High need baby support thread

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Does this sound like your baby?

1. Feeds frequently daytime
2. Feeds frequently nighttime
3. Needs to be constantly held
4. Wont sleep alone
5. Hates the car seat/pram
6. Short naps

If so - join the club! :)

Thank you ladies - I knew I was right!

definitely a man thing! DH is same. He thinks that DD was so high needs because we 'made' her that way by constantly walking around with her and picking her up whenever she cried so this time with DS he is so much less responsive which makes it hard for me. He knows that hearing my babies cry litterally drives me insane and makes me so sad. He seems to be of the thinking that he is manipulating us already... ummm he's 2 weeks old! .

Oh dear Bow - hope you manage to talk to him about it ...... :(

I think I might need to join this thread.

1. Feeds frequently daytime - tick
2. Feeds frequently nighttime - tick
3. Needs to be constantly held - tick
4. Wont sleep alone - tick
5. Hates the car seat/pram - tick
6. Short naps - tick

DS2 is 6 months old, gorgeous, but very very hard work. DH says everyone else is 'notmummy' (Dr Who anyone?) and only mummy will do. I love him but... ARRRRRGGGHHHH. I know tis only a phase - DS1 was exactly the same at this age - but my god I'm knackered.

So please can I join nice ladies of the thread?

Hi bicnod and welcome!!!
A lot of us here have babies around that age- incl me- and we know how hard it is... So join us!! Congrats on your wonderful, intelligent baby- think we might be nurturing gene, genueses really smart kids

Welcome Bicnod! :) My DD is 6 months as well....

Actually we had a bit of a breakthough today - PIL came round and MIL was able to walk/carry DD for an hour with no crying! First time ever, and we see them every week!

Welcome Bicnod :)

It is indeed very hard work. All worth it (and fingers crossed it's a phase... It's a bloody long one that's for sure) but my gawd is it ever knackering...

Well... I didn't come on on Satuurday to tell you all about our 4th brilliant night (11.30-6.45 ). But it's ok. It's all come back to bite me on the bum

The last two nights have been pure hell and then some. So I def still belong here.

Matchsticks anyone?!

Thank you for the welcome :)

Could I beg some matchsticks please? DS2 managed to wake at 20.30, 21.30, 23.45, 01.30 when he was WIDE AWAKE until 03.45, up for day 06.15.

Joy joy oh deep deep joy. I remember all this with DS1 but can't remember how or when it got better

We're moving house at the end of this month so ridiculous amounts of organising to do which is somewhat challenging when your head is stuffed full of cotton wool...

buttonmoon - I am very of your brilliant saturday night. DS2 was an amazing sleeper (once or twice a night and straight back to sleep) until we hit the 4 month (well, 3.5 month for us) sleep regression then WHAM.

Feeling sad, girls.

Been phoning round some nurseries to find a place for my little man, and it's only just hit me just how weird and hard it's going to be to be to not be the one caring for him all day. I got off the phone and just wept. Ugh...

Big hugs, tickle, I am so dreading having to do that :-(

Such a horrible feeling tickle . I remember it well with the others but hope that I might manage to avoid it with ds.

After much searching by me and rejecting of foods by ds I have discovered a breakfast he will eat... rusks! I feel like a 50s mum giving him rusks He ate every bit though. Seems to be ok with the wheat flour too which is a bonus.

Have also discovered Aldi do an Ella's Kitchen style pouch with no fruit in, just root veg, so I now have emergency rations in my bag. Have also tried ds with protein - mixed some chicken in with his butternut sq, again, loved it.

So although I need matchsticks, everything else is ok!

Sorry, whinge coming.

I had a great time last night, finally getting out to play netball with my team for the first time in 15 months, something I love.

DS clearly wasn't impressed as he's rewarded me with about 4 hours (broken) sleep and then up at 4.30 for no reason I can fathom. He's not even been crying, just whingeing. I'm soooo tired! Gutted, its taken the shine off a great evening.

Mum of a former HN baby and toddler here just poking my head around the door.

Everything here rang a bell. Really brought me back to the good old blurry days and nights with DD3 (DC4). She finally slept through the night at the grand old age of about 2.5 to 3. The only way I could get any housework or cooking done was by putting her in a back carrier. She had to be close to me and nothing else would do. When she got over that, she spent her time turning the volume on the TV up so high she terrified herself, and then changing stations, to the chagrin of DCs 1 to 3. She is 13 now and has been lovely for years. Still suspicious of lots of foods though, and has horrible seasonal allergies. Still likes the TV. Very quiet in school, amazingly enough, but shines in the drama club. Hang in there.

Wrong topic for this, LWL, but yanbu.

I think it is really worth sitting down a man who thinks a baby is 'manipulating' a mother and trying to get to the bottom of the remark. exH used to say this right from the start with DD1, who was a really 'easy' baby in retrospect, though the first takes it out of you no matter what, and his attitude went a long way to earning him his 'ex' status.

Well DS went from 8-1.15 last night but then woke hourly until 6 when he decides it's playtime. Two steps forward one step back!

I'm trying to encourage sleepy time but he's currently "chatting" loudly, lying on his back playing with his toes and trying to destroy his taggy blanket by holding onto it with his teeth and pulling it with his hands.

He doesn't stop, and it's exhausting. He does have the cutest smile in the world (imho) so he's forgiven most of the time!

Morning. I've been up all night throwing up. Poisoned by an egg sandwich I think. Between that and Sir Boobalot, I've had about three hours sleep, argh.

Very excited for you Jen about the netball match. How was your fitness after such a long break? Did it all come flooding back? Did you win?

Quick question for al those with 6-7 mos. Do yours babble? DS is 7mo tomorrow and still doesn't babble. Makes lots of noise and different sounds but no babbling. Have scared myself by looking this up online that he is autistic. Argggh, another worry to keep me awake all night...

Big mugs of tea all round it sounds!

queen it was only practice - wouldn't inflict my unfitness on them in a match just yet (we all hate losing too much!!), not to mention getting anywhere on time at the moment is practically impossible and I'd have probably missed the start! But, it was awesome to be playing again. I felt pretty out of shape, but not as bad as I expected. More unexpected was how unbalanced I felt!! My passing was poor too, definitely needs some work but hopeful my superstrong baby carrying arms will come into their own before long :-) I really have missed netball, it's brilliant to be back doing something that is me, not mummy-me.

DS is just over 6 months and doesn't babble, lots of noises, but not what I'd call babbling

Oh and queen, hope you feel better soon, that sounds bloody horrible!

Oh Jen, am so jealous. My club is too far away for me to escape! The balance thing is interesting, I guess our bodies have changed shape a bit! How were your boobs? I'm not sure even a sports bra would strap these bad boys down enough to play!

Haha, it took two bras!! Wasn't too bad like that though. Luckily I had an old sports bra from when I was a bit bigger which I put over my normal one!

tickle - I remember that feeling too :( it was so hard leaving DS1 - but it became easier very quickly. And being back at work became depressingly normal very quickly as well.

jen - jealous of netball - I am desperate to start running again but DS is so inconsistent at going down in the evenings that I haven't been able to go yet. Grrr. LOL at 2 bras

queen poor you - hope you feel better soon. Also, DS2 is 6 months old and says 'ah-goo' and 'ah-goo-ah' and does a lot of gurgling but not what I would describe as babbling yet.

Last night was hellish as usual. DS seems to only settle in the bouncy chair from about 3am onwards not sure that's a long term solution...

On the plus side, I just got DS to take 3.5oz of formula from a bottle - that's the first time he's really done it (took the odd couple of oz a few weeks ago and then refused completely again). Fingers crossed this will be a turning point and I can occasionally leave him with DH and a bottle and go out with DS1 or on my own for a couple of hours

Last night a lot better again - 11.30-4.30. Not holding out great hopes for tonight though as he's gone on a milk strike

DS is 6m on Monday and isn't babbling yet. He makes plenty of noises but they're all of the grunty/straining variety. I don't remember any of mine babbling this early with the exception of dd2 who babbled almost from birth (!) and has not stopped since so be very careful what you wish for!

Hope everyone who's feeling rotten/tired feels better soon!

Thanks ladies. Was feeling a bit wobbly buy you are making me feel better. It's that bloody 'What to expect' book and her milestones. Plus DS being so different from every other baby we meet. Got so many looks today from the NCT crowd as I talked about him and his various issues (sleep, separation anxiety, boredom with things like the jumperoo etc). Makes me worry that he isn't developing properly - and as DH's sister has 2 children with ASD I just start fretting. Feeling a bit weepy actually now after that.

My DD was babbling before Christmas, then stopped! Shes 6.5 months now....

But then she does this - works out how to do something then doesnt bother for a few weeks. She's only just started rolling again having worked out how to do it in both directions at 15 weeks.... strange child!