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Infant feeding

Get advice and support with infant feeding from other users here.

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^^Extraordinary breastfeeding - tonight on C4 ^^

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harpsichordcarrier · 01/02/2006 17:27

new thread for RTKM

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nanneh · 01/02/2006 23:03

bourneville - I sympathise with what you are saying. I guess I am one of the very lucky ones because it really did get easier for me after a while. DS is now 19 months and only feeds 5 - 6 during the day, hasn't woken up for a feed in the middle of the night since he was 10 months old. He is also easy to comfort, so if I don't pick him up, DH can do it quite easily and he is happy.

I don't know how that woman on the programme with the twins managed though. She looked like she was feeding round the clock, and it wasn't one, but two ! Respect to her for doing it for 2.5 years !!

bourneville · 01/02/2006 23:03

I don't think anyone's said she isn't a loon did they?

Aloha · 01/02/2006 23:05

But she breastfed her HUSBAND! She is NOT NORMAL! It's freaky!
And I agree, if her daughter is so stroppy and sulking about not breastfeeding at eight, what's that about? Doesn't sound like she's done such a sterling job of creating this independent outgoing etc person that people here are talking about.

muma3 · 01/02/2006 23:05

oh just thought i should add that i have an 8y at home at moment home-ed so that wasnt an issue for me . my daughter can act a bit doolally sometimes but not as to an extent that she was obsessed with breast

just a though but what are the girls opinions on their father feeding alongside them????

Aloha · 01/02/2006 23:05

OMG - I feel quite sick now.

nanneh · 01/02/2006 23:06

hercules - agree with you on the Cumbria woman. They looked like a very loving family to me. I think the woman AND the husband were a bit off their trolly, but they looked like lovely parents to me and that's what counts.

starlover · 01/02/2006 23:06

ok i don't think that she actually fed the father regularly, or alongside the kids... she made it sounds more like a joke

and fwiw my dp had a suck on mine once too! so what>? does that make me a loon?

hercules · 01/02/2006 23:07

but that mother wasnt the one who bf her husband, was she?

bourneville · 01/02/2006 23:07

starlover, i'm sorry i didn't mean to say there aren't kids out there who aren't secure/ independent without cc (did i get that sentence right?) Just that it worked for m y dd and it surprised me cos i was so worried i was going to create issues for her. - it actually had the opposite effect i was half expecting. it just interested me that my friend who is doing everything to help making her ds NOT feel insecure (ie taking ages to get him to sleep at night) is actually not helping if, iyswim.....
i know everyone is different.

hercules · 01/02/2006 23:08

agree, I bet the mum would also freely admit to being a loon but that doesnt make her a bad mum.

starlover · 01/02/2006 23:08

oh yeh, sorry, did i sound a bit harsh?
was just re-iterating the whole different strokes for different folks thing...

we do what we need/want/feel is right for our kids... sometimes we get surprising consequences!

wantedmyboobsback · 01/02/2006 23:10

bourneville i know what you mean i did cc with both of mine and they went cold turkey on breast feeding then bottle feeding and dummies im a stay home mum im lucky that i can but my oldest attends nursery and is very confident and independant and although my parenting methods may seem harsh to some i think i have done it for their best interests

wantedmyboobsback · 01/02/2006 23:10

and the best bit about not breast feeding is i can have a drink!!!!

hercules · 01/02/2006 23:11

I didnt do cc and my kids are both very confidant. I should imagine it's a mixture of nature and nurture.

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harpsichordcarrier · 01/02/2006 23:11

actually I thought that Veronica was quite a lovely woman and I think the remark about bf the father was a joke....

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hercules · 01/02/2006 23:11

er, you can drink alcohol whilst bf too you know.

bourneville · 01/02/2006 23:12

another thought - i do wonder about memory. i am very happy i was breastfed , but when i actually think about it it weirds me out a bit. if i could actually remember it, would it weird me out even more?
who was it whose dh was bf till 4? what does he say about it? does he remember it and how does he feel about it? just curious, not judging...

plus, sometimes memories of childhood which at the time seemed harmless/normal/not worth commenting on suddenly get put into context when you grow up and you think , eh? or omg! Not suggesting that older children who remember being breastfed feel like that about it, but just wondering...

BonBon · 01/02/2006 23:13

Thanks harpsichordcarrier

That was my first post and I really appreciate your hola.

This whole line of discussion is tip-top. We bring the children into the world. Their physical connection with their new world is with us, and the emotional connection is a simple transfer process thereafter. So what if it takes 6 months, 2 or 8 years. Sure it is a little uncomfortable for mainstream, but its hardly Deep Throat is it!

wantedmyboobsback · 01/02/2006 23:13

in moderation but it was nice to go out and get really pissed have a massive hangover and leave dh to look after the baby for a change!!

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harpsichordcarrier · 01/02/2006 23:14

oh and my dd1 is confident as all that
goes up and introduces herself to random strangers
also quite an ego
e.g. went up to the securityguard in Tescos and announced "I'm the best girl in the WORLD!"
this is not because she's bf, I know

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Aloha · 01/02/2006 23:14

I think it's really unhealthy if the parent does not want this transfer to ever happen, and does not facilitate it in any way.

hercules · 01/02/2006 23:14

My dh was bf and I bf my ds until he was 4. 4 is the average world age for weaning so not actually unusual. Dh barely remembers it and is pro bf but has no real view on it tbh. Ds doesnt seem to remember and at the age of 10 now is far more interested in other things than discussing that! His best friend was bf till he was 2 and a half and believe me they never discuss it as it would bore them senseless.

bourneville · 01/02/2006 23:16

The reason i did cc was because dd was such a clingy baby and such a frequent feeder (used it for food/comfort/going to sleep etc) that I knew i had to do something. Because she was b-fed to sleep, it meant she woke up several times a night because that was her sleep association. And because i wasn't weaning her any time soon,I decided cc was the best way to teach her to sleep by herself. I imagined that if i didn't do it, i would have night-time problems for many many months to come, and while that is very pessimistic, i believe it is probably true, judging by how often she breastfed up till being weaned, and also by how clingy she was, and also she would only nap during the day on me, never cracked the daytime naps!

gone totally off the topic here, sorry... i guess it ties in with the 2 yr old twins exhausting their mother. someone said earlier that she didn't need to wean them to get a night's sleep - very very true!

Aloha · 01/02/2006 23:17

Hercules, do you think it would be appropriate to still be breastfeeding him? As he is? Now?

wantedmyboobsback · 01/02/2006 23:19

i have used cc to deal with clinginess in both of mine and then again recently with a habit of night waking its a thing that is probably harder for the parent and i really sympathise with you as you are on your own but it does nothing to harm the child and im sure they forget about it really quickly

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