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High-Need Baby Support Thread II

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tickleme63 · 22/01/2012 09:22

Hey ladies, here's a shiny new thread for us to discuss, query, whinge about and rejoice our high-need bubs!

Pretty bad night last night, bleeding exhausted. Can see why so many of you co-sleep. We haven't gone down that route, but it's never looked so attractive...

Gawd, grizzly DS. Poor tooths. Hope you have had a decent night!

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QueenKong · 27/03/2012 14:40

Ooh it's all the fault of the boob isn't it?! My DH reckons we've made DS this way through breastfeeding and responding to him all the time. Er, I thought that was called parenting? Angry on your behalf.

Mampig · 27/03/2012 14:50

Thanks Queen! I'm choosing to ignore those comments- in the same way he could choose to ignore a crying baby if it came to itGrin

jan2011 · 27/03/2012 15:32

Mampig dh has been leaving her to cry more now too and been hinting at cc, when he has been minding her i hear her crying for ages and if i go lift her he gets annoyed. i just say if you have stuff to do and shes upset i don't mind holding her to comfort her but he takes the hump. you can't win.

he also isn't as supportive about bf now but says i have to 'learn to give her the bottle too' as she won't take it from me as she knows i have a boob! so he doesn't end up doing all the feeding. sigh...

its hard, and its hard not to be sensitive with these matters...men (and grandparents sometimes) just don't understand where we r...

PeggyCarter · 28/03/2012 05:37

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buttonmoon78 · 28/03/2012 07:19

Hugs for all. My DH wasn't enormously supportive of bf at all so I get where you're comming from Sad

Apple challenge today. After the milk I have no hopes or expectations so we'll see what the day brings!

LittleWaveyLines · 28/03/2012 13:17

Good luck Button!

A bit off topic - but what are people doing about UV protection? Especially the sling folks on here - I don't know how much to slather her in sun cream or leave it off for a bit if vit D, or just stay indoors between 11 and 3?

buttonmoon78 · 28/03/2012 17:23

Didn't happen Angry. DS is still wheezing so they wouldn't take the risk of making it worse. So we're back off to the dr again tomorrow. Sigh.

It depends how long we're out for LWL. If a long time then I 30-50spf him but if only briefly I leave it. Worked fine with all the others!

LittleWaveyLines · 28/03/2012 21:40

:( That's a bit rubbish... you're having a hell of a time with him... sympathies.

(What do you call a long time? I'm worrying over 10-20mins at 2ish...)

Mampig · 28/03/2012 21:50

Don't be worrying about thatSmile. To me a long time is about half to an hour! Some people only use sunscreen between hottest hours, and others all the time- personal choice- I use it when I know we'll be in prolonged sunlight at any time of day, but don't worry if I know it's only 10/15 mins.
RelaxSmile

LittleWaveyLines · 28/03/2012 21:54

Thanks :)

QueenKong · 29/03/2012 02:15

DS has been awake for 2 hours now. I've given up trying to get him to sleep. He is currently rolling about on his belly. I'm so tired. Sad

TitaniaP · 29/03/2012 07:42

Argh Queen that sounds awful. We've been having some pretty awful nights here too. DS is currently grinning like a mad thing and banging his highchair demanding more food. Apparently I'm not loading the pancakes with cream cheese quickly enough!

Hope you managed to get some sleep eventually!

We're off to sling meet today (me, DS and my new pretty wraps!)

jan2011 · 29/03/2012 10:35

bad night here too. argument with dh last night at 2am...transfer from moses basket to cot did not go down well and he wanted te let her cry, and not only that but to go to sleep. another thing was she is too strong for swaddling now and constantly breaks free which wakes her up. i put her in the sleep bag, which dh was annoyed about cos her arms can still wake her - he wanted to leave her with nothing though!
to cut long story short i brought her to bed with me, dh in other room, dh not happy, me not happy as i get no sleep as im such a light sleeper. but dd slept beautifully.
this morning head tortured with headache, dog barking and baby extremely fussy...trying to type and every time i type she turns her head right round... lol thinking of hitting the park again even though yesterday i took her out of the pram to carry her as she was upset and my arms dropped off..
hard times lol

buttonmoon78 · 29/03/2012 10:43

Jan how big is the head hole in the sleeping bag? DS had quite a small hole on one of his so I tuck his arms into his sleeping bag too. Works some nights!

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tickleme63 · 29/03/2012 12:45

I might have a free Woombie that I can send you Jan, if I can find it. Boy-ish design as I have a DS, but let me know if it will help you out :)

DS slept in his Woombie until about 6 months, and then we started putting him down to sleep on his side, and then his tummy - he sleeps so much better like that.

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jan2011 · 29/03/2012 14:39

oh i was always looking for a sleeping bag with no holes and could never find one. i was thinking about putting her in it with her arms in, but didn't want to take the risk as she kicks so much that she could undo some of the poppers and wriggle down it - i would be scared.

tickle me my baby is 6 months now, would it fit? that would be very kind of you if you could send me it - thank you ever so much! i will pm you...

mum and i were also talking, and thought a good inbetween solution would be for her cot to be attached beside our bed. im not sure if the side of our cot can go down, and wether you would need a specific cot for this.... it might not be the same height as our bed etc. which means getting another cot...

hopefully i could try that woombie out and then if it works i could go with those.

mum has just taken dd out for awhile and im relaxing with a cuppa before i start the housework... i feel so unorganised and won't be able to sleep with everything a mess!

jan2011 · 29/03/2012 15:02

this thread has made me feel sooo much better. i went to woombie site, liked them - i got an alternative cheaper one off www.babysleepshop.com and got first class delivery (i never get first class it gave me a buzz...this impulse emergency shopping!) and if she does well with it i will get the next one off woombi as they do bigger sizes. again, THANKS and fingers crossed itl come tomorrow or saturday and all will be well.

TitaniaP · 29/03/2012 15:02

Jan - sounds like a tough night. We took the side off out cot and put it butt up next to our bed. Had it like that for months. Our cot had adjustable height so we could make it pretty much the same height as the bed. We then put rolled up towels in between the mattress and the cot side to push the cot mattress over so there was no gap between our mattress and his. The heights didn't match exactly but it was good enough. You can get specific side car cots but we didn't bother.

DS just fell asleep in a back carry. Awwww

LittleWaveyLines · 29/03/2012 15:55

We did (and still do) exactly the same as Titania.... not that she ever sleeps in it (prefers being cwtched up to me), but it's a hand bed guard! Grin

TitaniaP · 29/03/2012 19:16

LWL - are you welsh?

Also has anyone noticed we'll need a new thread again soon!

MissusTulip · 29/03/2012 19:58

Hmm, not loving the new shortcuts at the bottom, Mumsnet HQ!! Esp when using my phone, curse my fat fingers.

Thought things were a bit better - DS was settling in his cot at10.30pm after a good sleep on me at the start of the week but last night was pants. Awake at 2.25am, went back over after a feed until 3.45am, then feed, apparently asleep then nope, awake, another feed then a massive up the back poo. He didn't settle til 5.30am when he allowed me to settle him beside me but I couldn't really sleep. Then awake again at 7.30am. Luckily DH had a day off so I could hand him over but DH has a stinking cold so I didn't get much sleep before DS was handed back. DS has been a real grumpy wee sod all day but his nose is starting to stream this evening... Poor baba and mama and papa, bye sleep

OOh, have a lovely time in Kenya, button!

Hugs to everyone else and a big chunk of cake to set you up for tonight...

LittleWaveyLines · 29/03/2012 20:30

I claim some Welsh ancestry! Grin (Grandmother was a Lloyd, and said she was descended from Llywelyn the Great Hmm) and I love Wales, but no not Welsh. Would love to be though, and did make some efforts a while back to learn Welsh....

Talking sleep though - DD went 3 hours between feeds last night! I still kept waking every hour or so though, and wondering why I was leaking... she was sleeping on her front, which she's never done before - and worried me. I kept putting her back on her back, but she''d just flip onto her back again.... I suppose at 9 months she's less likely to be a SIDS victim if she lies on her front....

PeggyCarter · 29/03/2012 21:06

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Mampig · 29/03/2012 21:33

I reckon if they are able to flip over themselves then it's fine! Esp at 9 monthsSmile. My sis ds preferred his front from about 2 months, just would not sleep on his back. It worried her but she had no choice but go with it, and all was fine. I do understand your concerns though.

Ladies, I think we've cracked the sleep thingGrin.. Dh settling has worked wonders, and ds now sleeping through the night. Wakens at 2 and 5, but I just pop in dummy, tuck him in and he goes back to sleep!!!! He's done this now 2 nights running, so am hoping for more of the same tonight
Took a big chat to get dh to persevere though, but thankfully it seems to be working Grin