I have a question, having talked to my friend who thought differently from me. When the granny let her granddaughter suckle on her, was it the newborn baby or the older sister? I originally thought or assumed it was the baby, but my friend thought the older (2 yr old by then i think?).
If it was the older girl, that does rather make me feel sick to my stomach. I could slightly understand the newborn baby, although as I said way back i burst into tears when I gave my mum a bottle of EBM to try with dd when she was 3-4 weeks old so do find it hard to understand! But a 2 yr old, the thought of dd (now 2.6) being given to my mum to suckle on her, even if i was still bf dd myself...
BTW, same friend is the friend i mentioned earlier who before the prog started thought extended bf was "wrong" - now she says she even felt ok about a 4 yr old, just very wrong about the 7 yr old. She also (unlike me) saw nothing very wrong with the way the twins were weaned, though she agreed demand feeding 20 times a day was excessive, but she said in that particular circumstance, it was 2 days and everything was fine, so "not too much damage to the twins surely!" So perhaps the prog will do some good when it comes to ppl like her...
btw don't know if this makes a difference - she is a nanny and not a mother yet so I think a lot less emotionally involved with children than a mother would be (therefore perhaps not feeling so much the anguish involved in the weaning scenes). Please correct me if i'm wrong, any nannies! I asked what she thought about the idea the woman should have weaned to morning & night feeds only , and she just said she was so exhausted, she understood why she went cold turkey.