but I'll see how she is. It isn't as easy now DH is back snoring his head off & spread across the bed!

[Emilythornesbff]

Hi.
I got to bed at 11:30 after getting within one click of booking flights and then deciding that four hour flights with a baby and toddler followed by a week of being scared that ds will fall in the pool / spill something / break something, are not a good idea. So now we have to make alternative arrangements.

Ds up at six and dd fed once in between.

Eyes too bleary to read everything but on thr subject of men I wanted to add that I reckon they ^do^ notice when we're upset, they just choose to ignore it because then they don't have to change anything or help or apologise .
I know we love them btw but sometimes they are very trying.
Wishing you all a good weekend with some help.

[Emilythornesbff]

Hello funch good point, well made.

abi re: milk. You can store it for up to six months in the freezer (unless it's one of those little ice boxes at the top of the fridge IYSWIM.)
Expressing can be a pita. I could get up and do that now (have a bit of an obsession about milk storage ) but I cba to sterilise everything. Besides babythorne hardly ever takes a bottle. I give up really. I find it frustrating because I've had the occasional offer of a couple of hours babysitting and ds would be fine but I just don't feel able to leave dd when she can't happily takemy milk in a bottle.
I should just accept that I can't go out but it makes me a little bit . There's a formal event next month that dh will end up going to without me. Oh, the chance to put make up on and wear heels for a few hours.

[abi2790]

Well ds was up at 10:30 and 2:30 which isn't too bad. He's still sleepy now but refusing to feed for long and is glued to cbeebies.

Thanks for that Emily. I will definitely try him with some porridge this morning then.

[Anypants]

I think you're right em - we chose to have babies so if we're the only ones who are able to look after them then that is what we must do. I got enough sleep last night, albeit in several chunks but I went to bed at 10.30 , and I feel a lot more, erm, me again today. Even made DH a cup of tea just now. We're off to my Sister's today for lunch so at least I can hand DD over to someone else for a break cuddle. Maybe, even, DH...

[Emilythornesbff]

any enjoy your day. Let them fuss over dd
One evening would be nice though

[MrsNPattz]

We co slept from 9:45 last night haha! He was up twice after that which is pretty good. Hubby is out tonight so just gonna co sleep from the start.

Hi Funch lovely to 'see' you!

[larlemucker]

OMG, just ventured up the village to go to the butcher and we're soaking!!!

Meant to be going to a charity fun day today, think we might stop in with a film instead!!

[Emilythornesbff]

Evening fellow night owls

Managing a transfer fail here.
Poor babythorne. She just wants to sleep in my arms.
Oh goodness I am tired.
Wishing you all a good night.
Em

[larlemucker]

Baby rice went down very well thus afternoon! Upset now though as baby larle is sleeping through his first Eurovision!!!

[abi2790]

Ds watched a little bit of Eurovision Larle but he's back asleep now. Glad the baby rice went down well :)

Porridge with the breast milk went down okay. I don't know if he's getting much though. It seems to come back up or end up everywhere. I think we're going to try some toast tomorrow. He also had a oaty, carrot thing today. He sucked on it but he seemed to love it. God knows if I'm doing it right but he seems happy enough. Although he always wants milk afterwards, is that normal?

Hoping everyone has a good sleep tonight. After Eurovision, of course! I have no idea how I'm going to keep myself awake until 11:30 when it finishes!

[MrsNPattz]

Bed time here, little man in cot but am expecting a wake up soon! I have done some WW work and now going to bed myself, hubby is out!

Enjoy Eurovision! Tell me who wins lol xx