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High-Need Baby Support Thread II

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tickleme63 · 22/01/2012 09:22

Hey ladies, here's a shiny new thread for us to discuss, query, whinge about and rejoice our high-need bubs!

Pretty bad night last night, bleeding exhausted. Can see why so many of you co-sleep. We haven't gone down that route, but it's never looked so attractive...

Gawd, grizzly DS. Poor tooths. Hope you have had a decent night!

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QueenKong · 24/03/2012 07:15

Sounds awful, hope you're ok. Know exactly what you mean about tired DHs. I would much rather be exhausted than have to listen to DH moan and hurrumph about being soooo tired. Hmm

jan2011 · 24/03/2012 07:35

tired here too. an no friends to meet today - dh is at work all day, his parents are coming to take the baby for 2 hours. this is the first time and im quite nervous about it. it will be nice to have 2 hours peace but his family r quite hard work even baby aside and im hoping it will all go smoothly and i will think of something other than housework to do while they r away... his mum is an obsessive clean freak and my house needs vacumed, i am hoping i will find the energy to vacum before they come...
hope ds settled thejoyfulpuddle
how did swimming go titania? im going to take mine as soon as she gets over her cold, looking forward to it. she loves the bath

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tickleme63 · 24/03/2012 07:54

Morning ladies

Off to see DH's dad and wife today. Should be nice, but worried about how we're going to get him to nap while there... He seems to have developed an aversion to buggy napping, ugh! Too busy looking around.

DS had his first taste of spaghetti bolognese yesterday, soo messy but he seemed to enjoy it! He managed a 4.5hr stretch at the start of the night, wondering if it's because he managed to get some dinner in his tum... Anyway, he woke at 11.30pm, which was the exact time that I was crawling into bed - I didnt make any noise but I wonder whether he just 'sensed' I was in the room... We're going to move him to his room in the next few weeks (hopefully) - well... We're going to move out of his room, to see if he sleeps any better. It's going to feel weird, if it works...

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SpannerPants · 24/03/2012 08:59

We're in Tenerife at the moment and DS has an awful cold :( he keeps getting a high temp and has lots of green snot - its disgusting! He's completely off solids and is wanting to breastfeed almost constantly. I hope he starts getting better soon. At least I can get free wifi while I'm trapped under a feeding baby!

TitaniaP · 24/03/2012 09:23

Jan - DS loves his swimming we go every week and I'm always guaranteed a nap afterwards!

Right he's destroyed the living room so now it's off for a nap. Could someone please explain to him that he can't practice crawling whilst feeding. Argh!

LittleWaveyLines · 24/03/2012 09:51

I am going to have to do something - I'm exhausted, and getting a lower mood by the day...

I'm not even going to contemplate CC or CIO, but whatever I do is going to involve some crying isn't it?

I'm thinking about trying to settle her in the cosleeper and swapping with DP for a couple of nights - me in the spare room, him cosleeping, to see if he can settle her.... at least up to 1am or something....

Sound good?

TitaniaP · 24/03/2012 10:18

LWL - I know where you are. Last night DS thrashed around in my arms for an hour, screaming, grabbing my hair, scratching me. I thought what difference does it make if I'm holding him or not. He's going to scream anyway. But of course it does make a difference. It's just so hard when you're so exhausted.

I have no suggestions for the sleep thing, however after you had DDs TT snipped did you see a cranial osteopath? That did seem to help us here for a while. Tempted to go back now teeth are through to see if that helps as I'm not coping at all well with the night time screamings.

Mampig · 24/03/2012 10:28

LWL- just try it. We're still going, and small improvement to date. I still do the night feed- down to 1, but dh settles him after. I don't know where exactly we'll end up- cant ever see ds going into cot and being able to just walk out of room, but I'm getting a much needed break for now anyway. If your dh stays with her, it's not ccSmile. Worth a try x

jan2011 · 24/03/2012 14:44

dhs parents just took dd out. she is being good today! i feel so good already...have tidied some things around the house, getting some lunch and just generally taking it easy! feels so good. i hope she is ok...im trying not to be the anxious mum.
sorry and hugs to those who are struggling today

QueenKong · 25/03/2012 08:41

So, the last few nights have been good. I mean really good. DS slept from 11-5 last night. The difference? DH has been in the spare room and I've slept way over the other side of the bed. Turns out BabyKong needs his space, but likes to know mummy is there if he needs her.

What do we do now? Separate rooms? Not ideal really and I miss him kind of, but the sleep is amazing.

PeggyCarter · 26/03/2012 05:14

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tickleme63 · 26/03/2012 07:36

Ooh good going, QK :) Very jealous of your sleeps! No advice for you but I'd certainly take advantage over the next few nights to get yourself some decent shut eye and then go from there.

Oh Puddle, sounds so difficult, sending you a crate of Red Bull.

DS woke at 5.40am this morning, bleegghh. It seems to be getting earlier. Doesnt help that I've had even more broken sleep. Yesterday I found some shoes that I hadn't worn in years that I loved and spent the afternoon in them. Needless to say I soon realised why I hadnt worn them... My feet are shredded :( Got 2 open sores on the tops and every time I moved my feet under the covers it killed :( Gah! Such an idiot.

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jan2011 · 26/03/2012 08:17

up most of night, needs lots of that coffee! and cake! and anything else thats going. plan for the day: get out for a walk...moving helps when you feel so rough

Mampig · 26/03/2012 10:02

Arse!!! Of the highest order!!! Another setback- this time in the form of diarrhoea (ds- not me, yet). So no sleep here! Cm has it too so she's off and at least I'm at home. Thanks for that coffee- tastes good- needed to put sugar in it though!!!

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Mampig · 26/03/2012 19:23

Ah, 30 minute nap territory!!! Not good- been there and could bloody sell the t shirts!! Good luck with that! Might settle soon enough Wink

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tickleme63 · 26/03/2012 19:27

Oh god yes, the 30-minute naps... We are slowly emerging from that one now... Thank god....

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LittleWaveyLines · 26/03/2012 20:07

DD moved from 45min naps to 30min naps at about 4 months..... still a 30 min napper at 9 months!

TitaniaP · 27/03/2012 08:06

I'm not even going to talk about our nights at the mo. They're just too hideous for words. Days are generally lovely though. DH away all week, never had DS on my own for a whole week. Am planning lists of activities.

We had a very late night here, so thankfully (despite many wakings) he's decided 7.30 is a good time to get up for the day. So far he has head butted me in the nose, knocked over and pulled the lid off the nappy bin and is now alternating between pulling all the books off his shelf and chewing the blind cord (just a normal pull down blind not the looped cords). I should stop him, but am knackered and my heads ringing from the butted nose!

Oh well off see some friends this afternoon along with their LOs (none of whom are sleeping at the mo). Cake and wine is on the menu - whoop.

Oh and I have 2 wraps waiting for me at the post office - yay!

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tickleme63 · 27/03/2012 08:31

DS slept from 1.30am till 6am this morning! I feel awesome! But also poo as it's an office day. Hmph :(

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TitaniaP · 27/03/2012 08:58

Yay to sleep. Boo to office day!

jan2011 · 27/03/2012 10:08

hi :)
the joys - sunday was a good day we went for a walk in the park and for coffee and dd slept in the pram :) since then dh and i have been fighting constantly, arguing over who feels the worst etc etc. dd has been up every 2 hours at nights and its wrecking me. its beautiful weather but its hard to enjoy it through it all. i think the tiredness is one thing but when you feel low (cos of arguments) as well its another.

DH was cracking up with me last night but he did say sorry this morning and he was coughing a lot (man flu)

today i aim to go for a long walk with dd in pram, and bring a book incase she goes a sleep and stays asleep. im so pale, be nice to get a bit of colour.

tickle - so glad you got a good night sleep - hope that becomes a routine for you!

Titania - that sounds like hard work! what age is your LO? Sorry nights are hard but enjoy your day in the park and maybe your ds wil tire himself so much during days it will help at nights eventually...im finding that if my dd does loads during the day on the odd occasion it can help at night (especially being over stimulated at MILs...lol)

Mampig...how are you and ds is his diarrhea passed yet? i hope you have been able to get a bit of rest too.

take care all have a lovely day (off to get my 3rd coffee..anyone?)

buttonmoon78 · 27/03/2012 10:09

I've not had a chance to read everything back. Hopefully everyone's ok.

Am in full Kenya mode now... 5 days to go! Am washing and packing like a demon and trying to get everything finished!

And the sun is shining so I'm happy!

Mampig · 27/03/2012 10:26

Lucky you Button!!Grin
Jan- nappies still not great. Waking a lot at night now again. Dh patience has finally run out (knew it wouldSad) so now, as well as him suggesting cc, he wants me to stop bf tooSad. Yeah- cos this is all my fault of course...

I swear, someone restrain me please!!!