High need baby support thread

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Does this sound like your baby?

1. Feeds frequently daytime
2. Feeds frequently nighttime
3. Needs to be constantly held
4. Wont sleep alone
5. Hates the car seat/pram
6. Short naps

If so - join the club! :)

I think I'm lucky that DS is a piglet and doesn't really care where the milk comes from, although he was a bit about the bottle at first.

His night time sleep us terrible though. He went through a phase of sleeping in his crib in the evening. Ha blinking ha now and he's 7 months tomorrow. It's supposed to be better!

Sigh, today's bottle attempt met by a resounding tantrum... :(

Hate having to pour breastmilk away.

Hi all, fingers crossed for a good night for us all tonight eh?

Mine is a bottle refuser too, and I've struggled with what that means for me at times too. BFing was (and still is) something that was really important to me and DP, and I was petrified it wouldn't work out for us. Thankfully it has, and in the main I absolutely love it. The flip side of course is always having to be there, always being the one waking at night. It also makes it easy for DP to hand back a tetchy and fussy DS saying he's hungry! I think sometimes DSs reliance on me has meant DP lacks confidence with him (sometimes, other times he's great), but that is improving with time.

I've just bought DS his first cup to try water in. If he gets the hang of it I'll be trying putting EBM in so I can finally have a break from feeding!

Right I have a sleeping baby on me in bed. Do I go downstairs for grownup time, or mumsnet in peace? :)

Glad to have stumbled on this thread.. my DS is 8 months now and has always been super-demanding.. I try really hard to make a routine for him but it never seems to go to plan! Sleep is the biggest issue for us, he has always woken constantly during the night.. I don't know anybody else with a baby his age still waking 4 or 5 times a night and I am knackered. :( Just sleep through already!! Naps in the day are few and far between, only lasting a short while. He is a really light sleeper so we find ourselves tip-toeing around him in the flat.

Also finding it really hard to entertain him 24/7 now, he tires of everything so quickly. :( exhausted!

I have a sleeping baby on me in bed and that's me stuck for the night! Thank god for smart phones!! Go downstairs LWL, enjoy a bit of grown up time

I have a non-sleeping baby on me in bed. Babykong is refusing to drop off and I am getting The Hump. DH is downstairs watching James May's sodding, shitty Manlab and I am having fantasies about a long, hot bath. Just fucking go to sleeeeeep!

Mine is still awake, and any self settling miracle a few nights ago are long behind us! He's watching I'm a celebrity now and glued to it! I now just let him stay downstairs with us, and I'm having a glass of wine to boot!

I'm feeling pretty rough. I'm lucky in that DS is now settled in his cot upstairs but I'm so shitting tired. Just expressed for tomorrow's bottle attempt, but I'm slowly but surely inching towards introducing some formula (if at some point he decides to take the bottle again).

I really wish I could press pause for a while and just rest, but tonight beckons and tomorrow will be here before you know it.

Ugh I sound a miserable cowbag again... Just tiredness I guess. Hope you all have as good a night as possible x

I hear ya!! Relentless. Hope everyone gets some sleep . All we need is just a one off break every now and then.

Hope you all had a not too bad night! We went out on Saturday night with dh's partner and he behaved impeccably apart from spewing on the grumpy waitress's shoes but yesterday was another kettle of fish entirely! He hardly slept at all. And then last night was a bit of a killer.

He's sitting now in his bouncy chair, grizzling and trying to sit up. Won't eat.

Oh, that's the other thing - he takes one medicine 4 x daily and the other 3 x daily, so I normally spready that over 4 of his 6-8 bottles. Only, he's now decided that without the meds (which he loathes) he's not taking any milk

Am thinking today I might give him some water in the syringe as a placebo effect

Well.... Bed at 7, fed at 7pm, 9, 11, 3, 5 and awake to play at 6.30....

DID YOU NOTICE THAT 11 -3AM STRETCH!! OMG I feel amazing! That's the longest stretch of sleep I've had 5 months!

Hope everyone else had a good night?

Button - babies are contrary things - let us know how the placebo research goes

Ooh that's great LWL!! Loving the placebo plan too buttonmoon!

We had an average night, a 3 hour first stretch and 2 hourly after that. I was actually quite happy with that as his naps were shit in the day and that usually spells danger for night time. In fact he was awake for 4 hours straight before bed time, but incredibly he wasn't the narky monster I'd expect, he was actually quite cute all evening.

The thing that's getting me down at the moment is him still needing to sleep on me are night. It means I never get any grown up evening time with DP, or even any cuddles as DS is always pinning me down! We've tried for many weeks to get him in his travel cot next to our bed, at least for the first stretch, but he has none of it. I'm just at a loss of what to do :-( I'm thinking I might try working on getting him to sleep next to me in bed to get him used to a mattress rather than mummy. Perhaps that might work as a stepping stone to the cot. Anyone got any ideas on either getting him to the cot or on the mattress? Anyone been through something similar?

LWL . Nuff said

I think dr sears website has good ideas on sleep if you are willing to give anything a go!! He recommends getting dc to sleep basically any which way you can, and not to fret about where! Eg. Bouncy chair/ car seat- all fine for the first part of night. Maybe if you lay dc next to you, cuddled in tight with you on your side and dc on theirs? Still got the boobs in their face

Night. From. Hell.

Oh no tickle :-(

Wot JeeWizz said!!

Oh no tickle, hope your ok! Got the coffee on the go?

We had much better night last night. Fed her to sleep and managed to put her straight down into her moses basket (whoop!) at 11:20, then she got up at 5:50. I feel human again!

After a long day on Saturday DS was a nightmare yesterday - earsplitting screams the second I put him down or stopped walking around with him, or when I tried to put him in the sling. In the end I gave him some ibuprofen (in case his teeth were bothering him) and DP took him for a long walk while I lazed on the sofa eating nutella out of the jar had a shower and sorted myself out and he was ok as long as his was sitting up so could see out.

We're going to a postnatal group today to do baby massage...wonder if it's possible to do that while holding the baby vertically and bouncing up and down?!

On the plus side another good night (only 3 feeds) and I have arm muscles of steel!

Coffee indeed on the go! DS's behaviour has changed so much the last couple of days, and the last 2 nights, where before I could feed him, and pop him back in his cot and go back to sleep, he is now waking hourly, proving very difficult to settle and from 4am we have to have him on one of our chests as he just won't go back in his cot.

A week ago he would wake in his cot in the morning and happily amuse himself for 10 minutes or so before we would get up.

Have googled the 4 month sleep regression and I'm afraid that we're starting it, which is shit as he's never been the best sleeper anyway! He shouldn't have too far to regress surely! :op

What's even worse is that he has round 3 of his vaccinations today :(

As I was pacing, or rather dancing to some tunes from my ipod, round the kitchen with a grizzly DS earlier I was thinking about how strong and toned various parts of my body ought to be due to all this exercise! (I'm not toned at all, but it must be a slow process, right? ) . One thing I have gained from all this is having to opportunity to listen to some long lost music on my ipod I guess!

tickle - the third set of injections were actually the best for us, DS didn't really react at all after the initial screaming from the jab itself. We were all prepared for a mare but it turned out to be fine. Hopefully yours will be the same!

spanner - you never know, the massage might really chill your DS out.

I think there must be something in the air as my DS (not so much of the D at the mo) is proving really hard to settle. He will only sleep if on me or next to me, but as long as he's either on me or next to me with boob in mouth he'll normally settle quite quickly. However he now seems to need rocking/cuddling/pacing first and then boob. Argh.

Sat night he went from 11-4 which was amazing. Last night not so good and at 4 I had to get up with him. Normally just shove boob in his mouth. It took me until 5 to get him back off again. However after another waking at 7 ish he got up for the day at 8.30 so can't complain too much.

Can't remember who asked about getting them to sleep next to you rather than on you ( on phone so can't check). Can you feed lying down? That's how I get DS off to sleep. We both lie on our sides and he falls asleep like that!

Anyway hope those that had an awful night have a better day. DS will be 23 weeks this week and spent all weekend trying to swipe food off our plate (unfortunately it was mostly chips) so I'm going to try with some steamed veg today and see what happens. Mess everywhere probably.

That was me Titania, that's going to be the plan I think. I did try it once a while back and he fell asleep, but woke with a proper start screaming about 10 mins later even with me still there! I think it's worth another go though :-)

Jen - sorry with all the threads overnight I couldn't remember who wrote what!

Hope lying down to feed works for you and that he stays asleep. If my DS wakes up after 10 mins - I just put him back on the boob - in fact all my parenting issues I try to resolve with the boob at the mo!

DS is refusing all nap attempts at the mo - grrr.