High need baby support thread

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Does this sound like your baby?

1. Feeds frequently daytime
2. Feeds frequently nighttime
3. Needs to be constantly held
4. Wont sleep alone
5. Hates the car seat/pram
6. Short naps

If so - join the club! :)

GOT to go to bed so last post!!

wavy gosh yes, and he's at nursery 2 days a week and loves it. It's the night times that are a problem without me (or rather boobs).

I can't tell you how different it is now from when he was small. He's bright, funny, into EVERYTHING to the point that it's always commented on as unusually so, and the house has to be triplely toddler-proofed. He is still difficult to get to sleep, doesn't nap well during the day and wakes at night a lot but goes straight back to sleep as long as he's snuggled next to us and has boobs. From being an absolute velcro baby he's now the kind that buggers off without a look-back.

There is light at the end of the tunnel :) And he's SO much fun. Frickin' dangerous in the park though as he thinks the big-boy climbing frames and slides are absolutely fair game. He'll scoot up a big 7 foot high slide ladder and throw himself down head first screaming with laughter if I turn my head.

mampig I know of NO links with HN and ADHD whatsoever. :)

thank u Carrot- enjoy your conference!

Titania - it's the autumn walk one, just so happened the only one on eBay would probably have been the one I'd have picked if buying new!

Well, despite being up at 5.30 as usual, we actually had a fantastic night and I feel very refreshed. He only woke twice after 8pm! (That I remember anyway, sometimes it's a bit of a haze!) I think I must be right though as my boobs are really full so he can't have fed much. How was everyone's night?

I must say again how brilliant this thread is, it's amazing to be able to discuss everything with people who understand!

Wow, for the third morning in a row, DS has woken at 7. Not sure what is going on, but I'm not complaining given that he was rising at 4:30 a few weeks ago. How life changes, 7am now feels like a lie-in!

Went to a NCT lunch yesterday. All the babies were so good, apart from Fang obvs. They just sat there, all quiet and sweet in their mums' arms. Two of them even dropped off to sleep like that. Fang, on the other hand, spent the whole lunch wriggling, trying to stand, grabbing stuff off the table, hollering at my boobs occasionally (does anyone else's do this? It's very obvious and embarrassing) and generally causing mahem. Plus they are all sleeping through, I'm the only one who still looks like a zombie.

Ha ha - I have actually started lying now about the sleeping! Cant be bothered with all the --stupid- advice esp on cio!!! Although my bloodshot eyes prob tell a tale!!! Clockwork 2 hrly for us last night , but i got him down at 7.30 (a first) and while he woke to feed he went straight back over . I took him took our room, bath, feed, rocking and bed. I waited till he was asleep though but he went down ok. Tonight I'll do the same, before gradually moving to putting him down half asleep etc (no cry).

My ds shouts and bangs my boobs when we are out , and then he's a noisy bugger when feeding!! "Look at me everyone!!!"

Yay Mampig, good for you and the piglet! It's definitely progress.

DS now goes down around 7ish, and some nights I can even sneak away and have an hour or so downstairs. It's rare when it happens but it's bliss to have a little break. Except that after an hour I start getting suspicious that he hasn't woken, so leg it up the stairs to check he is still breathing. Which invariably wakes him up. I am my own worst enemy!

Queenkong - I do exactly the same!

Well it seems like most people had a good night

I had 2 hourly clockwork wake ups until 5 then it was half hourly so am a little tired, but was asleep from just after 10 so not feeling too bad.

Right do I drive to the breastfeeding support group (about 15mins) while ignoring my crying child in the car seat and feeling guilty about her not crying in arms and worrying about her cortisol levels, or do I stay at home and get grumpy?

That's great Mampig! Long may it continue!

Know what you mean about 7am being a lie in Queenkong! DS has managed it twice in the past couple of months and it was bliss! Here's hoping it becomes more of a habit for both of us.

I'm going to attempt leaving DS to go to bed with DP for the first time tonight, so I can go out and watch my netball team play. God knows how that will go, but I won't be far and shouldn't be more than an hourish. I'll be feeding him first so really he shouldn't need me again for a couple of hours. I hope!

Go go go. You need to get out or you'll feel dreadful. I'm sure 15 minutes isn't enough to do any lasting damage. Any fav toys you can shove in the back? This distracts DS for 5 minutes.

LWL, sometimes we have to get out for our own sanity I think! 15 mins is fairly short and you'll be giving DD lots if cuddles on arrival. You should definitely go

Ooh are you a fellow netballer Jen? I play too. Or did! When are you thinking of going back? I thought I'd be playing again by now but mr high needs has other ideas.

LWL- can u switch your front airbag off? I drive with him in front and am thinking that's why we have no problems? He's only ever been in the back when my other dcs are with him and he's ok with that too. One time he has been in back with no one else and he wrecked it. He stares at me constantly when I'm driving, it's adorable!

I soooo miss netball. I thought I'd be back in September :-( but like you, I've got no chance yet. With practice being at 7 there's no way while I'm still breastfeeding. The match tonight is at 8.15 so I can hopefully sneak out!

Yeah, I miss it too. Had thought about taking him with me. I wonder if the sight of me BF at halftime would put the opposition off?!

Mampig - no I don't think so... Anyway we went - she was whingy on the way there and crying on the way back but no screaming

Morning folks, how are we all?

Wish me luck please, I'll soon be leaving for my two hour each way journey today.

Dreading the rush hour Friday traffic on the way home too, stopping in traffic isn't popular with DS. (Nor me, although I tend to scream less about it!)

Good luck!! Maybe take some ear plugs??

We had the makings of a brill night: bed at 7.30 , stirred at 9.30 but dh went up and put dummy in. Back over till.... 11.30. Fed, straight to sleep. Then fed at 3.30!!. But wee mite was up at 5 for an hour with snuffles. Got him cleared, fed to sleep. Had to waken him there now to get the others out to school!! So we would have had a great night only for the snuffles. Still, feeling good and ds still snuffly, but I can cope with that! Hows everyone else?

How old are your DCs Mampig? DP and I would like a small gap between our kids bit I don't know whether that's just crazy talk!

Good Luck Jeewizz!

And Mampig - wow! I am so jealous.... we had an ok night but she fed an awful lot. Can't tell you the times but at points it seemed to be half-hourly... I am now ignoring her rolling nappy-less on a rug just to have a break!

Small gap is good. My ds1 is 7 in oct past, dd1 was 5 in June, dd2 was 2 in July, and ds2 born in June. The 3 year gap between dds wasn't intentional- I had 2 mcs in that time. I was stopping with 3 but got a happy surprise when I found out that ds2 was on the way. Wouldn't change it for the world!

Good luck Jeewizz! And not a bad night at all Mam! Hope your little one's snuffles clear up soon.

Best night we've had here in a week or so - settled DS at 7.30 with him arms swaddled and dummy in (can't believe he's finally taken to one 4 months in, it soothes him so much so although I never wanted him to have one in my ideal world, it seems to help settle him and I need that right now) and he slept till 10pm, fed, then woke at 12.45, 3ish and woke up at 5, when we brought him into our bed where he slept on Hubby till 6ish.

I've decided that it might be time I visited the GP for a little talk, as I've been feeling so low. Truth be told, I've not really felt myself in a while. Perhaps it's just the sleep deprivation, but I spent a lot of yesterday in tears. I just can't see any light at the end if the tunnel, and it's not fair for my boy to be subject to my sadness/frustration - I'm so fed up with feeling like this, but my biggest fear is that this is just me and I'm stuck like it! :( Ugh, never expected to feel so supremely shit during the first four months of my darling's life.

tickle- really sorry u are feeling shit. It's a good idea to see gp. Good news is that your mothering isn't suffering and you still feel love for your lo. If it is post natal dep, you will get through it, I promise (I work in mental health). Gp may or may not prescribe medication, but personally if this is your first visit about this, I would ask to be referred for counseling first. As a post natal mum, you would be seen urgently ( within 2 weeks in my health trust) and talking things thru and developing a therapeutic action plan can really help! Medication may have it's place eventually ( if you don't start to feel better after a set time period) and if it does, that's fine- just be sure to get one that is bf friendly- gp can contact a consultant psychiatrist to make sure. So you have taken your first step to recovery already- seeing gp- let me know how u get on x

Oh tickleme, so sorry to hear you feel so sad. I get waves of this every now and again but it usually passes. You're doing the right thing in speaking to your GP, and a fantastic job with baby tickle it sounds. He is lucky to have such a caring, loving, sensible mummy who knows how important it is to get help. Hugs to you.

In other news, Fang is Fang no more. After a supremely whingey night, his one tooth now has company!

Queen!! How's bf with teeth??!!