How to stay awake during night feeds part 9!!

[MrsNPattz]

A nice shiny new thread!

Babythorne settled really well. In her cot. Yay!
Just had to go in to wakeful DS. Boo.
Please let me have some sleep before next waking/feeding.

All stressed now. Should be going to have hols in June. Staying at friend's villa. Having crisis. Not sure I want to go. Aargh hh! I just keep thinking about the stresses: too hot? Pool safety, flights/airports, etc.
Maybe we'd be better of at center parcs. Oh shit. Can I even bring this up with dh? Should I just get on with it?

Great. Now both DCs are snoozing and I can't bloody sleep. Poo.

Morning everyone. Third feed here . He's not even wanting proper feeds when he's awake as he's asleep after !0 minutes.

I have the same problem with my nipple on my left side after a feed larle. It's only sore feeding on that side too. I think he might have got a bit sloppy with his latch on that side.

Hope you eventually for some sleep New.

Hii Goat

Oh and well done to Baby Thorne .

Well that didn't last long.both up at 6

I know how you feel Em - we have a boat and were planning on going for a two week venture up the Thames thus Summer but I had to break it to DH, after a bit of a rethink, that it wasn't the best idea with DD being only 5 months by then. He seemed to think we could cope but has overlooked lots if things like washing her clothes, bathing, going through locks whilst keeping an eye on her, plus the obvious danger. He wasn't happy and I think it means no holiday at all this year...

any

Well the night didn't turn out too bad. He finally went to sleep at half one then woke at six for quick feed then back down til half 8. So managed to catch up on missed sleep!

Can understand how you feel abiut holiday Emily and id probably feel the same but I'm sure you'd manage and might end up regretting it when the time comes if you don't go?

Larle we co slept from 11:15 you? Think I lose!

You're probably right newwmum.

mrsn try to think of it as winning. sleep was had. Win!

1 am for us MrsN!!

and 2am for us...

Afternoon all! Well, we are just a houseful of germs! Chicken pox still hanging around. She has really bad cold symptoms with it, bothering her more than the spots. And I have a cold too. So nighttimes are just a blur! Lots of co-sleeping.

She actually had some baby rice today. She's been finding feeding difficult, due to blocked nose mainly. Anyway, tried her with some at lunch mixed with my milk & she loved it!

goat wins!!!

We plan to try baby rice tomorrow lazza

True Emily!!

Well done Goat!

We tried some carrot today. He seemed to struggle with it but he did great . I think maybe we will try porridge tomorrow to see if he finds that a bit easier.

This white bleb is getting worse. Been told I can try and remove the skin using a pin!!! It hurts so I'm going to have to do something!

Eek that sounds painful larle

Just picked scab off, need a glass of wine now OW OW OW!!

Back to the drawing board. My Mum popped round today so I thought we could go for a dummy run with her trying a bottle. DD had other ideas and refused, making my Mum really anxious. So yesterday was a fluke, it seems. She has been in a funny mood all day though and hasn't really slept much again. Would love DH to try tonight but he's being a little, ahem, Unsupportive busy and not up for doing his fair share at the mo. TBH, I am having a hard time at the mo but he thinks he is too (having to go out to work, blah blah blah) and last night I asked him if he'd mind peeling some potatoes and he was all 'i've only been in half an hour - give me a break'. I calmly explained that I was asking him a favour so that we didn't end up eating at 9.30, if I couldn't do it myself until after bath/feed/story/transfer fail/cry(me)/passing out. If I have to explain to him that i'm really struggling with his attitude he'll argue with me and there's a chance I might just throw DD at him and shout 'you do it' and go to the pub. Sorry to rant but I find venting on here easier than trying to reason with him. I can only hope he realises that i'm not 'in a mood' bur severely worn down and I need a hug and a little more support.
Gah.

Any once again I'm sure you're me in disguise. After 4 days of shit nights & long days DH has finished his nights. Last thing before he left yesterday he said "don't worry, I'll be able to give you a nice break tomorrow & won't need a sleep". Today comes & suddenly he needs to nap, have a bath & get some stuff sorted before a meeting he's booked at 5pm. I was bloody furious. He then halfheartedly offered to take baby & dog for a short walk & I promptly told him where he could shove it & that he was so useless today that we'd be better off without him. I'm just so fed up of him thinking that any tiny input into DD is him doing me a favour rather than being her Dad & never doing anything off his own back. Raaaa. Now I'm trying and failing to get miss madam to sleep. Plus I'm sure my cold is getting worse rather than better because i feel shit. Good times.

Hi everyone, just popping in to say hi! Sorry to see so many still having the usual terrible nights but at least you are all getting some support on here. Babyfunch is waking earlier and earlier (4:20 today) so we have stuck a thick blanket over the window behind her blind as I suspect it is the light getting to her. But no more night feeds....I have my fingers crossed for you all to get there soon.

Any you get your DH told...I sometimes moan a bit like that at DH when I get in from work but I respond the least helpfully to having it pointed out that i am not pulling my weight when I know I am in fact being unreasonable and feel guilty...maybe men are the same....

You could be right funch as I think he feels a bit left out while he can't feed her, but that's not the only thing. I'd be over the moon if he once offered to do her bath or story, or if he changed her (can't remember the last time) but when I have to ask him and then he doesn't want to it makes me so angry as I don't have a choice
When I feel a little less fragile unreasonable I will talk to him but it would be so much easier if he was less of a 'man' and actually noticed that i've been crying or haven't been able to get myself a drink

on your behalf any (and soyo)

Tiny tip: when asking a "favour" be calm and assertive.
Ask in a tone that says you expect it to be done.
It doesn't always work because men can be arses but it makes it harder for them to accuse you of being unreasonable.
I almost always still make requests in a frantic, ranting way, which is much less effective. But the first way is how successful ppl ask for things

Things get better when everyone's getting more sleep. Honest.

Hi Funch! Well done on kicking the night feeds!

Em you're so right, that is how calm successful people do things, if only knackered, overworked & emotional mums of babies could do the same!

Managed to get Madam asleep in her cot at 8 & not a peep yet, actually managed to have an uninterrupted dinner with DH (who cooked & poured wine & promises to clean up and therefore will be forgiven). Really hope the night is ok!

Men are really poo sometimes aren't they . Dp never notices when I've been crying either Any. I've been really struggling recently and do I get much help? Nope.

Ds is finally asleep after waking once already. I wanted to express some milk to put in his porridge tomorrow but I'm shattered and can't be arsed sterilising everything. I have some milk in the freezer but it's been there over a month? Should I use it? I think the only problem with using frozen milk after a month is that booby milk changes to whatever baby needs.

Spreading lots of sleepy dust (but leaving plenty for wakeful ds)!