^^Extraordinary breastfeeding - tonight on C4 ^^

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new thread for RTKM

Sorry - just posted on old thread! I think R&J did a good job and it was interesting to see the vox pops with most people saying up to 2 years is fine. But the two women on the couch were a bit alternative. Such a shame re the bigger picture - too easy to dismiss. But I guess you need to be a bit alternative to push the boundaries of the envelope on this one. But please tell me this - what psychological need is being met when an 8 year old BFs?

Anyone remember the CSI Vegas show with the frig full of EBM (pints and pints ..)

Well, a need for comfort and love I would think JWB. What need do you think is being met when a 2 year old breastfeeds?

But a 2 year old has more limited options than an 8 year old! What is the future for this 8 year old? If she hasn't given up BFing at 8 b/c of her need for "comfort and love", when is she going to give it up?

When she is ready? [horror]

So if she isn't ready at 15?
I honestly suspect this Veronika woman just can't bear to let go of her children's infancy.

SO will MN go dead at 9pm as we all log off to watch it?!

But is it normal in South America to breastfeed eight year olds? I really do doubt that.
Or in Africa, come to that.

Eulalia - totally agree re. preversions in childhood and what you do later in life as an adult.

My ex boyfriend said he found it impossible to greet his mother with a kiss as an adult and when I asked why he said it was because he does not ever remember his mother picking him up, hugging him or kissing him as a child. He admitted that this also prevented him from being tactile with women (he would never hold my hand or hug me in public).

Ok, this isn't a preversion, but it's indication of a troubled man because he lacked the physical presence of his mother as a child.

I am not a pscho-babble sort of person, but it seems bloody obvious to me that a child needs loads of physical contact and BF is one great way to get it, I don't really care at what age.

A 15 year old is not a child. An 8 year old is.

Do you think she is forcing her daughters to breastfeed, Aloha?

People do know it's milk in breasts, right, not Fruit Shoot or Pepsi?

Can't understand the outrage, myself.

Would far rather be outraged at people feeding their children minced up bollocks masquerading as sausages.

I think its no ones bloody busniess but the mother and the childs to be perfectly frank, whether its for nourishment or comfort.
I find kids drinking coke and eating wotsits more offensive tbh
Had either of mine wanted to pursue it longer then I would have not stopped. As it was you cannot force a child to breastfeed. Mine stopped and I was gutted, I offered it for weeks aferwards but no dice.
I think in todays Closer mag (hardly what you'd expect to be in support of it) there was a fair article about it and health professional commending an extended breastfeeder.

i know what you mean aloha but in some societies [apparently, I'm no expert] it is a normal thing culturally to breastfeed much later than we would consider 'normal'. Not all those women are trying to prevent their children from growing up, surely?

i breastfed first 2 for 6 months and stopped after that for fear of the state of my boobs was horrified after baby 2 at the saggy state of my once lovley cleavage currently expecting no3 will feed for 6 months then im stopping and ive been promised a boob job the thought of extended breastfeeding or whatever you want to call it makes me shudder i am aware of doing whats best for your kids but i also have a responsiblity to hubby to remain the sexy attractive woman he married not a lactating cow dont get me wrong i didnt hate feeding i found it easy and have 2 healthy children but my milk factory closed when they reached 6 months and it was straight onto formula for them

Piffle...coke, wotsits, bollock sausages - we're on the same wavelength here, I think

i posted too late obviously. Agree piffle, coke and wotsits are DIRTY!

wantedmyboobsback, it's pregnancy that changes your boobs, not breastfeeding.

wantedmyboobsback are you real?

I would guess she is encouraging them fairly vigorously. I could still be spoonfeeding every mouthful of food my 4-year old ds eats - he wouldn't mind (dd is quite another story!) but I don't.
Do you have much experience of eight year olds F&Z?

I defy anyone to find me any society where children are routinely fed up to the cusp of adolescence.

But if Mum keeps supplying comfort and love via the boob (and keeps her dd at home for self-education and does not have a tv ...), when is she going to be ready? Can we say for sure this is not going to impact on her self-esteem and her adult relationships? Is it ok to bottle feed an 8 year old b/c it makes them feel loved and comforted? Is it ok to let an 8 year old wear a nappy and be spoon fed apple puree?

Not making any parallels b/c haven't seen the show yet (1 hour to go!) but Supernanny had a case of a 7 year old who was BFing and it had nothing to do with comfort and love and a lot to do with power and manipulation.

Message withdrawn

and wantedherboobsback made her choice, just as these other women have made theirs,a nd as I make mine and as everyone makes theirs.

I saw that episode. The girl knew that when she was breastfeeding the mother was effectively trapped and at her complete beck and call.

nappies and being spoon fed have NONE of the sensations of sucking your mothers milk!!!!
What an inappropriate analogy!
There are plenty of 8 yr olds in night nappies too btw