re security and all that, those older kids feeling secure etc, that's not what I thought, I thought if they are getting so upset and feeling insecure about having to stop breast feeding, what does that say about their feelings of security in a general way, and about their relationship with their mum?
On a different issue entirely but also related to secuity, i did cc at 6 months, and feel it was one of the best things i have ever done for me and dd and that she is very secure as a result of it, compared to someone I know who so far has chosen not to and as a result has a very clingy, insecure toddler esp at bedtime. dd learnt to fall asleep by herself, comfort herself etc and i really do believe she is now the independent, secure person she is now partly because of that... she knows that even if i disappear, i am actually still there and always come back.
perhaps the same thing applies to breast feeding that late? I didn't leave dd with anyone else at all until over a year old (partly cos she was such a frequent b'feeder) but i so, so wanted to for the same reasons that cc worked for her. am i making sense? when i was deciding whether or not to do cc and whether or not dd was ready etc, i did worry that it would have the opposite effect. getting a balance is important i guess.
again, i have probably now missed loads of posts...