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High need baby support thread

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LittleWaveyLines · 16/11/2011 14:21

Does this sound like your baby?

  1. Feeds frequently daytime
  2. Feeds frequently nighttime
  3. Needs to be constantly held
  4. Wont sleep alone
  5. Hates the car seat/pram
  6. Short naps

If so - join the club! :)

OP posts:
TitaniaP · 01/12/2011 10:21

Thanks for the redbull. Can't stand the stuff - but it's very useful all the same!

Mampig I think we have the same here. Cold and chesty cough. He's warm but with no temperature. Hoping for a quiet day in front of the tv with him feeding and dozing. Not sure I'll get it though.

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 01/12/2011 10:50

Well, that was a disaster. He woke me up every hour from 10pm for a feed, was wide awake from 3am-5am and then every hour for a feed until 8am, when I handed him over to mil and went back to bed.

In a variation from the usual mumsnet stories, can I therefore say 'thank god for mils'? She kept him calm for two and a half hours before returning him to me for a feed, he's now napping and we're supping Brew and sharing stories about DP Grin

Well done queen. Are you drunk on sleep now?!

tickleme63 · 01/12/2011 10:56

Ta for that Queen :)

Wish I could have a non-virtual one though, boo!

Last night DS settled with swaddle and dummy at 7pm and didn't stir till 10, fed and woke again at 12 for a feed and change after an almighty stealth poo, woke again at 3am for a feed and then again at 5am and up at 7 with the hiccups...

Off to the GP now, yikes... Will hopefully get something to stop the little man itching his legs and head at the very least. Then on to mothercare to get more sleepsuits with closed in hands. Little monkey keeps taking his mitts off inside his swaddle at night...

Have a good day ladies!

Mampig · 01/12/2011 11:16

Hope you get on ok at GP!! Let us know x

tickleme63 · 01/12/2011 12:47

It went well, DS was good as gold once he had got used to the doctor's face. I've got an appointment with a counsellor in a couple of weeks, and a whacking great form to fill in. And a blood test shudder

Still feel a bit like I'm wasting their time, but I'm glad to have spoken to someone. He was really nice about it.

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 01/12/2011 12:47

Good luck tickle x

fraktious · 01/12/2011 12:51

stop is he big enough for an ergo back carry?

Awful night just before DH's big exercise and my handing back papers to students.

Am now stressing about him sleeping as opposed to not sleeping CID he whacked his head on a chair Sad

JeewizzJen · 01/12/2011 13:05

That's great tickle! Of course you're not wasting their time! Its better to do this now and potentially find you don't need it than to leave it until you're totally desperate and on the edge. :)

Thanks for the comments, suggestions and support on my journey into getting DS onto the bed. As ever it's so useful to hear other's experiences!

On a more whingey note, my MIL, who I generally have no problem with, has a habit of turning up to visit unannounced, which I have mentioned to her before as sometimes being inconvenient as inevitably she appears just as I've got DS off to sleep on my lap and I then end up waking him to get up to answer the door. So, that happened just now, again Angry it had taken me 45 mins to get him off and he was asleep 15 mins before she arrived. Why not just not answer the door,you may ask? Well, last time I did that she virtually sent out a search party as she was worried (why? I didn't know she was coming, nor had I said I'd be in), getting FIL and SIL to look out for my return and contact her. She didn't bother trying to text or call me herself though! Hmm.

I asked again today whether she would just text before she comes so I can tell her if it's not convenient. Hopefully she'll actually do so next time! Of course, she left me with an overtired screaming DS ..

She is really nice, and I shouldn't moan, but that just does my head in!!

stopgap · 02/12/2011 03:34

Fraktious, he's 26-inches long. Any idea whether that's okay/too small? He's got great head control, so that's not a concern.

We actually ended up taking him to the paed today, after last week's diarrhea returned full force, only now it's dark green, and he pretty much screamed full pelt yesterday evening and today (minus bath time, and our trip to the park in the carrier, when he cooed at the birds). I am starting an elimination diet tomorrow, and we're also doing ranitidine now. Feeling pretty powerless at the mo :(

singarainbow · 02/12/2011 04:04

Hi
Just popped in to say I have ben reading the thread, and wish there was the same support when my high needs DD (now 8) was born! We struggled with her and the constant judgements and helpful suggestions throughout her "babyhood". We were lucky that she did sleep at night. If she hadn't I doubt we would've coped.
The following 2 children we had were a walk in the park comparatively!!

JeewizzJen · 02/12/2011 06:14

Morning folks, was very quiet on here yesterday evening....hope that's a good sign!

Hi Rainbow . What's your DD like now? Is she still quite high needs, or has that settled down? Is she very independent and confident?

We has a better night; DS fed a lot but it was fairly unobtrusive. I only had to get out of bed once as he was crying, the rest of the time stroking his back or feeding him sufficed. The bad part was him yet again being woken by needing a poo at 4am and subsequently being totally awake. Does anyone have any suggestions for that? I'm guessing there's not much I can do to influence his digestive processes!

When it was 5am that it happened I just got up for the day, but 4 just seems crazy (although I did get up this morning) . Thing is so far when I've tried to get him back to sleep it just means me pacing about for an hour and a half or so, for him only to sleep for 15 mins once he goes off! If I get up and do stuff with him at least after a couple of hours he's tired enough for a decent nap! I don't know if this just encourages the waking up in the first place

I'm hoping his poo time will eventually readjust in the right direction ...

Queenkong · 02/12/2011 07:32

Woo hoo! Another good night here - just woke at 12 and 3. Or would have done if DH hadn't decided to load the dishwasher very loudly at 10:30, which also woke him and me briefly. Guess I shouldn't really complain about him trying to help though!

Not sure whether it's linked but he's just had his first two days of solids so maybe that's helping him to sleep. Or probably we'll have an awful night tonight and I'll find out he was just teasing me!

TitaniaP · 02/12/2011 08:26

Awful night here but think its all cold related! Hoping DS will go down for a nap soon!

singarainbow · 02/12/2011 08:30

Jeewizzjen do you really want to know?
She is still very high needs, super anxious about everything and very highly strung! She cant be cuddled, reassured, but not independant. I am hoping that maybe after the next 8 years she will better able to cope with life!

tickleme63 · 02/12/2011 09:07

Not bad here either, although I can't quite remember how many feeds he had. I have a sneaking suspicion that he is slowing down on the feeding front during the day, rather than at night, and he won't tolerate being fed more during the day. Hoping I'm wrong..

He took his bottle beautifully again yesterday, can't believe it. Beyond pleased that it isn't stressing him out - thanks to my ultra forceful letdown it seems to be much more peaceful for him with the bottle - but between that and the dummy, me and the ladies are a little worried that our services will no longer be required! He refused to feed to sleep last night for the first time. I know that could be a good thing, but a mad part of me loves doing that, as it's about as serene as breastfeeding gets for me.

He's just fed to sleep for a little snooze now though, so that's good.

So happy it's Friday! :) Love the weekends as DH is around Grin

TitaniaP · 02/12/2011 09:34

Tickleme - know what you mean about weekends. It's so nice to have adult company ( and a bit of a break). Still we've got to go to a christening on Sunday in the implement of torture known as a car seat! What's the betting I'll be at the back of a cold church with my boobs out?

So glad your LO took a bottle tickle.

Due to DS' rubbish weight gain we've been topping him up with formula (I'm worse than useless at expressing). Last night he refused his top up which is the first time that's happened. It's probably due to his streaming cold but I was quite happy about that.

I'm going to attempt Christmas shopping today. Argh!

Mampig · 02/12/2011 10:11

I am demented!!Angry spent last night and this morning with hn baby with bad cold, and return of headliceAngryAngry. Can't go to my work do tonight as I also am getting treated. Not too annoyed about that, but yet again this week I have a mountain of washing to do, bedding etc. I'm so flipping stressed with this all. Plus out a fortune on treatments, combs and new pillows and beddingAngry. So I have all 4 kids at home and all this extra work, and ds wud need to see gp at this stage as his cough is so bad. Sad
Just feel like screaming!!!

TitaniaP · 02/12/2011 10:49

Un-mumsnet hugs for you Mampig.

tickleme63 · 02/12/2011 10:52

Mampig

Hope your day gets better, lovely.

Mampig · 02/12/2011 11:09

Very grateful gals!! Right- PMA from now on!!!!

TitaniaP · 02/12/2011 13:24

PMA - good plan. I hate headlice. I have longish thick curly hair - nightmare to try to get a nit comb through. Wishing you a nit-free home soon.

Well poorly boy sounds like he's on 20-a-day with his cough so we're off to the docs this afternoon.

He's done nothing but feed-sleep-cough all morning and I'm covered in snot. How much snot can a small baby contain?

fraktious · 02/12/2011 13:55

Sorry for smug post but 4, yes, 4 car journeys today - half an hour, 10 mins, 40 mins and 20 mins. No screaming AT ALL! 1 whimperfest in a traffic jam. 1 hour in the pram no problems.

Crap night last night and DH out for the evening though so this one will probably be a shocker but OMG we're mobile!

Mampig · 02/12/2011 14:35

That's fab Frak!!
Titiana- very similar here! My hair long thick and curlyAngry. Ds also heading to doc this afternoon. Also covered in snot!!! Joys of motherhood!!!

bell31 · 02/12/2011 14:53

Hi
I have a hn baby. He only sleeps in the sling in the day. I actually prefer using public transport than using the car. He is currently going through 4 month sleep regression.
I'm exhausted!

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 02/12/2011 15:03

Hi Bell. I'm a newcomer to the thread too, but welcome Grin

Mam, have a Brew and the obligatory arm punch.

I went to bed feeling a little smug as we only had five mins screaming before DS fell asleep last night, then the smugness gradually faded away as he woke me again, and again, and again for food.

I'm just about to prise him from his nana and try to put him down for a nap.

Bell, what's the four month regression? Just wondering if DS could have that? He's been a terrible sleeper from the beginning though!

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