High-Need Baby Support Thread II

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Hey ladies, here's a shiny new thread for us to discuss, query, whinge about and rejoice our high-need bubs!

Pretty bad night last night, bleeding exhausted. Can see why so many of you co-sleep. We haven't gone down that route, but it's never looked so attractive...

Gawd, grizzly DS. Poor tooths. Hope you have had a decent night!

Woohoo! Cheers for the Mampig whole family I think!

there's hope for u yet!!!

Oooow. Just kicked a door frame and bust 3 of my toes. Bloody hurts! Good job I need to fit my feet into flip flops not stilettos...

I didn't mean to! I had forgotten to put clean sheets back on our bed so was trying to do it quietly so as not to wake ds. Managed to swear queitly and he stayed asleep. At that point...

I can't say I was with you at half midnight, but from 3am ish? Oh yeah. I was there.

Hugs

Mampig that is fantastic. i wish dd would take to her dummy! i hope this is the start of proper change with you.. and well done to your dh too.

hope ur foot is ok button!

thejoys so sorry about last night, how did the rest of the nightgo? its awful when you feel so bad..you will get through this.

i was crying too last night...dh and i had massive argument as i asked for a bit more help on the nights that were especially hard ie she is up all night and im getting no sleep. he feels he cannot do anymore than he is doing (a dream feed at 12.30-1) and we had a huge row. he decided in the end to give her a dream feed around 10.30 too and this really helped. i didn't sleep beforehand but she did sleep for longer afterwards last night. she is back in her moses basket, will try transfer again as soon as woombi comes.
more than practical help, what i need from dh is emotional support when im exhausted and have stuff to do with baby, but he seems unable to give it. all i need is for him to listen, to be understanding and empathetic, and to say if things get really too bad wake me up and ill be there (and i wouldn't anyway unless it was a last resort) sometimes however, because of his bad attitude, i have woken him up to help. i find exhaustion one thing but exhaustion when you are emotionally upset a whole other thing.
thanks for listening to my rant! hopefully today will shape up to be another sunny day to help us all :)

Joyful - are you OK this morning, sounds like another rough night. Can you get any rest this weekend. Can anyone take DS for you for a couple of hours?

Hope you manage to get a bit of a break. DH has been away all week and I've had no adult company in the evenings. Its hard work on your own.

Sorry to hear you're blue Jan and Puddle. I had a row with DH too this morning. I woke him at 6 with DS, who had been up since 5:30. I said I'd had a terrible night, with DS waking every 2 hours. DH said "that doesn't sound too bad" from his bed in the spare room where he has had 8 hours uninterrupted sleep. I could have quite cheerfully smothered him with a pillow (DH that is, not DS).

I'm not sure how much more I can take. He is nearly 10 months old FFS, why is sleep such a battle? The night wakings are one thing but it is always so difficult to get him to sleep in the first place. Am going to shift his routine around a bit as I think his pre-bed bath might wind him up instead of down. He always gets quite hyper then has a melt down when we get him out and dressed. Then it takes an hour or so of me feeding, shushing and rocking to get him off to sleep. So tonight we are doing bath at 4:30, dinner at 5:30 then teeth, story, milky cuddles and bed at 6:30. It means he'll probably go to bed with food in his hair but who cares if it works. Will report back.

Congrats Mampig, really hope this is the turning point for you.

titania that must be hard with no company all week, what about inviting someone round for tea (or that might be more stress for you) or even having some good phone chats instead. i hope you get some company this weekend. at least the nights are a bit lighter now so its easier to get out even for a little walk before bedtime to stop you being stuck in all the time.

Queen exactly -dh also sleeps in spare room and gets 7 - 8 hours uninterrupted sleep (he doesn't seem to realise this makes a big difference) and counts up the hours i get between feeds to try to make out that i am getting enough or near the same as he is. its a nightmare. im so sorry about your night. your dh should have at least been sympathetic when you woke him this morning even if he wasn't in the mood to DO anything to help! btw, dd gets hyped up in the bath too... we bath her in the morning, but then she isn't weaned properly yet she only gets tastes of food here and then as she isn't interested so she isn't that dirty yet. maybe some relaxing music and the milky cuddles will help along with her new bathtime...hope it goes well for you and tonight goes better. take care....

Sympathies to all who had a rough night.

DD woke every 2 hours here as well, and was awake from 5am. I don't normally, but could hear DP was awake at about 6.30 so asked him to take her for a bit (he gets up at 7-7.15 anyway), which he did with no grumbles from him - but she just wanted her mum....

Oh and DP also sleeps in the spare room so gets uninterrupted sleep. If I ask him to take her he often grumbles, but has said I'm to ignore him.... but I only ask him if I'm desperate for sleep..

Certainly not broken thankfully. They're a little swollen and throbby but not black and blue as anticipated!

Joyful are you certain it's a cold? It could be worth checking it's not a sign of an allergy (I know I look for them everywhere now but it could be worth checking out).

DS now has yet another cream to add to his collection as well as a brown inhaler to match the blue as they think he has asthma. Put that with the fact that when he was off his piriton before his failed test his eyes and nose were straeming I think he has the full house with hayfever too. Joy.

Oh blinkin heck. Got to dash. School just been on. DD1 has borrowed some goggles from a friend not realising they've got latex in them and she's allergic to that. Off to take my mobile pharmacy to her... Sigh.

Bless her - it's so long since she's had a reaction I guess she's forgotten to be careful! She feels a bit silly now, and looks it too! She's got bumps all over her face and a necklace of reaction rash around her neck where she rested them. Poor love. Shell be right as rain now she's had some piriton.

New routine isn't working. Nothing fucking works. I am so depressed. How can I get him to go to sleep without the dreaded CC? I currently feel like chucking him in his cot, closing the door and going to bed on my own.

queen im so sorry, ill bethinking of you tonight. maybe try and put a pillowcase or a t shirt of yours beside him to comfort him. im sorry i don't have answers. you must be so tired. keep telling yourself in time this will all be over...

Thanks Jan. I'm sitting here in floods of tears. DH is out. DS is rolling about chattering and I'm just wondering whether things will ever get better. Why is it so hard? Why did no-one tell me its this hard? I'm obviously a shit mum who can't even get her baby to go to bed. Poor little thing deserves better.

Queen Hugs and Lady, you are not a shit mum. I repeat. You are not! I'm starting to really hate the phrase 'this too shall pass' but it does, and it will. He's shown he can sleep really nicely, maybe keep at the new routine for a little longer and see if it improves again. Thinking of you. Please don't cry. Do what you need to do to get some rest. Make sure DP takes the reins as soon as he gets back, and have a lovely bath/snuggle up in bed.

Little man is lucky to have a mum as caring as you.

Thanks so much for your support. We are now watching was eastenders in bed - still think I'm a good mum?

But at least I've stopped crying for now. It is frustration, you're right puddle. Good to know your DD sorted herself out - did you do any sort of sleep training to get her there?

Gardeners World next - if that doesn't send him off, nothing will.

DD finally gone to sleep - been trying since 6.30....!

How on earth can a baby need this little sleep? She is currently doing 9 - 5.30 ish, waking every 2 hours, with 2 x 30min naps... that's not enough surely? And today she wouldn't go down for her morning nap, but I was knackered so I lay down and just rested while she chattered and rolled about next to me, while I tried to ignore the pokes and thumps on my face...

Queen - if you're a bad mum, then I'm a worse one...