High need baby support thread

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Does this sound like your baby?

1. Feeds frequently daytime
2. Feeds frequently nighttime
3. Needs to be constantly held
4. Wont sleep alone
5. Hates the car seat/pram
6. Short naps

If so - join the club! :)

Good to have you back buttonmoon, look forward to hearing all the goss! How is your DS? Is his eczema any better?

Had two nights in a row that DS slept from 12-5. Amazing. Last night was back to normal though .

He had really bad constipation over Xmas. Think I gave him too much banana. He was loving it so I kept giving him more, but have only just read that it can be, erm somewhat binding. Baaad mummy.

Eczema pretty good thanks - we have avoided everything which might set it off. He's not allergic to soya though which is great. It means that even if the milk thing continues, there's an alternative to most dairy products in soya.

We had a good Christmas - there was so much going on and so many people that ds was in his element! We had a brief moment of excitement on NYE when 37wk pg sil chaarged into hospital thinking she was in labour leaving us in charge of her HN 2yo (at bedtime) but turned out to be latent stage labour - they told her it could be days or even weeks!

DS's sleeping has been rubbish but the last two nights have been a lot better. He's still swaddled as he's a really twitchy sleeper (like me) so although he's only been feeding once during 'my' night I've been getting up to him dozens of times as he's managed to escape from his swaddle and then wakes himself twitching. DH said we should make him a straight jacket and we laughed, but it got me thinking. So the last two nights I've pinned his sleepsuit arms to his sleeping bag and he woke once on Mon night to feed and slept really well for the rest. Last night he slept 9.30-5 with a quick dummy reinsertion at 2

I'm well aware that two nights does not a habit make but it's a start! I'm also slightly perturbed at my willingness to restrain my child (although what's swaddling if not restraint?) but I was getting rather sleep deprived and desperate.

Queen if you want to achieve the opposite effect, use quite ripe bananas. They are less than binding!

Any advice on controlled crying, took 3 and a half hours last night, took my daughter up at 7pm, pick up put down method until 9.30pm. She is only happy when I'm in the room with her stroking her head or sat watching her and the minute I move she starts again. I have other children so can't be spending 3 and a half hours doing this on a night.

On a brighter note though I've successfully stopped bfeeding after 15 months and she happily takes from a cup now! When bfeeding she always went to bed with me or fell asleep on me downstairs but I can't do that now so the routine is proving somewhat testing to say the least...

Ooh nice tip on the banana button! DS has turned into a total poo machine recently, he seems to go, erm, little and often! I'm going through tons of nappies as he also has quite nasty nappy rash so I don't want to leave anything there long! We had a good night last night! Only up 3 times from 6.30 til 6.00 which is pretty much unheard of. He did do the last stint lying on me rather than the bed, but I can live with that!

nicknamenotinuse I'm afraid I can't offer any real advice, CC isn't something I'm looking to do, but well done on moving to feeding from a cup! I need to start trying to get DS to drink from a cup at some point, he's always been a bottle refuser. Good luck with the routine!

Ugh... Thought we were making a little progress this last week, with feeds at night only at 11, 2 and 5 (roughly) but last night was back to every 2 hours :( What the hell, DS?! :op

Thinking of beginning some solids soon, but not sure yet. He'll be 6 months on the 17th.

He's really starting to reach and grab now, which is great. Still no movement (no pun intended... Or was it?!) on the rolling front though, he sort of gets halfway and doesn't quite get how to throw himself over, bless :)

Sent in my flexible work request yesterday to work, keeping my fingers crossed.

Hope you all have a good day!

I started DS on solids about 3 weeks before he was 6 months, but only very slowly, just little tastes of stuff from my finger rather than full in feeding. I just wanted to see how he'd react!

Best of luck with the work request - what have you asked for? I had an informal meeting with my manager before xmas to chat about things but I didn't come away overly hopeful. Are you planning in returning soon?

Hey Jen :)

The plan at the moment is to stagger my return to work starting from March, and build up to full time. I've asked to be able to work mostly at home. Had a chat with my boss about it and he seems supportive but his boss has to agree too, so will have to just cross fingers.

Part of me is looking forward to going back; most of me is dreading leaving my little man to be looked after by someone else. I never realised that someone else feeding him, doing his bum, playing with him would make me feel so :(

I forgot to say - ds rolled over twice in 5 mins on Dec 20th. Never repeated since!

Ha button! My DS has done it once, about 4 weeks or so ago and nothing since! Not even close to bothering to try!

Tickle - hope work approve your plan! Are you using a nursery or cm? Or family?

Gloat alert

11.30 - 5.50. Unbroken. No pinning. That's all.

Wowsers! You must feel fantastic.

Woohoo that's fantastic button!

We didn't do badly, 6.30 til 11.30 then til 2. Went a bit wrong around 3 when he had a huge poo! Didn't manage to get back down til 4 but then asleep til 6 (with yet another huge poo). We've had a lovely run of getting up after 6 rather than his more usual 5. I'm really really hoping he makes that into a habit!

Isn't it funny how 6 seems so much better than 5? Like it's day rather than night?

QK sorry! I'm just so chuffed! Have earmarked an excessively large piece of Christmas cake for later as a celebration.

You are right to be chuffed! It feels fantastic when they show you a tiny chink of light at the end of the long, dark tunnel!

DS has had 3 good nights (from 12/1sh til 6) in the last week. I'm hoping this will continue but I expect something like a tooth will come along soon to bugger it all up.

Wow, good going Button!

We had a slightly better night than the night before. We gave the little man a little bit of baby cereal as I was curious as to what he'd make of it. Horrible stuff... But he didn't seem to hate it. I do think BLW is our way though, so will steam/roast up some carrot and sweet potato in a few weeks - not sure he's quite ready yet as when we pop him in his highchair he leans forward onto the tray - don't know if that means he's not quite upright enough yet.

We've just had a nap battle. I really want to get into the habit of putting him down for naps but he isn't particularly keen. Took him up after he started rubbing eyes at about 9.30, rocked him a bit, put him down, he stays there for a bit, then cries. Take him out. Repeat until I feed him a little more so he's nice and drowsy, rock him a little, put him down. Cries. Pat him, shh him. Cries more. Pick him up, rock him till drowsy. Put him down, cries, flapping arms and legs. By now it's 10.15am, we've been at this longer than he is likely to nap!

Last resort, popped him in his Woombie, rocked till drowsy, popped in cot. Pat and shh. He sleeps :) Yay! (for now)

Can't leave the room to actually do stuff though, as there are currently 2 cats on our bed. Bit of forward thinking required I think - it's sort of defeating the object if I am still sitting here while he sleeps!

Jen We are trying to make that decision now, as we've only just decided what we are going to aim for work-wise. Ideally one of us would be a SAHP but we want to save a deposit for a house of our own and can't do that on one income. Currently living with my dad, as the rent on our house went up astronomically. It is great as it's saving us rent costs and bills, allowing us to save more, but we do miss having our own space :)

So the plan is to see a few nurseries, meet a few childminders and then decide what we like and pray they have space! My dad is going to look after him some days though.

Aaaand he's awake. 30 minutes on the dot.

At least I can go eat something.

Happy New Year! Hope you are all well. We've had an up and down time recently, some amazing days where I think "this is easy"'and others where I don't know how I'll stay awake for the whole day. Over Xmas we worked on getting DS into a bedtime routine which has at least meant that we can put him down at night and DH and i get some time together. He's still waking at least 5 times overnight though (and that's a good night!)

Naps are another issue all together. He will sleep for about 30 mins on his own or about 1-2hrs on my lap.

I'm also struggling trying to fit in regular mealtimes now we're weaning (he's 29 weeks now - mat leave over halfway through). I manage breakfast and his first nap of the day but after that it's a bit random. Today he's slept from 1pm - 3.30 (wow) and we've totally missed lunch. Argh.

Still I suppose it doesn't matter too much if we miss meals at the moment.

It sounds like the rest of you are all having as much fun. I'm off to look at nurserys next week and need to think about returning to work. Time goes so quickly!

Naps... I struggle with should I put him down and only get 30 mins, and then have a tired narky baby, or do I get pinned to the sofa but get a more likely 1-2 hours. It's really tricky! I usually end up going for the latter so he's not so moody as once he's napped at all he won't go back to sleep for at least 2 hours and I can't deal with his grumpiness all the time. I probably should persist with putting him down more often though, as ultimately that's what I'd like to happen.

What do you guys usually do?

Anyone seen mampig since xmas? I may have just missed her in my scrolling of course!

Re naps, if she's not too tired I let her nap on me for her normal 30mins. If she's overtired (or I am!) I take her upstairs and feed her back to sleep when she wakes up after her 30mins to normally get an hours nap. If she's on the bed I can normally slip away if I dont want a nap as well.

If I put her down alone she doesnt sleep.

Not sure if that helps?

I have a question for you lot as well. My DD has never gone to other people - only me and DP, and grandparents at the end of a 2 day visit - takes her that long to trust them. But now she even cries if I leave her with DP for too long - aka more than 10mins!
It's getting ridiculous.

Anyone else have this, or any suggestions? I get NO time away from her - at night I am trapped upstairs as she wakes as soon as I try to sneak back downstairs even...

She's 6 months

Ugh, naps... Time was it that if I held DS, he'd sleep for a good hour or two. Now he never naps anywhere for more than half an hour. Oh, unless we're in the car on the motorway.

I would somedays give anything to just have a little quiet time during the day, while baby sleeps.

Morning ladies!

We're ok here, since we moved DS into his own room a week ago he's gone from waking 2 or 3 times a night instead of 7-8 and only wanting to feed once or twice, we even had a night where he slept for 10.5 hours straight! My boobs were at bursting point so I ended up picking him up really gently and feeding him in his sleep

He's been really grouchy during the day though, and shouts at me unless I'm playing with him all the time. It doesn't help that the weather has been crap so we've been stuck inside, it's much less windy today though so I'm going to try and take him out in the sling later.

Wow, spanner that's amazing!! We're you co sleeping before you moved him to his own room?

I've got the same problem with the constant entertainment thing, have done for a couple of days. This morning we went out with the sling to a local country park and had a lovely walk and he's SO much happier! I love the sling for walks like that, never have able to take the pushchair where we went!

Tickle, I too soooo wish for a few mins to myself in the day. It would make such a big difference. I'm having to settle for 15 mins while he's in the jumperoo just now!

Oh and LWL, DS doesn't really want anyone but me either... I find it utterly exhausting. No advice I'm afraid but lots of sympathy.

Hi everyone. I have been recommended this thread on another one I started about my DS. He's only 2 weeks old and I know they are all tricky at this age but my DD (5yrs) was also the same so I am recognising a lot of the traits. DD hated carseat, pushchair, bouncer chair, anything other than being rocked and jiggled in my arms until she could walk! It was such hard work, hence the 5 yr age gap til we dared try for another baby. Lo and behold, 2 weeks in and I am feeling the same anxiousness and dread about each day. DS needs to be held all the time. Can not sleep, really struggles to drift off. Feeds constantly (normal for a newborn though) but I have to hold him ALL night just to get any sleep. I am shattered already and the thought of the 1-2 years of SUCH hard work again is just making want to weap. I o wanted it to be different this time. DD was such hard work I thought I'd kind of earned an angel baby this time round! No such luck. Anyway just wanted to introduce myself and say that I know exactly how you all feel. The loneliness and isolation of it all is so depressing and exhausting. I totally relate to the being in a bubble where i almost seems normal until you receive from people with 'normal' babies! Ohhhh I can't believe I am starting right from the very beginning again. I should add that dd since turning 3 has been a delight (usually!). She sleeps 12 hours in her own room and very chatty and clever. Very reasonable and agreeable compared to some of her classmates so she seems to have turned out OK! It's just so disheartening for me to realise it's all happening again.

Man, this is getting embarassing... 10-5 last night. I did have to get up a couple of times to tuck him in tighter but that was it. I'm wondering if it's time to start thinking about moving him out of our room and into ds 1's room as that's where his as yet unused cot is. Theree's only two problems with that - I'm not sure whether him waking at 5 would disturb ds1 (not a good thing) and it's up another flight of stairs from our room so I want to be really sure that it will work before I do it. Three nights of good sleep doesn't warrant it yet I think so I'll probably leave it until he's done two weeks or more of more or less unbroken nights.

And now that I've said enough to curse his sleeping for life, I'm off